Back at it, woman. Talking to myself here.

Funny how things can derail us, and a slip turns into innertubing down the mountainside! So good to hear the decision to get back at it!

Curiosity question - these crunchy therapy foods - are these old favs revisited? Or, newer healthier food choices that may have slipped into trigger food status?

I can see how pb by the spoonful could become something I can't moderate… but had not really eaten since childhood. Added it as a healthy food choice, and, well, I can see how it could be irrestible for me - trying to pay attention to that… I might have to leave off until I feel indifferent.

Anyway, thanks for posting - hope healing continues to progress and you get back on a roll again!

Lol, crunchy therapy foods was a new idea to me from your description, but I understood what you meant, i think. Was just wondering if you had returned to old favs or newer/healthier foods had become problematic?

My thinking on that is that it is not so much any particular food, but rather too much of anything, eaten beyond what the body needs for other emotional type reasons.

I probably have moved away from candy and cakes, but can see how I could transfer to pb or nuts and overeat those, even though those mighgt be considered healthier choices.

No matter though, it was a passing curiosity... the important thing is you are getting back at it, and I think that is awrsome. Yeah!

Riverside, you're a mainstay here, and a good'un. Eight pounds is just a blip, as long as it stops around there, as long as those pounds don't bring a bunch of friends. (I've been there, maybe plus a few pounds.)

I know I'm not saying anything you don't know.

You've got this. You're going to go and make yourself an excellent example once again.

Also: Ditto LOL at "crunchy therapy food" 😆🤣. Yep!

I’m sorry to hear about the problem, but happy to hear you’re taking charge again. Eight pounds is a hella lot better than eighty, so don’t be too harsh on yourself.

Yikes. I worry about the friends thing. Mr S has done quite a bit for a friend who rolled his truck last year, but I often wonder, with kids thousands of miles in opposite directions, who would be here to help us in a similar situation?

I’m curious myself. I’ve had a couple of friends who either had accidents or were quite ill, but refused help I know they could have used. How do you impose your helpfulness without being a boor? What would have helped you?

Was (or is) there something someone could have just done without being asked, or without offending, that would have helped?

Glad you’re on the mend.

My “crunchy krypton” is Cadbury’s Crispy Eggs. Something about trying to carefully eat the crispy shells off without disturbing the chocolate innards. Every Easter since counting calories, I’ve promise myself an unfettered afternoon with a whole bag, but I know that’d be a wild ride back to a very dark place.

oh yes, those evil little things. Even when they got bought out by Hershey’s and changed to a less quality chocolate, they were magnetic. Something about those shells. 😱 i can't stand the big ones with the liquid sugar “yolks”

I think maybe it works both ways? I would love to be asked to help and would probably become the most irritatingly hovering person on the planet once asked. But I’m the person everyone forgets about. I ask if people need help, but all I get is “no thanks, I’m OK”. Maybe I’m already irritating lol.

It’s hard to ask for help. When I was on a walker for a couple weeks and needed someone to drive me to a pair of appointments while my husband was at work, my own brother, threw an unholy conniption fit when I asked for his help. I was embarrassed to ask neighbors of twenty something years. I felt like I didn’t know them well enough to ask for help.

Asking for help seems like such a weakness, but I’d feel honored and privileged to be thought of as “that” friend.

I’m sorry your friend fell through the cracks like that. Some people just aren’t able to handle the weakness or temporary needs of someone else. I’ll be kind and chalk it up to sympathy. Maybe they see themselves in your shoes, but, if so, why the heck not pitch in. SMH. I guess that’s why we’re not all nurses, huh?

Can I butt in a little on the "what to offer injured/ill friends" aspect? I was recently laid fairly low for a few weeks after a skull fracture/brain bleed. I'm also widowed/orphaned/childless/only child, so reliant on friends/neighbors when stuff like that happens.

I agree that visits and check-ins are a major useful thing, even just text messages or social media posts if - like me - the person texts or uses social media. I had a text-chat set up with 3 friends that I'd message every day (because my neurologist said I needed a daily check-in 🤷‍♀️). I asked them if it was OK to contact them for this. When I said a little bit there about how I was doing, I got nice psychological support replies, but also . . .

Those people, and a few others, would also touch base with things like "I'm going to Kroger, can I pick up anything for you?" or "Can I pick up takeout to bring over on my way home from work?" and that sort of thing. If you're on the "offering help" side, specific suggestions are great, and even if the specifics aren't needed, it makes it a little easier IMO for the recovering person to suggest some other thing of similar magnitude that they DO need.

I totally would've asked for help from the generic "let me know how I can help" people if/as needed, too, and have in the past - I'm getting better at that with time, practice . . . and aging. 😆 But the specific offers just make it easier.

your NSV is “I didn’t quit. I keep striving.”

I think there's often a couple of weeks or so adaptation period when reducing calories, during which appetite is more of a problem - at least that's been my experience.

I also still have random phases where I'm just more peckish than normal when eating in my normal way, for no obvious reason, though, too. It's not frequent, and doesn't usually last more than a few days.

I know this sounds like dumb stuff but I honestly think our stomach and intestines DO shrink up a little as we eat in a difficit. I know if I binge badly it's like my system is EMPTY the next day and wants to expand again.

Yeah the femur thing was bad. I had a spiral fracture and rod and pins. I was lucky a good ortho was on duty the night I hit the ER. Whats funny is that altho my legs are the same length my right leg with the rod no longer toes out like my left one.