WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2025

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  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,915 Member

    MFP Weekly Check-In for May 12, 2025

    Barbara on the Southern Oregon Coast - Average WT UP to 133.5 over last week's 132.8. Average steps eked up 100 steps to 5570.  Will tabulate AF days later.

    New potty sit-to-stands habit for 13 whole days, still waiting for it to become solid/automatic and easier.... ;} Joe got a new walk behind, gas powered, self-propelled mower so he's been raking and I've been picking up sticks and burn barreling.  Yard work on hold today for the rain.

    Kylia in Ohio - Weigh in...well, I lost a pound! Yay! changes last week....fresh cut veggies every day, fresh berries every day, cut up cheese for snacking. Amazingly if I eat good things I don't junk food as much. I can do this!

    Debbie in Napa Valley CA - 152.4 again. At least it isn't going up- and that was after eating fried chicken katsu with curry sauce for late lunch/early dinner Have a great week, Ladies.

    Lanette SW WA State – weight still hovering at the top of my range. Step average 7466, down a hair from last week. Total activity minutes 375. Still doing PT exercises, walking with weights. More active with outside work (between showers!)

  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,836 Member

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    pipcd34 Posts: 17,836 Member

    home- going to bed


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  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,905 Member

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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 26,168 Member

    missed my flight, gonnna wait till 5 to fly out. Got food poisoning so I didn’t get off the ship to go to Victoria

    Sorry you missed your flight and Victoria and that you got food poisoning.

    My friend from Indiana K called and texted all day yesterday. She planned a road trip from Indiana to Texas and then New Mexico. She wants me to fly to Dallas/Fort Worth then join her for the rest of the road trip. I was surprised (didn’t give a chance to change his mind) but DH approved while I was talking to her. YAY, I’ve got a plane ticket to DFW and a hotel reservation for the one night of the trip. K is meeting me at the airport for the beginning of our drive! I’m excited! Happen May 29-30.

    Exciting! I'm glad to hear that you're getting away from the old campground for a while. Fresh perspectives.

    Ouch, Ginny!! I hope your toe heals quickly. And yes, your tumours were likely affecting your breathing.

    Machka in Oz

  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,915 Member
    edited May 13

    Tracey - sorry that Mother's Day lunch plans didn't work out. Things like that used to happen at my house, too. Men! Michaela to the rescue, lol.

    Here is the type of water fountain T made for me. 😁 It's so cute and the spraying water mists the flowers. I need to refill the water in the pot every day.

    Easy DIY Water Fountain: Beautiful & Affordable Outdoor Decor

    Kylia - your home is so beautiful, love the flower baskets. Coming home to your place and your kitties, even with the work it all entails, must be therapy for you. 😍 Thank you for sharing those photos!

    Ginny - sorry about the toenail, glad it was removed and that it's not painful. Grateful you didn't break that toe - it made me wince to read about it. Love hearing about plans for your new place!

    Heather - glad your outing yesterday turned out so well. I would think navigating all of the travel to get to town helps keep your brain sharp. Sounds daunting to me. I've never taken a subway, uber, or train. If I lived in the city I'd learn to depend on them.

    Barbara and Flea - I wonder if your spouses have a deep-seated fear that you won't be able to care for THEM in their older years, not just their concern about you. I say this because several times, as my DH's memory started to slip, when he'd have a lucid moment, he'd say there's no way he could have cared for me the way I took care of him. And that he was grateful. I never had any fear that I wouldn't be able to take care of him as long as I was physically able. Worrying about his future had its own set of troubles for me though when his physical health declined so rapidly.

    Now that I'm on my own, I sometimes wonder who will take care of me? There's T of course, but she has her own family. I have no one in the house anymore when I sometimes just need an extra set of arms or need to ask advice about something going on here - a new sound the fridge is making or something, lol. My friend L and I talked about this last week at lunch. She also lives alone. Her conclusion was "people show up." And they do.

    Also, I'm much sharper when I get a good night's sleep and my back or foot isn't acting up. MUCH sharper. I think lack of good sleep and pain/worry take a toll on our memories, and I'm glad my brain does seem to recover when I'm feeling good.

    Weightless…Music therapy. I ran across a study where music entitled "Weightless" by Marconi Union has been proven to reduce anxiety, encourage better sleep. Here's the study:

    World’s Most Relaxing Song May Reduce Anxiety by 65%

    Here's the music:

    Marconi Union - Weightless (Official Extended Version)

    It's going to be overcast and chilly today (low 60's F) but that's OK. Slight chance of mowing tomorrow if we have sun from daybreak.

    Make it a fabulous day!

    Lanette 😎

    SW WA State

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 26,168 Member
    edited May 13

    On Memory and Hearing Loss …

    First of all, we all forget things. It does NOT mean we've got dementia.

    I forget heaps of things because I'm so incredibly busy at work, and my brain prioritises things. If it's not immediately important, it's gone. That's one of the reasons I put things into my Google Calendar for home stuff and Outlook Calendar for work stuff. If I didn't, I'd never remember it all.

    And, I'm working on leaving myself notes with enough detail on my last day of work before the weekend so I know what I'm supposed to do next on my first day after the weekend. I had been writing short, somewhat cryptic notes that must have meant something on Thursday or Friday, but come Monday, I haven't the faintest idea what the note meant.

    As you know, my husband has a severe traumatic brain injury which means he often has difficulty making new memories so he forgets a lot … more than me. Since his injury, we've adopted several techniques which have become second nature.

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    • We have a one-month whiteboard (like the one pictured) on which I write all the upcoming events.
    • We share the Google Calendar which is set up (by me) with reminders.
    • I email my husband every day with what's on in coming days.
    • I talk to my husband about what's coming up … but when I do, the room has to be relatively quiet and I have to have his full attention.

    As it happens, I'm going deaf, and if a person wants to talk to me, ideally, they need to be facing me and have my full attention in a relatively quiet room. If I am in another room, and a person talks, I won't hear. If there's lots of background noise, and someone is facing away from me, I won't hear.

    Between his brain injury and my hearing loss, when we talk, we've got to do it face to face and focus!

    That's one of the reasons I email my husband and use online calendars etc.

    Dealing with these things hasn't been smooth sailing … it's been a bumpy process … but it's better now than it was even a year ago. We can work together and we communicate a lot. But it's possible our communication might look a little different to the way other people communicate, and that's OK.

    And no, I'm not ready for hearing aids yet, according to my Audiologist.

    My husband also has an increased chance of developing dementia because of the brain injury … but I don't think he is developing dementia yet. He isn't showing any signs of it. But he forgets things! Simply forgetting things (like a DVD player when seen from a different perspective) isn't a sign of dementia. Haven't we all done that at some point or another?

    According to the site below (and several other sites), the first sign is:

    Memory loss that disrupts daily life. And the thing I've seen in the people I know who have or had dementia is constantly asking the same questions over and over.

    https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signs

    In addition to being incredibly busy, several other things can cause forgetfulness including stress, lack of sleep, vitamin deficiency, and medical issues including UTIs.

    https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/7-common-causes-of-forgetfulness-201302225923

    https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/memory-loss-and-forgetfulness/memory-problems-forgetfulness-and-aging

    One thing to emphasise here … there is no reason to become upset with someone who forgets something or doesn't hear something. It happens.

    And if someone gets upset with you for those things, you're well within your rights to tell the other person that they have no right to speak to you like that. You're human, they're human, and if it's something important … they can email it to you. 😁

    Machka in Oz

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 13,161 Member
    edited May 13

    Hooray! Success! I watched a couple of videos on oven lights and how to get the cover off. Some suggested WD40, so I sprayed that. I still couldn't get it off, even with a rubber glove on. I asked John to try, and he managed it, and we got the bulb out. The one I thought we had in the drawer was a perfect match. We have light! 😂

    He is currently deboning the guinea fowl for me to make a curry with sweet potato, peas and spinach. Yes, yummy.

    He is in a bit of a mood today, because all the car expenses have come in at once. We have high parking charges, which he paid last month. Next week is a service, and today the car tax demand arrived. Then insurance is next month. 😫 As we never use the car, apart from him driving to cricket in Southampton, it seems an unnecessary expense. I feel he is working his way up to selling it. He is annoyed with me to some extent, because I am not comfortable with him driving me any distance. We don't 'go' anywhere in the car. I am keeping my peace and allowing him to work things out for himself. He has to make that important decision.

    I have had a look at the paint colour on the walls, and I love it! When I chose it online, I wished it was just a little bit pinker. Well, it is! 🤩 I'm delighted with it. I've been looking at lampshades, curtains, mirrors, hooks, etc etc, but haven't yet bought anything. I think I have seen bed linen I like at M&S. White with a texture. I need a second opinion when I measure for curtains. The windows are very wide.

    Much love to all. No Lisa, I haven't cooked rabbit roulade, but I have cooked rabbit. Especially in France. Very nice in cider with wholegrain mustard. Finished with a little cream. I haven't had it in a while, but you have reminded me!

    Sounds like the painter is leaving for the day. He likes to talk cricket with John. Apparently, they were both at the Sussex match on Saturday, but didn't know the other was there.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,608 Member 
    Mostly, I think my husband forgets things because he doesn't pay attention and is distracted … but it bears watching for the reason Heather mentioned. If he's beginning to go down the dementia path, then I want him to get the earliest and best care possible. 
Praying that you are only experiencing distractions …

    Same for my DH. Just when I think he is experiencing dementia symptoms, he shows me he is not. Also, our new doc checked him for that the last appointment and said he is good. I believe he has “selective” hearing. 🤪

    One thing to emphasise here … there is no reason to become upset with someone who forgets 
something or doesn't hear something. It happens. And if someone gets upset with you for 
those things, you're well within your rights to tell the other person that they have no right 
to speak to you like that. You're human, they're human, and if it's something important 
… they can email it to you. 😁

    I say text me! 

    Time and my spiritual program took care of that. When the time comes, someone will appear.
 My job is to take care of life one day at a time.

    I’m getting there Barbie!

    Here are some yard pictures to go with everyone else’s: See if you can spot the owl. It’s a Great Horned Owl and very big!

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    And lots of ducks!

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    RVRita

  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 13,161 Member

    Rita - Wow, New Orleans! Have fun!

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

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