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How to detect PMS

dckim
dckim Posts: 311 Member
edited October 2024 in Chit-Chat
Seriously, I have a hard time noticing when a woman is going through a PMS. All I notice is a sudden mood change and often I have to put my foot in my mouth. One day she is bubbly, next time she is an evil witch. Any advises? :frown:
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  • sarah44254
    sarah44254 Posts: 3,078 Member
    It is even hard for me to detect my own symptoms. The mood changes surprise me just as much as they surprise my close friends/family.
  • Johnnyswife
    Johnnyswife Posts: 1,447 Member
    Build a underground shelter, stock it with food, a tv, radio, bathroom, ect, and wait 5 to 7 days. :laugh:
  • RainyDayKelli
    RainyDayKelli Posts: 85 Member
    haha, I would suggest not calling us evil witches.
  • leilani♥
    leilani♥ Posts: 579
    Buy her chocolate when you see the evil come out.

    Wash the dishes.

    Give her a massage.

    Don't speak unless spoken to.

    :cheers:
  • kleavitt1992
    kleavitt1992 Posts: 592 Member
    i agree with sarah we just cant help it lol usually i feel happy then im not within 30secs so not much of a warning i can give to people
  • megz4987
    megz4987 Posts: 1,008 Member
    Keep track of her periods? That's really the only way you're going to know, haha.
  • sarah44254
    sarah44254 Posts: 3,078 Member
    Buy her chocolate when you see the evil come out.

    Wash the dishes.

    Give her a massage.

    Don't speak unless spoken to.

    :cheers:

    I don't know about that speaking one. I get sad when my guy stops talking!
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    take her shopping or just give her your Platunum card. I keed!
  • cramernh
    cramernh Posts: 3,335 Member
    Honestly... its mood swings, aches/pains, some get significantly fatigued, while others are agitated... women's PMS symptoms vary... and they can change month-to-month.

    Just try to be understanding, and also honest..... I know for me, if I feel agitated, I keep myself quiet so it doesnt get projected onto my husband. Ill let him know that its getting bad as Im about to 'start', and he is actually very compassionate to let me curl up into a ball, under a blanket, he gives me the hot water bottle, and his arm around me.... he knows that when Im quiet, its because Im trying to relax.. and he helps... I do my very best to control the agitatedness.... but if it slips, Im the first person to apologize and will go lay down for awhile... he lets me sleep as long as I need, and still offers his arm to hold me...
  • PatientBearTiger
    PatientBearTiger Posts: 475
    Never trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn't die.






    *ducks and shields himself from all the stuff the angry mob of women is throwing at him*
  • MrsFarrow
    MrsFarrow Posts: 326 Member
    Honestly? To be 100% completely honest? If you realize she's being bratty and snotty? Don't freak out on her, don't get an attitude back. I don't know about anyone else, but for me, I can feel myself succumbing to the nasty, but it's like a car wreck. I see it coming, but I can't look away, I can't stop it for some reason. I feel horrible after I snap. The best thing for a guy to do? Be comforting, understanding. As her if she needs anything, a heating pad, some nice Dove dark chocolate or better yet, chocolate covered pretzels to get the sweet and salty craving out! Water water water, tylenol, midol maybe? Just be understanding.
  • sarah44254
    sarah44254 Posts: 3,078 Member
    I react a lot like cramernh does. I try to keep my negative opinions and 'lashing out' to a minimum, and definitely apologize once I realize what has happened.

    I get quiet and strange as well. I will mention it to my guy and we make jokes and I feel decently most of the time.

    One thing though, my dad used to ask 'is it your time?' and for some reason that would always piss me off. Even if I wasn't having PMS at the time. Don't know why but I did not like hearing that sentence!
  • justsummie
    justsummie Posts: 320 Member
    Keep track of her periods? That's really the only way you're going to know, haha.
    Yep, the only way.
  • Artemis_Acorn
    Artemis_Acorn Posts: 836 Member
    If she complains about feeling fat / bloated, if she gets irritated at minor things (that she normally wouldn't) if she is eating everything in sight or craving chocolate / sweets, has a sudden onset of headache, starts to cry over something silly, seems particularly cranky or has an unusually ruddy or blemished complexion, there is a high possibility that she has PMS. The more of these symptoms that occur together, the higher the odds.
  • babygurl48
    babygurl48 Posts: 1,237 Member
    Build a underground shelter, stock it with food, a tv, radio, bathroom, ect, and wait 5 to 7 days. :laugh:
    :laugh:
  • babygurl48
    babygurl48 Posts: 1,237 Member
    Never trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn't die.



    *ducks and shields himself from all the stuff the angry mob of women is throwing at him*

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Never trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn't die.






    *ducks and shields himself from all the stuff the angry mob of women is throwing at him*

    fighting0029.gif

    keep track and have the chocolate on hand my friend
  • idiocracy
    idiocracy Posts: 275 Member
    Your "non-witch" period is very short to enjoy. Witches come out 2 weeks before TOM and linger until almost tom is over...so that's about 3 weeks. Just be prepared and understand that IT IS NOT HER FAULT, nor her choice. The chemical imbalance makes all this happen. Try to agree to everything and ignore the mood swings and stay away as much as possible :). I have problems finding out when my "inner witch" comes out, but my bf always knows!!! ALWAYS! Poor guy! I would not suggest massage and everything else, because no matter what you try, she may find reasons to fight you. It happens to me, no matter what he does, I have an attitude towards him and misinterpret his good intentions. And it's bad for the man, but even worse for the woman, she has all these bottled up negative feelings inside and she knows it and doesn't want it and doesn't know how to control it...it's hard, she doesn't like it anymore than you do.
  • k2quiere
    k2quiere Posts: 4,151 Member
    Never trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn't die.






    *ducks and shields himself from all the stuff the angry mob of women is throwing at him*

    LOL...it's amazing that every guy I've ever heard say this sure does like to get his licks in the other 3-4 weeks of the month...hmmm
  • catshark209
    catshark209 Posts: 1,133 Member
    I'd track that shizz. I give 7 days warning to the men in my life. My poor ex husband just knows from the tone of my voice lol. I'm not terrible, I just get very clumsy and overwhelmed. Though they probably cower in fear...but I don't think I'm that bad:ohwell:
  • Alacey88
    Alacey88 Posts: 486 Member
    Keep track of her periods? That's really the only way you're going to know, haha.
    Yep, the only way.

    It happens around the same time every month.... just a mental note or put on the calender or even your phone... just be understanding and supportive.
  • Ebbsies
    Ebbsies Posts: 94
    Keep track of her periods? That's really the only way you're going to know, haha.
    Yep, the only way.

    It happens around the same time every month.... just a mental note or put on the calender or even your phone... just be understanding and supportive.

    LOL, They have apps for that. :) I use it for mine. I have PMDD, which is severe PMS 10 days prior to my period, once I get my period back to normal in terms of mood. But yeah, ovulation apps ftw, bahahah.
  • MrsFarrow
    MrsFarrow Posts: 326 Member
    Ugh, and definitely NEVER ask if it's "your time of the month" or ANY derivative of the question. That will just infuriate most females :)
  • deenaspell
    deenaspell Posts: 227 Member
    YEP
    Buy her chocolate when you see the evil come out.

    Wash the dishes.

    Give her a massage.

    Don't speak unless spoken to.

    :cheers:
  • Izable2011
    Izable2011 Posts: 755 Member
    We don't even know so good luck! lol :laugh:
  • beckylou66
    beckylou66 Posts: 103 Member
    I just read the other day that a glass or 2 (not a bottle) of red wine actually helps with all aspects of PMS. So maybe just keep a bottle of red wine and a little piece of dark chocolate handy. I always love it when my guy brings me a glass of wine and he has one with me..... chocolate could only make it better.

    Good luck
  • idiocracy
    idiocracy Posts: 275 Member
    Buy her chocolate when you see the evil come out.

    Wash the dishes.

    Give her a massage.

    Don't speak unless spoken to.

    :cheers:

    I disagree, here's why:
    "Buy her chocolate" - Are you trying to make me fat? What is wrong with you? Don't you think I had enough?
    "Wash the dishes" - You left a spot! Now I have to wash them all over again? And who taught you how to stack dishes? And look at the mess you did!!!
    "Give her a massage" - You're hurting me! Are you trying to get me in the mood? I don't feel like ^&&%%&**(. Get your hands off me!
    "Don't speak unless spoken to" - Why are you so quiet? What did I do now?

    ...and I can go on and on and on and on....I know because that's what I do :)))))
  • brittanyjeanxo
    brittanyjeanxo Posts: 1,831 Member
    Haha, great question. I personally warn Nick when I'm PMSing so he knows ahead of time. Can you ask her to do that, or would it offend her?
    ETA: I disagree with some of the women saying we can't control how we act. Unless you have PMDD or some other medical condition like that, you can control what you say. We cannot control the mood swings, no, but we can control what we say, or at least are able to recognize when we've overreacted or said something we shouldn't have said. I know I do.
    And try to pay attention to how she is. Is she unpredictable, or is she overly sensitive? Does she cry about everything, or get mad over little things? These things can help in figuring out what to avoid.
  • _beachgirl_
    _beachgirl_ Posts: 3,865 Member
    I am surprised you are still alive after that question.

    Admitting you are wrong no matter what you do will get you very far. If on Tuesday it was okay to bring her chocolate and she thanked you for being thoughtful, but Thursday she tells you that you are trying to make her fat by bringing her chocolate, she is right, you are wrong. You are a bad husband. Just go with it.

    Just stay on your toes, and pray that it will be a quick cycle and be happy she isn't in menopause.
  • Enforcer25
    Enforcer25 Posts: 350 Member
    I like to keep chocolate nearby and always have an escape plan for a quick bailout, the kids and I have a plan so we can be out in under 30 seconds, even the dog knows when it's time to get out of dodge. You should use the chocolate as distraction and then move, one time my son didn't hear me and was left, he won't make that mistake again.


    In all seriousness, my wife is great about letting us know when she is having a bad day, so we giver her her space and she is usually fine shortly after that. Thankfully she is not bad at all during that TOM. Good luck.
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