LESS Alcohol ~ JANUARY 2025 ~ One Day at A Time

Do you want to drink LESS? Completely stop or just cut back?

Cutting back can mean ONE less drink a day, week or month. Or deciding to drink on only weekends or at special occasions.

On the flip side, maybe you could use this nudge to finally get to that completely sober point and be all in-alcohol free.

Join us in drinking LESS (whatever that means for you) as we continue to support and learn from each other.
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  • MissMay
    MissMay Posts: 3,793 Member
    ■ LESS ALCOHOL RESOURCE & GENERAL INFORMATION LIST ■

    USING THIS THREAD:
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    •Join us at any time.
    •Set your own goal - this thread is about drinking less and you decide what that means to you.
    •There are no scheduled check-ins - post as often or as little as you want or need.
    •AF is an acronym for Alcohol Free. For others commonly used on this site see - https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1069278/acronyms-and-terms-for-new-mfp-members-v-6/p1
    •To follow this thread easily, bookmark it by clicking on the star at the top right of this thread.
    •Remember that we are here for you and care about you. Check in with us when you have time and let us know what you need!

    TIPS & OBSERVATIONS FROM OUR USERS:
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    •Getting Started or Starting Over.
    •Some people find it easier to set small attainable goals at the beginning to help boost confidence.
    •If you have been drinking daily the first days will be some of the hardest and drinking again will feel like a cure but it delays the relief that only time can provide.
    •There will always be a reason to delay the start/restart of your journey.
    •For those ready to commit to being alcohol-free permanently, the videos on YouTube by Craig Beck will help. He also has a program you can join.
    •You may experience mood swings and anxiety during your first two weeks. It is suggested you try and focus on the benefits of your goal.
    •Cravings are said to last only 6 minutes, so find something to distract you like arming yourself with alternatives: tea, mock-tails, activities, etc.
    •You may find that filling the time you drink with other activities like exercise or hobbies can be a helpful distraction.
    •If you find them tempting try and avoid events/outings that will have drinking for a time.
    •Don't let pride or shame keep you from asking for the help you need.
    •Sometimes talking it out or posting your thoughts/feelings/struggles may help you work things out for yourself.
    •It is okay that you don't always have all the answers.
    •Some days will be easier than others.
    •You may have initial/increased sugar cravings.
    •You should never take a day that you have lived up to your goals for granted.
    •Celebrate the smaller victories too. Less alcohol is still less alcohol even if your goal was zero at that moment.
    •Once you begin sticking to your goals for one day to many days you should believe you are capable of the same and more because you are.
    •Failure is not giving in and drinking. Failure is to stop trying to accomplish your goals.
    •Annie Grace (This Naked Mind author) has a free program on her website (https://www.alcoholexperiment.com/) called the 30 day experiment which can be joined anonymously.

    Life with Less Alcohol:
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    •It can be helpful to educate yourself with books and web research (Some suggested books and links listed below).
    •There is no benefit to comparing yourself to others because this is a personal journey.
    •You may often feel conflicted. You will know that there are numerous real benefits to sticking to your goal while at the same time think that alcohol is an important part of stress relief, relaxation, celebration, etc.
    •You may feel punished by not drinking or drinking less but that feeling usually fades with time.
    •Sometimes drinking less or quitting will strain friendships that centered around alcohol.
    •Having a list of reasons to stick to your goals handy for yourself can be helpful. Some lists have included remembering how bad it feels to have a hangover, excess/unwanted calories, having a racing heart during the night, sleeplessness, anxiety, and depression.
    •It is a good idea to have a plan for how you might deal with various tempting scenarios before engaging in a social situation.
    •Self-Reflection is an important part of the journey. Once we figure out why we drink we can hopefully use that information to form new habits and make better and more mindful decisions.
    •Sometimes doing something nice for yourself like a little reward for a success makes the journey easier.
    •You will see many helpful suggestions and ideas that work for some people. However, finding what tactics work for you may involve some trial and error.
    •It is not uncommon for certain activities that were once combined with alcohol to trigger temptation. Many have said that outdoor activities in warmer weather made alcohol very tempting.
    •Many that have spent time with no alcohol after drinking again realized that it doesn't enhance experiences like they once believed it did. Some have said they no longer like the taste.
    •Don't forget how sticking to your goal has made your life better and remember it to motivate you again if you fall off your path.
    •If you begin drinking daily again whether planned like a vacation or unplanned you may once again face a struggle to get it under control.
    •For some people it is easier to not drink than it is to moderate drinking. Others have found moderating impossible.

    Reported Benefits of Less or No Drinking: (Results may be incremental, and/or they may vary)
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    •Improved sleep after 2,4,7,10,& 60 days
    •Improved skin/complexion after 10 days
    •Improved ease in weight loss. Not only from the savings of alcohol calories but some report making poor food choices after drinking.
    •Increased energy after as few as 2 days
    •Increase in other fun activities. Some have found that daily drinking became their main recreational activity and their world was decreased in size.
    •Increased productivity
    •Reduction of high blood pressure
    •Lower resting heart rate
    •Less Acid Re-flux
    •Significant financial savings
    •More creativity
    •More productivity
    •Better relationships with family

    When Alcohol Is Used for Avoidance:
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    •We drink to ease the stress of the working day, to avoid it.
    •We drink to avoid anxiety in social situations.
    •We drink to avoid making decisions about not drinking.
    •The Takeaway on Avoidance, our problems don't go away if we avoid them. We need to learn to face them.
    •Having a clear head makes our problems seem much smaller.
    •Having a clear head makes problems easier to solve.

    How to Be Kind to "Tomorrow You":
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    •Instead of lumbering with guilt, headaches, and poor nutrition hangovers in the morning, Think of think how nice it would be not to feel that way tomorrow.
    •Worry about "me" and don't let "tomorrow Me" feel awful.
    •Instead of thinking alcohol is something nice to have *now*, think of *NOT drinking* as something nice we can do for the person we are when we awaken in the morning.
    •Do you bank calories for a festive occasion? (Handy tactic) We can bank a good mood for when we wake up.
    •We need to have sympathy for "Tomorrow You" and be kind to her/him.
    •Don't look at a day without alcohol as a punishment for being bad or having no willpower.
    •Not drinking is a lovely, sympathetic gesture towards the person we are now, and whom we will wake up as.
    •You’d be kind to a stranger. Be kind to "Tomorrow You".

    Credit and thanks to the MFP Less Alcohol One Day at a Time participants
    For their willingness to share their insights and resourcefulness in finding this information
    ~Established 2017~
  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 539 Member
    Count me in, too!
  • Womona
    Womona Posts: 1,826 Member
    Someone suggested months ago that I make a list of the benefits of cutting back or quitting drinking. I think I know who it was, but I'm not positive. I thought I'd share my list:

    • Reduce and maintain normal liver enzyme levels
    • Help liver to regenerate cells
    • Reduce the risk of cancer
    • Lose weight and maintain a healthy weight
    • Improve blood pressure
    • Absorb and/or retain essential vitamins and minerals
    • Have more energy and motivation
    • Improve balance and coordination
    • Become more physically fit
    • Improve skin/complexion
    • Improve vision
    • Improve gut health and digestion
    • Get a good night’s sleep and feel good in the morning

    Love this!!! So many be so. Nice to be reminded.
  • Womona
    Womona Posts: 1,826 Member
    tmbg1 wrote: »
    After a rough October and November, I had an awesome December- predominantly AF and A days were LA. I am ready to drink less in 2025. Happy New Year everyone ✨️

    You SLAYED it last month! Way to go-and keep going!
  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 539 Member
    I don't think I will be able to be completely AF by tomorrow. I want to do this safely. So, my goal for January is 27 AF days and 4 A days.

    I have no plans for New Year's eve. I'll probably be in bed by 10 pm. I haven't gone to parties or anything for years. It was a lot of fun when I was in my 20's though.

    @Womona I'm glad you liked my list. I should print it out and put it somewhere that I will see it everyday. I actually know the perfect spot. I've also had really nice skin and look young for my age. But, I do notice after days of drinking that I look a little haggard. Fortunately, I clean up pretty well 🙂

    @chicbuc I know you will do well in January. I could use a little help from above myself. The last time that I quit in August, you told me that you had prayed for me the day before my first AF day. It was like a miracle!

    I hope you all reach your goals for the new year. And, Happy New Year!
  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 539 Member
    I have a question. I like to cook with Chardonnay. And, I'm pretty good of staying out of it, if I keep it warm in the pantry. But, after I quit, it's probably best not to have it in the house. Does anybody know of a good NA Chardonnay?

    I've never even seen NA wines in the stores. But, then again, I've never looked. But, Albertson's (grocery store) has a really large selection of wines. I will look next time we go into town. Or, since it is NA, I might be able to buy it online. It would be nice to know of a good brand. I don't want to stand there scratching my head trying to decide.
  • chicbuc
    chicbuc Posts: 649 Member
    @SurferGirl1982 Fre would be fine for cooking. I didn't enjoy it for drinking. It was a little too sweet. I have another brand at home that I haven't tried yet. I meant to get it chilling for tonight but I forgot. I'll let you know how that one is.
  • chicbuc
    chicbuc Posts: 649 Member
    @mrsmeteor Thank you for the suggestion. I don't want to seem ungrateful...lol. I'm going to try a few of the alcohol removed wines. That just happens to be one I tried last week and didn't love. It was OK.

    @Michieb125 I like the 5 questions. I can see how that would be helpful.
  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 539 Member
    @mrsmeteor Thanks for the suggestion. I live in a small town. We do have a Walmart supercenter, but we don't have a Walmart neighborhood market. I'll have to go in to town a take a look.

    @chicbuc Let me know how the new one is. I prefer something that is a little on the dry side. I was thinking you could have plenty of time to chill it for tonight. But, I forgot you're on the other side of the country. It's only 11:30 am here. Anyways, let me know how you like it.
  • mrsmeteor
    mrsmeteor Posts: 44 Member
    chicbuc wrote: »
    @mrsmeteor Thank you for the suggestion. I don't want to seem ungrateful...lol. I'm going to try a few of the alcohol removed wines. That just happens to be one I tried last week and didn't love. It was OK.

    @Michieb125 I like the 5 questions. I can see how that would be helpful.

    Lol it's ok. It just depends on people's tastes, there's several different brands. Ariel is pretty good too. They say on the Ariel bottle that that one has won in competitions against alcoholized wines, which doesn't sound believable to me, but either way, it's pretty good.
  • mrsmeteor
    mrsmeteor Posts: 44 Member
    @mrsmeteor Thanks for the suggestion. I live in a small town. We do have a Walmart supercenter, but we don't have a Walmart neighborhood market. I'll have to go in to town a take a look.

    I understand. I live in the country and the nearest store where I can get this stuff is 45 min away. It'd be nice if these things were more available. We go to the city once in a while and I'll stock up when we're there.

  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 539 Member
    @mrsmeteor Wow...that is a long way to drive. I only have to go about 13 miles to the main shopping. I'm thinking of that some of these NA wines may be available online. I'm not sure if they will ship to Oregon though. I don't see why not...they are NA.
  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 539 Member
    I just did a Google search for NA Chardonnay. I saw that Total Wine place that a lot of you talk about. It asked for my address to see if delivery is possible. It came back that they can't deliver here. Probably because we have state run liquor stores. Hmmm? There is no alcohol in it? Oh well!

    We can't buy Sudafed here without a prescription either. I've tried ordering online, but the same thing...they can't deliver to this state.

    Something is wrong with this picture!
  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 539 Member

    Enough Malbec left in the bottle for 2 small glasses to go with panettone to celebrate the New Year. After that, done counting corks for the foreseeable future.
    I'll quit with ya' , @SurferGirl1982 , even if you just quit for this Wednesday....then quit for Sunday...then skip the drink next Tuesday. Just to show yourself and the >:) that YOU can be in charge. Stringing two days together may be too scary to think about right now, but it can come true.

    Never met an NA wine that didn't rate an immediate trip down the drain. Including Fre and all the other "award winners" I've tried. Too sweet, too fizzy, too "bad grape juice" . YMMV.
    Call me when y'all find a nice dry NA Chianti to go with my chicken livers and fava beans. Going back to my cave now...🙋‍♀️

    I'm with you! But, I already have whiskey for tomorrow. I plan to allow myself until Saturday to taper off of the stuff. I'll tell you, from my experience, it feels so much better not drinking. And, for me, it doesn't take long...within a few days, I start to feel almost back to normal again. The more days without the better I feel.
  • itladyee
    itladyee Posts: 5,575 Member
    Setting up for success!!!
    Goals for January - 85% Dry (AF = 26 A=5)
    Monthly Stats - On Target
    A = n %
    AF = n %
    Current Streak - AF =
    Longest Streak - AF =

    Month Recap by Day
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    Tracker ✅️🍷🍸

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    2023 - 2024 Stats
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    January AF =87% A=13%
    February AF =58% A=42%
    March AF = 0% A = 100%
    April AF = 0% A = 100%
    May
    June AF =58% A=42%
    July
    August
    September
    October
    November
    December AF = 13% =87%
    Best AF Month = January

    2023 St AF =12% A=88%
    Best AF Month = January
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  • chicbuc
    chicbuc Posts: 649 Member
    mrsmeteor wrote: »
    chicbuc wrote: »
    @mrsmeteor Thank you for the suggestion. I don't want to seem ungrateful...lol. I'm going to try a few of the alcohol removed wines. That just happens to be one I tried last week and didn't love. It was OK.

    @Michieb125 I like the 5 questions. I can see how that would be helpful.

    Lol it's ok. It just depends on people's tastes, there's several different brands. Ariel is pretty good too. They say on the Ariel bottle that that one has won in competitions against alcoholized wines, which doesn't sound believable to me, but either way, it's pretty good.

    I just got home. The other brand I have is Ariel :lol: I'll let you know what I think.
  • SurferGirl1982
    SurferGirl1982 Posts: 539 Member
    I've been reading some reviews of the NA wines. I'm thinking I'll just stick to my four-pack of Sutter Home Chardonnay for cooking. I only use it in a couple of dishes. I'll just keep it in the back of my pantry...out of sight, out of mind.