I'm depressed. I'm having doubts again.

I agree with others who say u should do it for yourself, but I find it sweet that u are trying to better yourself for someone else. Have u ever thought maybe sitting her down and telling her these things will probably bring get around. I think if a man told me he liked me and he was trying to better himself, and I was part of the reason I would fall in love right then and there. Good luck.

I am sorry, I dont agree with you. Even though it sounds romantic it is a little codependent when you love someone because they need you and that person needs you to love them to be able to get thru life. And I am speaking as someone who has been thru several codependent relationships before I broke the cycle. That is why it is so important to reach down inside yourself and find the motivation to do the things you need to do to take care of yourself. Because what happens to your motivation if that person that you are basing all your motivation and decisions on stops giving you that feed back that you need to keep going every day? Resentment and depression sets in then comes anger and blame and well you get the picture. And the other person. The one who fell in love with you because you motivated them to better themselves. What if you have a bad day, or a bad week or even a bad few months where you fall off the wagon for any reason. Will they stop loving you because they are no longer your motivation to better yourself? It is really late and I am really tired so maybe my examples are to simplistic or even make no sense and I am sure my spelling and grammar sucks. And I guess it is also none of my business. But I just read that post and felt a strong urge to speak out. Stepping down off my soap box now.

Continue to focus on your workouts (even home workouts) and eating better and the weight will start coming off. I just lost ten pounds in ten days! She will notice, and either she will give you more attention...or she won't. Even if she doesn't, I am telling you right now that you will start feeling so much better about yourself that others will notice, and your self esteem will start going up. That is a promise.

Even sexier than that first bit of weight loss is the improved confidence and ambition.

I agree with others who say u should do it for yourself, but I find it sweet that u are trying to better yourself for someone else. Have u ever thought maybe sitting her down and telling her these things will probably bring get around. I think if a man told me he liked me and he was trying to better himself, and I was part of the reason I would fall in love right then and there. Good luck.

I am sorry, I dont agree with you. Even though it sounds romantic it is a little codependent when you love someone because they need you and that person needs you to love them to be able to get thru life. And I am speaking as someone who has been thru several codependent relationships before I broke the cycle. That is why it is so important to reach down inside yourself and find the motivation to do the things you need to do to take care of yourself. Because what happens to your motivation if that person that you are basing all your motivation and decisions on stops giving you that feed back that you need to keep going every day? Resentment and depression sets in then comes anger and blame and well you get the picture. And the other person. The one who fell in love with you because you motivated them to better themselves. What if you have a bad day, or a bad week or even a bad few months where you fall off the wagon for any reason. Will they stop loving you because they are no longer your motivation to better yourself? It is really late and I am really tired so maybe my examples are to simplistic or even make no sense and I am sure my spelling and grammar sucks. And I guess it is also none of my business. But I just read that post and felt a strong urge to speak out. Stepping down off my soap box now.

The most important person to do this for is you. Do not do it for anyone else. She will find you once you find yourself. You can not love someone when you do not love yourself.

I have worked hard on me, and I continue to do so everyday. I found me, love me, and viola ~ the man of my dreams just happens to be available.

The same with your job situation. If you do not think your are worthy, how can an employer think you are?

Change your thought process. You are here for a reason, figure out what that is by trusting that you can do WHATEVER you set your mind to. Start with the job, and you, I promise the rest will fall inline.

I am prone to falling into depression and self-doubt...and lack of confidence. It is something that has to be fought. All "the reasons" you give yourself for being unable to accomplish your goals are probably not good reasons at all - I say that lovingly. We can tell ourselves we're not good enough, strong enough, likable enough. Well, you are and you can. Create your own destiny my friend and don't let the decision be made by others - others will frequently tell you it isn't possible due to their own hang ups. You've got this!