Have you ever told a white lie so you didn't have to go out

sallywilson06
sallywilson06 Posts: 269 Member
edited October 3 in Chit-Chat
I feel horrible but I kinda told one of my friends a little white lie "that I wasn't feeling quite well" so I didn't have to go out to Buffalo Wild Wings with her... I know it sounds childish, but I didn't want to hurt her feelings because I don't want to go off track and that place has no good options what so ever..

It's on the eat this/Not that website for almost all of the most fattening foods there are. I'd be better off having a tall Bud 55 select than trying to eat something off of their menu..

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  • liberaltendencies
    liberaltendencies Posts: 150 Member
    I do it alllllllllll the time. :)

    Or suggest a different place.
  • foremant86
    foremant86 Posts: 1,115 Member
    Nah, i enjoy my time out with my friends and can usually allow for it in my calorie budget

    Just last night I went to pizza hut with my brother, had pasta, and still had plenty of calories left over and dropped .6 pounds this morning.
  • jminette
    jminette Posts: 81
    No.
    I usually go and make it a cheat day or just get a diet soda.. It's never good for me, but I've worked it in.
  • jessashcher
    jessashcher Posts: 155
    I would just be honest with your friend, I'm sure she would understand, just let her know you would love to go out for dinner sometime as long as it was at a place where you could have some healthy choices. If this person is a true friend they will totally understand.
  • broken_star1134
    broken_star1134 Posts: 65 Member
    You could always eat something before you leave and just hang out...maybe have a diet soda or water. Or I would just be upfront with her on why you didn't want to go. Maybe suggest some other place to go to. Could have been a total oversight on her part and she hadn't realized you were on a diet or it just slipped her mind. Let her know and she can probably help support you on your journey!
  • Papa_Swearingen
    Papa_Swearingen Posts: 139 Member
    they have a grilled chicken sandwhich, while its around 500 cals, its probably the only thing on the menu that's decent.
  • MissMaryMac33
    MissMaryMac33 Posts: 1,433 Member
    If you can't suggest another place....they actually do have things you could order..

    1 naked tender (its just grilled chicken!)
    2. black and bleu burger -- you dont have to eat the bun (if you're watching carbs)
    3. side salad
    4. veggie boat
    5. chicken quesadilla -- (unless you're watching sodium/fat/carbs)

    I haven't found a restaurant yet that didn't have something worth eating...you just have to be creative.
  • egaal
    egaal Posts: 19
    This is purely up to you and how you feel, so don't feel guilty based on what people say here. In general, I'd advise against making a habit of declining invitations because eventually you'll miss your friends and will give in, and then you'll have all sorts of weird guilt feelings associated with having whatever food you've been trying to avoid, which can make it worse for the long term success of your diet. It's ok to have things that are not 100% healthy every so often. Just don't overindulge.

    Personally, I've tried not decline any invitations to go out purely just on food, especially if it's food I also like. So if there's a social event where there are going to be limited or no healthy options, I try to budget for it by eating less for breakfast/lunch and skipping snacks and maybe putting in an extra long workout that day. I'll also just try to eat less of whatever it is that is bad for me. So rather than not having any at all, I'll just try to eat slowly or only eat half of whatever portion I get. The boyfriend and I now regularly split entrees at restaurants. That way we can still have the delicious (and fattening) food, but we won't consume as much of it as before.

    I also try to limit these "cheating" style outings to only once or twice a week. It's nice to to do this because you feel less deprived and less like you're on a diet, and you usually still end up losing weight.
  • vaderandbill
    vaderandbill Posts: 1,063 Member
    If I know I'm going out I adjust my eating during the day, maybe do an extra 15 minutes at the gym. But I have used a "sick child" from going before.

    Personally, I like people that cancel plans with you and then post what they really did on their FB page! Priceless.
  • rodneyderrick
    rodneyderrick Posts: 483 Member
    She notices that you're losing weight, and she wants to do everything in her power to ensure you fail. There are people like this all over the place, even in our own families. "You know what? You're nothing like the person you use to be. You've become obsessed with that calorie counting stuff." That's what friends will tell you. They'll beat you with the left fist, and then with the right fist, until one day you simply stop logging. Don't regret the white lie you told to spare your friend's feelings, because nobody will give a crap about you when your tush doesn't fit in a stadium sized seat. Who's going to care about you when you're roaming through the halls of Walmart on your scooter at the age of forty? You're doing this calorie counting for you; and if you have to tell a little lie to stay on track, then so be it, because at least you're making the choice to be able to fit in more than just the red sweat pants from the thrift store.
  • voluptas63
    voluptas63 Posts: 602 Member
    She notices that you're losing weight, and she wants to do everything in her power to ensure you fail. There are people like this all over the place, even in our own families. "You know what? You're nothing like the person you use to be. You've become obsessed with that calorie counting stuff." That's what friends will tell you. They'll beat you with the left fist, and then with the right fist, until one day you simply stop logging. Don't regret the white lie you told to spare your friend's feelings, because nobody will give a crap about you when your tush doesn't fit in a stadium sized seat. Who's going to care about you when you're roaming through the halls of Walmart on your scooter at the age of forty? You're doing this calorie counting for you; and if you have to tell a little lie to stay on track, then so be it, because at least you're making the choice to be able to fit in more than just the red sweat pants from the thrift store.

    You're quite presumptious. She said NOTHING to this effect.
  • rodneyderrick
    rodneyderrick Posts: 483 Member
    She notices that you're losing weight, and she wants to do everything in her power to ensure you fail. There are people like this all over the place, even in our own families. "You know what? You're nothing like the person you use to be. You've become obsessed with that calorie counting stuff." That's what friends will tell you. They'll beat you with the left fist, and then with the right fist, until one day you simply stop logging. Don't regret the white lie you told to spare your friend's feelings, because nobody will give a crap about you when your tush doesn't fit in a stadium sized seat. Who's going to care about you when you're roaming through the halls of Walmart on your scooter at the age of forty? You're doing this calorie counting for you; and if you have to tell a little lie to stay on track, then so be it, because at least you're making the choice to be able to fit in more than just the red sweat pants from the thrift store.

    You're quite presumptious. She said NOTHING to this effect.

    I'm saying she shouldn't be angry about telling a white lie. She made an effort to spare her friend's feelings, and there isn't anything wrong with that.
  • sallywilson06
    sallywilson06 Posts: 269 Member
    Thanks for the advice.. I usually only have one cheat day per week and I usually limit what I eat when I do cheat. Mon-Fri I am hardcore on track. Saturdays I work for a restaurant where I am running my *kitten* off and I am so sick of the food there I just opt for a killer salad I can make there.. then Sunday is the day of rest for everything for me.

    My friend that I am speaking of does not have a MFP account and she is on the heavier side so when I mention that I don't want to go to a particular restaurant due to the options on the menu I feel like I slap her in the face by saying basically "Quit being a fatass" there's more to being friends than just eating out all the time.. I've suggested that her and I to go to a Zumba class together and in the end I just feel like I am putting her down more by suggesting healthier options
  • getskinnyk8
    getskinnyk8 Posts: 28
    I tell lies like this all the time. I, too, have friends that are trying to lose weight but not trying that hard...and when they suggest going to Bojangles I make an excuse about having a lot of work or something. Because if I say, "No, I'm trying to eat well," then yes, it's me being like, "You guys are being fat."

    Don't feel bad about it. If you don't want to do something, there's no reason to.
  • rodneyderrick
    rodneyderrick Posts: 483 Member
    Thanks for the advice.. I usually only have one cheat day per week and I usually limit what I eat when I do cheat. Mon-Fri I am hardcore on track. Saturdays I work for a restaurant where I am running my *kitten* off and I am so sick of the food there I just opt for a killer salad I can make there.. then Sunday is the day of rest for everything for me.

    My friend that I am speaking of does not have a MFP account and she is on the heavier side so when I mention that I don't want to go to a particular restaurant due to the options on the menu I feel like I slap her in the face by saying basically "Quit being a fatass" there's more to being friends than just eating out all the time.. I've suggested that her and I to go to a Zumba class together and in the end I just feel like I am putting her down more by suggesting healthier options

    How long have you been counting calories? It's important to try to balance diet, life, and exercise in such a way that you don't neglect your family and friends. You won't be able to eat out all the time, but MFP is a tool that you can take on the go. When you order food, you only need to eat about 1/4 of what they give you, and take the rest home. If you can find a balance, you'll be able to stay thin for life.
  • livnlite
    livnlite Posts: 520
    Depends on why you want to spend time together. Sometimes, friends just need a wingman (or woman) so it doesn't really matter if it's YOU they go out with or anyone of their other many friends and sometimes it 's because they just want to chill out with you in particular.

    If it's just to be company when any company would do .. I would prefer to say something to the effect that I just can't make it. If on the other hand, it's a close friend that just wants to chill with me particularily, I would suggest that we do something together like go for a walk and maybe stay in and watch a good chic flick and enjoy some awesome low cal snacks. Would make for a great evening just chilll'n with a friend.

    If however, they choose to still go out .. then I've offered .. they've declined .. All is guilt free.
  • glitterpiss
    glitterpiss Posts: 113
    I personally think its rude and I would just tell my friends the truth. I mean, are you really good friends if they can't handle a "hey I don't want to go out to eat, can we just hang out instead?"
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