WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2025
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Proud of my grand daughter: Callie was given this award tonight: This year, 113 students from the Class of 2024 will be honored with the President's Award for Educational Excellence, which is part of the President's Education Awards Program (PEAP) that was founded in 1983. This is from the Department of Education! ๐ She will start high school in the Fall and at this point her goal is to become a pediatrician!
Carol in Ga
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I have been using Google Fit as my pedometer for a while now. It's all right except that I have to have my phone with me all the time to track all my steps.
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stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 2hrs 8min 11sec, 14662steps, 40elev, 2.69ap, 81ahr, 100mhr, 5.80mi= 560c
Strava app = 702c
ROUVY home spin bike- strava stats- 1hr 22min 1sec, 120aw, gear25, 40.8amph, 100ahr, 129mhr, 55.82mi= 436c
Strava app= 565c
ROUVY stats- 1hr 22min 1sec, 60arpm, 40.9amph, 55.82mi= 565c
Walk kids around park- 22.29min, .50= 69c
Strava app = 79cTotal cal 1065
1353.76 miles ahead
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Rita - I tried OA a long time ago, probably late 70's. I did not do well with the program but I am really not a group person. The best part of it I found was having an individual sponsor, someone you could call and talk to when you were having difficulty with cravings, etc. It was also hard to define exactly what you wanted to give up. With alcohol you can quit completely, not so with food. So how do you personally decide what you will give up? You say you are addicted to sugar and I believe I probably am too. They say sugar addiction is a real thing, that parts of your brain light up on sugar the same way they would with coccaine. That is scary, but you really can't give up all sugar either. It is in fruits, dairy and even vegetables. So how does one define "good" or "bad" foods? I have trouble when I try to do that. You already are doing AA and are familiar with the program so it might work well for you. Good luck!
Sue in WA
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๐ Rita, the Steps in OA are the same ones as the ones in Al-Anon and AA (also Gamblers Anonymous and a whole lot of other 12 Step programs). Taking the Steps and living by them daily is the solution. Having a sponsor who knows the program is the key to taking the Steps. Yes, you have to eat, but having a plan of what you'll eat, how much, and when is part of the program.
๐ Ginny What a fabulous blessing and luxury to have the new place and the old at the same time. It will make moving so much easier. Enjoy.
๐ Carol, best wishes to you and your hubby. Sticking to a heart healthy diet is tricky and requires vigilance and commitment.
๐ Machka, there's a step counter on my phone and I use that but, like you, I don't always carry it with me.
๐ My neighbor came over for a little visit to tell me that she's going to Seattle from Friday to the day the garbage gets picked up and asked me to put her can at the curb and offered me the extra space in the can for my accumulated yard waste. I am very pleased with that.
๐ต Barbie in NW WA
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Pip โ no wonder youโre in first place!!!
Heather โ letโs hope that UTI doesnโt last long
Lanette โ so glad your pedometer is still working. I dread if something like that ever happens to me
Drizzly outside so we didnโt cut the lawn (natch). Going to shoot for doing it tomorrow. Iโm planning to go to the gym working on the stairstepper, then doing some rowing, and then getting in the pool for a bit (finally!)
Vince went to the last session of Wednesday night bowling. Donโt know what next season will bring. Decided that Iโm not going to go in the water tomorrow. I remember when I used this ointment on the cyst I wasnโt supposed to soak it for a while. So maybe until I donโt use this stuff anymore Iโll skip the pool. Oh well...at least it isnโt July!!! I donโt need to bring the ointment and a bandaid to the gym.
Barbie โ you are handling things so well. I only hope that if Iโm ever in your position(heaven forbid) that I can do as well
Carol โ Iโm so sorry to hear about your dh. When Vince had the WPW (tachacardia), there was a medication (Rhythmol) that kept his heartrate in normal rhythm. Wonder if something like this would help your dh? You said the hosp tried drugs, wonder if they tried this one? Congrats to your gd. You SHOULD be proud
Michele
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Rita, I tried OA many, many years ago. I quit after a few group visits, because it didn't seem to resonate with me. I was never offered a sponsor, but maybe I didnโt give it enough time. The meeting I attended was in a college town. A lot of the attendees were college students struggling with anorexia or bulimia. I understand that all eating disorders are on a spectrum, but I couldnโt identify with them or the binge eaters on the opposite side of the spectrum. I just felt out of place, so, I quit. Thatโs just my experience. Itโs also possible that I wasnโt quite ready to identify my own disordered eating patterns and face them. Who knows? Iโve found my people here in this thread and in the Healthy Free Life Community. If you give it a try, let us know how it goes. When I did go, my abstinence was no unplanned eating - just 3 meals and a snack. Interestingly enough, thatโs what Iโve settled on now.
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thank you!! I really need to work on this.
One thing in my favor, I guess, is I do stay calm, at least on the outside. We do not fight because I stay quiet and very rarely do I say a word. I need to find a good medium spot- not yelling/cussing like he does but also need to speak up for myself. I have a very few times, just because I am so tired of all of it.3 -
my fitbit was off this morning- it showed I woke up at 9:15- I was up and feeding the cats before 8:30(awake at 7 but didn't want to get up- used the bathroom and tried to go back to sleep but couldn't-did snuggle with a cat for a while)
Not sure why it thought I was still asleep- had all 10 cats fed(fed in three different spots) , all the mess in two places from the old grandma cat and all the dishes done, all done before 9AMDidn't sleep great to start with- dh fell asleep with out his CPAP- plus the alarm was chirping- tried to sleep with both noises but couldn't- I got up-fixed the alarm and he put his CPAP on.
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Son and his girlfriend are staying their first night in the other house tonight. No more having to go over every morning(or both morning and night like I did the past 4 1/2 months) to take care of the dog. I can go over to walk Kobe when I want to. Nice break.
Instead, I will be pet sitting for my friend for almost a week- going over to take care of their dog and a bunch of cats twice a day ;)Off on Friday(Ezie's mom switched daycare days this week) so we will take that time to get the last of the stuff for the youth group garage sale over to the church. Will be nice to clear more stuff out of both houses.
Walked the wetlands (a bit short today- miscalculated the time I had to be there-minimum day today) plus zumba- very tired so heading to bed after a hot shower-sciatica is really bugging me tonight then hopefully sleeping in tomorrow.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
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Hi Everyone;
I thought about Barbie's words about being lonely. I agree with her, and I don't feel lonely either. I figured It was due to my not having any siblings. My dog and my books are enough. I hate staying on the phone too long. I reach out in my way. When I am off, I love quiet. I watch some TV, and I love Rose. I love books. With books, I am never lonely. I love exploring the arts, doing crafts, and more. Life is a journey that I don't want to miss out on. I learned how to play the piano with my kids. When they stopped, so did I, unfortunately. I miss it. I don't mind traveling alone, too, but it is more fun with my bestie or DH. I flew to Los Angeles with DS, but he was too serious. DS stayed in his room at the hotel, too. We only went out to go to the bookstore there, which was awesome, to look at collages, and to go out to eat at In and Out Burger(He was hooked on those burgers). My bestie and I hung out, but I hate that I didn't go to the beach while I was there. Then we met DH, who drove from Mississippi to Palm Springs with his mom.
Carol, I am praying for your DH. My dad was afraid of leaving his home with his heart issues. It is also terrifying, so it isn't uncommon for people to be more withdrawn when sick with this condition.
Ginny, please let me know what you learn so I can be prepared. This all sounds so excitingโa new place and a new adventure.
Heather, UTIs are miserable! I hope you feel better soon.
Margaret, excellent advice on gas lighting. Debbie, we have your back.
Debbie, DHย learned how to gaslight from his mom. He probably thinks it is normal. The sooner he knows it is not okay with you and you will not take it, the better. I am sure he is a good guy; otherwise, I am just stressed. We love you, Debbie.
Well, I am going to sleep now. Have a wonderful day, ladies.
XO,
Mo in Mississippi
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Sometimes it is OK to yell. If my husband treated me the way yours treats you, I would be yelling back. I would also be spending a whole lot of extra time on my bicycle or walking or at the gym.
Maybe if you yelled at him that he has no right to talk to you like that, and then marched out the door to go for a walk, he'd notice.
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What you describe, about your husband, is abuse.
Types of psychological or emotional abuse
- Intimidation, coercion, harassment, use of threats, humiliation, bullying, swearing or verbal abuse
Addressing a person in a patronising or infantilising way
Threats of harm or abandonment
Emotional Abuse
Undermining an individual's sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem is abusive. This may include, but is not limited to constant criticism, diminishing one's abilities, name-calling, or damaging one's relationship with his or her children.
Verbal abuse
Verbal abuse is when a person says things, privately or publicly, to shame or humiliate someone, or to make them feel scared or unsafe. This includes what they say and how they say it.Examples include:
ridiculing or humiliating someone
criticising their appearance, intelligence, sexuality, religious beliefs, or ethnicity
criticising their actions as a partner or parent
using cruel or abusive nicknames
swearing at someone
yelling or screaming at someone.I'm not promoting any of these but they might be useful in some way or another. I hope that you can get help soon.
At the very least, there might be a hotline you can call to talk about your options.
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Iโm reading along enjoying your successes, and cheering you on through trials
Today is one of my rare easy Thursdays. The fine weather is settled for a few more days. Yesterday, after shopping, Psychology andI lunch I started clearing my planters for summer display. Iโm planning on continuing that today.
Machka: According to your graphic, Iโm living a luxurious life ๐
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โ๏ธย Terri
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Terri โฆ some days I have a luxurious life too. ๐
Not tomorrow โฆ I have to go to work.
But maybe this weekend.
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Morning, kiddos,
Hope all's well with everyoneโฆ
Complex medical decisions:
Feel like I'm filling up my days so I don't think about the colonscopy on Tuesday. Trying to stay calm about it, but beyond a two-day prep, the results of the test inform something else that's kind of important.
There's been no bleeding from the ulcers in a year now, and if the test shows they've healed, I have to decide whether or not I want the stroke preventer put in my heart.
Installing it requires a blood thinner for a few weeks before and after, and I refused to let them put me on a blood thinner when I had bleeding ulcers in my colon. Mine were bad enough they caused anemia that took a year, infusions, and am still on iron to correct.
But, if those ulcers have healed, I have to decide.
Complicating factors:
My mother died from a stroke - but what killed her as that when they opened up her brain to try to remove the clot, the blood thinners she was on (to diminish the possibility of a stroke!) made it impossible to stop the bleeding into her brain.
My father had a minor stroke, and a careworker in the home he was in gave him a drink of water shortly after. He aspirated the water, developed pneumonia and died.
They don't know whether there's a genetic component or whether the shared environment of family life, including food, exercise, etc., is the predictor - but you're 36% more at risk for having a stroke if a parent has had one.
Andโฆ if I decide to have the stroke preventer put in, then I have to decide whether to let a VA surgeon do it. It's impossible to get good statistics out of the VA as to whether it's been a procedure they've done safely, as they don't publish their mistakes. They bury them.
But if I decide to talk to a civilian surgeon, I'll have to wade through Medicare for the first time.
But for now, I'm keeping busy. No decisions are even possible until the colonoscopy is done, and going over the possible scenarios of what to do next doesn't help.
Right? Right.
So, another busy morning ahead - once enough coffee is in, need to find the steel wool so I can get the surfaces of all these wood pieces smooth. More adventures in home improvement:
Stain raises the grain somewhat on wood, so you have to coax it to lay back down after you've put stain on them. I found a Golden Pecan stain that is lighter than oak, but still makes pine look like hardwood. Quite happy with the color. Then I'll put a coat of tung oil finish on them all to protect the stained surfaces, and let that dry.
Then will assemble the gun rack. It's a gift for Corey's birthday, our anniversary and Father's Day next month. It will hold his shotgun, lever-action Henry rifle, pellet rifle and WWII pistol, as well as ammunition for them all. Not sure where it's going to hang, though. Will figure that out with him.
Then I'll get the legs under the shelf in the laundry room and decide what, if anything, to get done with the thresholds in the back hall. Will have to pull up the two old thresholds first.
While the tung oil is drying, I have to get a kitchen corner cabinet door off it's hinges so I can lay it down flat. The piano hinge (full length of the door) that lets it fold in the middle must be removed, as many of the screw holes have stripped out, and it's starting to sag.
Then I'll get wood glue and some sawdust from the last few days put together into a paste and fill the screw holes. Let that dry, and then reinstall the piano hinge and rehang the door.
And yes, Corey is fine with me doing it, and in fact, reminded me last night. He really loves it when I do the fiddly bits like that and he doesn't have to mess with themโฆ
Justโฆ staying busy. And inside as much as possible.
I am reading everyone's posts, but good advice coming from all directions already.
Later, my dears,
Love you all,
Lisa in AR7 -
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Work, work, work.
I feel very scattered at both work and home. Too much to do. Projects coming at me from all directions.
We did decide NOT to do something this weekend. That's good. I want to focus on cycling and gardening.
Apparently this past April was the driest in 10 years.
I've been waiting for a rainy weekend to work on stuff inside the house, but it just hasn't happened.
The one good thing about all the dry weather is that we've had a lot of grasshoppers. Rhody loves grasshoppers. They make delicious, crunchy snacks!
Oh, and I do like cycling in the dry weather.
But I could use one rainy weekend.
Machka in Oz
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๐ Lisa, when I read your complex medical decision followed by household and remodeling chores, I realized how often I turn away from the impossible to control issues of life to concentrate on knitting or pulling weeds or rearranging bookshelvesโ-working on things I can control quiets my mind and channels it away from what I can't control.
๐ Machka, according to your list, I have a very luxurious life.
๐ Carol, the most you can do is be supportive of your husband in his new health journey. You can help, but the decisions are his. It's not easy so be kind to yourself.
๐ Katie, the OA program is more about the Twelve Steps than about a food plan. Anyone can make a good food plan, but it's the Steps that make it possible to maintain that food plan. The Steps are about a relationship with a higher power and taking personal inventory. Since you already have a personal spiritual program, you have a solution available to you. We all know how to eat right, the missing ingredient is finding the way to stay on that path no matter what.
๐ Thank you all for your kind words. Staying in the moment has worked for me in difficult times in the past and it mostly working now along with a strong spiritual program and good stuff on TV and in books. TV and the library are frequently on my morning gratitude list.
โค๏ธ Barbie in NW WA
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Morning all
Had breakfast and its rainy this morning so we are just lollygagging here in the room.we shall go out maybe later
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Stopping back in quick between hanging out the laundry - sunny and hot is the best day for it! ๐ - and the last sip of coffee and start the dishwasher. Then back to the remodeling and other chores that need doingโฆ
Barbie - You're exactly right - working on the things I can control helps me without knowing that's what I'm doing. Minor decisions, all within my own ability, as small as how to hang a towel (if I hang it with the middle over the line, rather than by the end, it will dry more slowly, but it means it will fold easily when I take it down) or a shirt (I hang them on plastic hangers, and pin the hangers to the line). Very tiny things, staying here in this moment, absorbing my entire self into the small things. There's a lovely peace in all of it.
Carol - I'm sorry your husband's still struggling with his heart issues. Not easy, as Heather says, to simply stand and watch while other people care for the person you love.
Back to my doings,
Love you people,
Lisa in AR3 -
Woah you got there a fine, sturdy pedometer! Yes, she's really the sweetest thing. I find when I chat about her alot, it's time for a visit. Once or twice a year just isn't enough. I need to get a hold of my niece and find out the where and when of my sisters 70th birthday bash, so they can attend.๐
Rebecca Whidbey Wa
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Well my three sisters were as sweet as pie as teenagers!๐๐๐(choked on my coffee there for a sec). So so SO much drama! I think my father worked in the garden to escape the house!
Rebecca Whidbey
Wa
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Awe, you must be so proud! Yay Callie!
Putting in my two cents about food choices. Its best to just rip the band aid off. With my husband, he had to cut out sugar, so now he looks at everything and if there is more than 5-10mgs of sugar he doesn't choose it. We cleared out all high sugar stuff. I just put it on the table, took a photo and posted it on my free site, and someone came and got it. I had put it in a box and when they were close they texted me with a ๐๐ผ which was my bat signal to put it out the front door. Easy peasy.
Rebecca Whidbey Wa
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Carol - sorry to hear about your DH, and hope they can get his heart permanently stabilized. It's hard on both of you! (((HUGS)))
Rita - Several years ago, I ran across Damien Gameau, who produced and starred in a documentary "That Sugar Film." It's available on YouTube. The film really opened my eyes about the detrimental effects of sugar. While it didn't help me give it up altogether, it did boost my effort to at least cut way back on it. I need to re-watch it or re-read the book which I have.
Lisa - sounds like lots of decisions coming up. Glad you are able to working on your project today, the rest will sort itself out.
In a couple hours, T will stop by and we'll be off to visit the art gallery which opens at 11. And hopefully stop in at a bakery in another little town. A big day for us country girls, lol.
Lanette ๐
SW WA State
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Today is shopping. Need to buy more protein laden things. Buying high protein low sugar yogurts, cottage cheese, protein drinks of some sort. I do like the Chai drink that Atkins makes. Its small, quick and has 15 mg of protein, low sugar. Some turkey, cheeses, plus lots of drinks, Icee' sparkling flavored water, Pellegrino water. Hopefully I won't go bonkers buying.๐๐
Rebecca Whidbey Wa
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So sorry about your husband's medical scare, Carol. That is very concerning. Praying for both of you.
And congratulations to your granddaughter. She is a powerhouse. I am awed by her accomplishments.
Attending a DOC state awards lunch today. I am allowed to bring one guest. So hubby took the day off to go with me. We are both curious. I do not know what to expect. I will report later.
Take care all.
Flea
Willamette Valley OR
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Iโm doing Al-Anon and it is identical to OA. I was just feeling you all out and so far, you said about the same thing. So giving up ADDED SUGARS is what I will focus on, but I need the Al-Anon because I grew up in aa alcoholic family, my husband is an alcoholic, and my son is both an alcoholic and addict. It is giving me lots to think about. I like that the meetings are all online. I can put on my headphones and listen in. Being in the RV makes privacy impossible.
My DH is surprising me lately. There is usually a fight when I want to go on a trip, he encouraged me to go this time! Then yesterday, he surprised me by asking me if I wanted to stop at the Humane Society! Well I said yes knowing we would leave with a dog/puppy. It was a chihuahua 4 month old female pulley. She is so tiny, only 5 pounds! In one picture she is sitting on a coffee can used to store cables, the other, she is chewing on a sweet potato bag. Lol. Gotta stop at the Dollar General to get a puppy collar and something for her to chew on. We are supposed to move today, but I can take a quick run to the store for puppy stuff. The HS gave us a bag of puppy food, which will last her a long time!
Look at those eyes! She has a part of the bag label in her mouth and looks guilty! LOL
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woke up early, wanted to sleep longer but once I got up to use the bathroom, that was it- Time to feed the cats. I forgot to rehydrate their dry food last night (mix that with their canned food-gets them a bit more water in their diet and makes the canned food go a bit further, unless dh is feeding them. With 10, have to save where I can).
Having my tea then going to clean up the mess from the old cat in both the front hall and our bedroom then going out to clean up where I stored all the extra pots/etc from in the green house now that I need my plants in it. Need that area cleaned up so I can get more plants out of the greenhouse and into pots plus more snails are living in that area under the pots.don't have to go take care of the dog so going to take advantage of the free time.
DH is still sleeping, weather looks perfect.
Do still need to feed the one feral cat in the second catio but she rarely eats during the day, just eats mainly at night- need to change out her litter box this afternoon.Will walk the wetlands this afternoon. Ezie only has three more weeks of school then out for the summer(but will be here all day instead of 2 hrs a day). Told her I would take her out there to walk with me one day, as long as it isn't too hot.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
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