I'm depressed. I'm having doubts again.

We're all here to be each others cheerleaders, so Rah Rah Rah! Kick Some Butt! Rah Rah Rah! Get out of that rut!
If I'm willing to give up my sugary chocolatey mindlessly snacking ways, then you can get up and go for a jog or whatever revs you up, and you can eat a healthy salad with grilled chicken and just enough vinaigrette to taste like a cheat meal. Or even a reasonably portioned steak.
and if you need me to chant my horrible cheer at you tomorrow or the next day, add me. In fact, I could threaten to cheer at you so you keep going just to shut me up. Whichever works. :-) you don't have to believe in yourself, you have a bunch of people doing that for you. What we can't do is force you to make healthy choices. That's all you. And you can do it!

I'm sorry about your employment situation - that is very stressful and difficult. It can also be a blessing in disguise however. You have time now to excercise and make healthy food! You have time to focus on you. Money is probably tight right now but you don't need fancy food or a gym membership. Go for long walks and find a bodyweight excercise program on the net that you can do at home. Get books on nutrition from the library and learn how to feed your body. You have a little more time right now - why not use it to better your health? The way I see it - you can let yourself get sucked into depression by your circumstances or you can use them to show the world the strong man that you are. A year from now you can continue to be depressed and unhappy with your body or you can be fitter and more confident.
I know it's not this simple - believe me I have struggled with depression my whole life. The only thing that keeps my head above water is taking good care of myself - nourishing my body and exercising, getting enough sleep and taking my fish oil religiously. Best of luck to you. You deserve a great life!

This is some good advice. Walking or running are free. Free things on the net(such as this site) It is up to you to pull yourself up and get out there. When you feel better about yourself people feel better about you. By the responses here people here would like to see you succeed. This will work if you work it. Good Luck.

I was just there three weeks ago...depressed and doubtful.

I changed my way of thinking about my situation. Instead of seeing myself as jobless, I decided to think of my gym time as my most important job. I spend about 3 hours a day there and another hour for a reparative nap. I focus a lot of my day on planning my food choices and spending time on MFP. There are not a lot of people lucky enough to have the time to focus like I do. If I had a job, I would be tired all the time, so I feel priviledged to have this time to take care of me.

I understand about her being your inspiration. Continue to focus on your workouts (even home workouts) and eating better and the weight will start coming off. I just lost ten pounds in ten days! She will notice, and either she will give you more attention...or she won't. Even if she doesn't, I am telling you right now that you will start feeling so much better about yourself that others will notice, and your self esteem will start going up. That is a promise.

Start today. If you do, tomorrow you will feel better. Do it again tomorrow...the next day you will feel even better. Soon, one day becomes two, two becomes a week, a week becomes a month, a month becomes a year....and you will be a different person, one who doesn't have time to be depressed or doubtful.

I have faith in you. Start right now.

Lose the weight for yourself. Start eating healthy and working out and you'll be amazed at how good you'll feel about yourself and just in general. When you feel good about yourself you'll be more confident in asking someone out. Another girl will come along...maybe even a better girl...and you'll never even second guess yourself in asking her out...it'll just happen because you'll have the confidence you need. If this girl doesn't like you the way you are then she doesn't deserve you now or after you lose the weight. I am amazed at how much better I feel in general after becoming healthier and how much more confidence I have in myself that I haven't felt in a very long time. Bottom line, DO THIS...you won't regret it!!!

Look, you shouldn't let anything come in your way!

I've liked this guy.. I always tried to seize the chance of talking to him and try to find things in common between us so he could like me back. He liked me but i know he didn't like me that way.. It always felt like my weight was getting in the way. I wasn't ''pretty'' enough for him. After i lost 10 kilograms one year later, he's the one who started approaching me.. but honestly i wasn't interested in him anymore. So yes looks matter but they're not everything... So if you want to ask her out, ask her out now. The worst thing that could happen is that she might say no but that's not the end of the world. There are tons of girls who would kill to go out with you and you're going to find one soon,, might be this girl, might be some other girl.
Not losing weight, will leave you stuck there in a dark place of feeling you're not worthy enough for anything. So lose the weight, let the thinner guy behind all that fat and weight breathe again. Trust me, you'll be happier.

Oh and about the job, fight for something and you'll get it! Don't give up.
Smiiiiiiileeeeee! Life's good!

Oh, and again please don't ever have doubts. Losing weight is AWESOME! OH YEAH B-)

xxx

I agree with others who say u should do it for yourself, but I find it sweet that u are trying to better yourself for someone else. Have u ever thought maybe sitting her down and telling her these things will probably bring get around. I think if a man told me he liked me and he was trying to better himself, and I was part of the reason I would fall in love right then and there. Good luck.

I am sorry, I dont agree with you. Even though it sounds romantic it is a little codependent when you love someone because they need you and that person needs you to love them to be able to get thru life. And I am speaking as someone who has been thru several codependent relationships before I broke the cycle. That is why it is so important to reach down inside yourself and find the motivation to do the things you need to do to take care of yourself. Because what happens to your motivation if that person that you are basing all your motivation and decisions on stops giving you that feed back that you need to keep going every day? Resentment and depression sets in then comes anger and blame and well you get the picture. And the other person. The one who fell in love with you because you motivated them to better themselves. What if you have a bad day, or a bad week or even a bad few months where you fall off the wagon for any reason. Will they stop loving you because they are no longer your motivation to better yourself? It is really late and I am really tired so maybe my examples are to simplistic or even make no sense and I am sure my spelling and grammar sucks. And I guess it is also none of my business. But I just read that post and felt a strong urge to speak out. Stepping down off my soap box now.

Continue to focus on your workouts (even home workouts) and eating better and the weight will start coming off. I just lost ten pounds in ten days! She will notice, and either she will give you more attention...or she won't. Even if she doesn't, I am telling you right now that you will start feeling so much better about yourself that others will notice, and your self esteem will start going up. That is a promise.

Even sexier than that first bit of weight loss is the improved confidence and ambition.

I agree with others who say u should do it for yourself, but I find it sweet that u are trying to better yourself for someone else. Have u ever thought maybe sitting her down and telling her these things will probably bring get around. I think if a man told me he liked me and he was trying to better himself, and I was part of the reason I would fall in love right then and there. Good luck.

I am sorry, I dont agree with you. Even though it sounds romantic it is a little codependent when you love someone because they need you and that person needs you to love them to be able to get thru life. And I am speaking as someone who has been thru several codependent relationships before I broke the cycle. That is why it is so important to reach down inside yourself and find the motivation to do the things you need to do to take care of yourself. Because what happens to your motivation if that person that you are basing all your motivation and decisions on stops giving you that feed back that you need to keep going every day? Resentment and depression sets in then comes anger and blame and well you get the picture. And the other person. The one who fell in love with you because you motivated them to better themselves. What if you have a bad day, or a bad week or even a bad few months where you fall off the wagon for any reason. Will they stop loving you because they are no longer your motivation to better yourself? It is really late and I am really tired so maybe my examples are to simplistic or even make no sense and I am sure my spelling and grammar sucks. And I guess it is also none of my business. But I just read that post and felt a strong urge to speak out. Stepping down off my soap box now.

The most important person to do this for is you. Do not do it for anyone else. She will find you once you find yourself. You can not love someone when you do not love yourself.

I have worked hard on me, and I continue to do so everyday. I found me, love me, and viola ~ the man of my dreams just happens to be available.

The same with your job situation. If you do not think your are worthy, how can an employer think you are?

Change your thought process. You are here for a reason, figure out what that is by trusting that you can do WHATEVER you set your mind to. Start with the job, and you, I promise the rest will fall inline.

I am prone to falling into depression and self-doubt...and lack of confidence. It is something that has to be fought. All "the reasons" you give yourself for being unable to accomplish your goals are probably not good reasons at all - I say that lovingly. We can tell ourselves we're not good enough, strong enough, likable enough. Well, you are and you can. Create your own destiny my friend and don't let the decision be made by others - others will frequently tell you it isn't possible due to their own hang ups. You've got this!