I'm depressed. I'm having doubts again.

Everything in life will fall into place. Things take time but no worries. However when it comes to weight loss...if you do not do it for yourself it will never last. Good luck!

Your main reason to losing weight should be for yourself & your health.

Keep trekking, and you'll reach your goal. )

Everything in life will fall into place. Things take time but no worries. However when it comes to weight loss...if you do not do it for yourself it will never last. Good luck!

SO TRUE! God Bless you in ALL aspects!

You have to do this for yourself not anyone else. I started back into exercise as a release from my depression. I'm currently going through a divorce after 22 years of marriage. I'm doing this so I can feel better about myself and the hell with the rest of the world. I would tell you do this for yourself, when you start feeling better about yourself, other people will see it and the relationships will come. Good luck

I am doing it for myself as well. But she also had some part. It's like a house built on several foundations. I can hold myself up if I lose a few, but if I've only got one or two left, I dunno whether I can do it.

You can do it just continue to do focus just on each meal and each workout, take it day by day. Soon you will feel so good you will be able to get any girl you want. There are a lot of fish in the sea haha

yea like everyone else said. you can do it somewhat for her but, she might not be like me but i know as you get more mature you start to not care as much about appearince and more personality so if you are sweet and someone who would be a good partner, i know i dont care to much what the person looks like, i would go out with them so maybe you should just kinda see if she has any potential to be with you or if its just an appearince thing. hope that helps

don't let any woman get you in a funk. Get a job and get into a healthy routine (eating right and going to the gym), everything else will fall into place.

sounds like someone has his own problems with women..see you're not alone!

A few different things are weighing me down. I haven't got a job, am hoping to have one soon, but the facts that I still can't say that I do hurts. Another thing that hurts, is that there's a girl I wanna ask out, but I just don't feel like I deserve to ask her out. Plus, she hasn't been talking to me lately.

The two of us never really hung out, mostly only saw each other on special occasions. But I started upping the amount I was talking to her, now I don't get to talk to her at all. She's one of my reasons for wanting to do this. It's getting hard. My reasons for doing this are fading away and I can't stretch out my hands to grab them. I can only struggle after them and hope that I can reach them.

I am sure you have heard this before, but I am speaking from my own personal experience. You have to do this, and everything else for yourself. Bcuz it is important to you. Because you want to be healthier, stronger, and feel better about yourself. Each small goal that you attain for yourself will make you feel better about yourself and that will make you stronger and the cycle will repeat. And as you gain more self esteem the other things like finding a job and the girl of your dreams are more likely to fall into place. I know that I need to go job hunting atm since I would like to change careers but I dont feel confident enough to ace those job interviews. But I know it will come in time. So that just proves my point. You must do this for yourself. And give yourself credit for every goal accomplished and build up your self esteem. Do this for you, do everything that you do in your life for you. Bcuz people can come and go in your life. But if you decide what is important to YOU and you decide that nothing and no one is going to get in the way of YOUR dreams then you will get what you want. Wether it is weight loss, getting the job that you want, the house that you want the car that you want, the education that you want. And as you go on that journey hopefully you come across someone that wants to go on that journey with you. My suggestion is right now to be her friend. It is not that you dont deserve her, I dont want to ever hear you talking about yourself like that. But it is possible that right now you are not in a place with yourself to start a new relationship. You need to focus on you. Again these are just my opinions, speaking from my own personal experience.

don't let any woman get you in a funk. Get a job and get into a healthy routine (eating right and going to the gym), everything else will fall into place.

sounds like someone has his own problems with women..see you're not alone!

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I was unemployed for 7 months... so yeah, I know the crappy feeling of it. Life is one big rejection... and only sometimes do jobs even write back to tell you "no." Stings the self-worth, don't it?

However, one thing that kept me sane while unemployed was running. I started out pushing myself to do 3 miles. By the time I had a job, I was putting down an easy 10. It helps to push yourself to go that extra mile when all you have to come back to in an empty inbox.

Good luck on all counts.

YOU CAN DO IT!!! You have to remember that in life, there are some things you have NO control over. If you've searched for jobs and reached out to this girl and you aren't getting the desired response, there's really nothing you can do to change it, just press forward in your search and keep doing the right thing. But what you do have control over is how you let those things affect you. Letting go of your weight loss goals will only hinder you. You can use this time to get your mind off of things. Who knows, you might meet a better lady out at the gym one day :-) NEVER let how others act make you do things that are detrimental to yourself. Not continuing on this journey is not going to make anything better...you have to ask yourself...am I really going to let the actions of others affect how I treat myself????

At the end of the day, no one owes you anything...you owe it to yourself to do better! Let those negative reactions from others motivate you!!!

It's ok to get down once in a while just get right back up and do it for yourself. Your health is the most important thing and finding love will come. Don't listen to the guy who said "girls are ho's and tricks". There was great women and men out there and if you feel good about yourself you will get a job and find love.

Do this for yourself not for anyone else,YOU CAN DO ALL THINGS not some things ALL THINGS ,through Jesus Christ,who is our strength ,our strong tower our hope.

I understand what you mean...I've been there. There are a lot of good people on this site, most of us willing to help and motivate! Feel free to add me that goes for anyone else too!