WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2025
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Renovation Adventures
Andโฆ I am proving to myself once more that perfectionists SHOULD NOT CAULK trim. Spent the first hour correcting things from yesterday that no one else will ever, ever notice. ๐ Took a break to make myself stop and get on with it like a reasonable human being who understands that small bobbles are not a tragedy. Lordie.
Time for a big glass of iced tea. It's warm today, but it's supposed to be the last day in the 90s, next week is all highs in the 80s, and then 70s for a high after that. . I got my laundry in yesterday just moments before the rain came in three hours earlier than expected. Lots of rainy days in the forecast, so we'll enjoy our sun-dried sheets while we can.
Oh! You might have noticed I said nothing about my August goals. I didn't forget, I was just so disappointed in myself I couldn't bear to put it in writing. I gained five pounds in the last week of August - and I know part was water weight, but it made me start thinking about what I was eating a little more and that was a good thing. I had gone up to 166, and this morning, I was back down to 161.
Combination of moving more and simply eating less.
And my September goals are the same as August - Be lighter, be healthier, stick to the budget. August budget goals weren't good, either, as we both ended up getting new glasses, and the combination, even with insurance, was quite spendy. But we've recovered quite a bit here in the first weeks of September and finally got savings repaired after our foray into becoming land barons in the spring. This is only funny because my maiden name was Barron, but still. My health was iffy too, due to the whole thyroid thingโฆ so basically I bombed my August goals.
September is already better. ๐Thyroid meds are really helping the energy levels, and probably the easier weight loss, too.
One thing about caulking the baseboards and lower trim - I won't need to do yoga todayโฆ ๐๐๐โโฌ
Later,
Lisa in AR8 -
Spent 2 hours on the phone with Verizon yesterday reporting my son's iphone, iwatch, and ipad stolen. I had insurance on the phone but somehow it got canceled a month after so no refunds. This is only part of what I'm dealing with. In spoiler it may trigger some of you.
My son has been in rehab 4 times this year for a month each time. He has been put in sober houses and outpatient rehab. Nothing worked. He is diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia with alcohol and cocaine addictions. He is 40 years old and refusing any more help. He sold his Apple stuff (for drug's)), I gave him for Christmas last year. and for which he had been paying me monthly until the first rehab when I told him I would cover it while he was in rehab. I am heartbroken. He got a throwaway phone and is staying with a girl who is in the same boat as him. I did a reverse lookup and paid $1 for the information and that is how I got the phone number and name of the person he was talking too. Since he was on my phone plan, all the call and text info was available to me. A good friend of his helped me track him down. He is livid as I am. Everyone was worried about him and trying to help him and my son just blew us all off. So I reported the electronics stolen and had them shut off and removed from my account. I am NOT paying for a drug dealer's electronics! This is making me upset. gotta goโฆ..
Psychiatrist today in a couple of hours. I had this appointment before the worse of my problem happened. I am so glad I have a great support system. 3 People in Alanon who have had similar issues, my DH is being really understanding, my young friend who I went on that road trip with, and all of YOU! Thank you for being there for me.
Thought for today:
Why did the coffee go to the police?
It got mugged.
RVRita in Roswell
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But I needed the dang spear in my tomato drink right then!๐๐๐
Next time I will not put an unopened jar in the fridge. I was just putting it away and thought, oh it goes in the fridge anyways, I will just put it in now. Probably not the best idea!
Rebecca Whidbey Wa
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Me too, he is managing but it wears on him, I can tell. ๐ฅ
Rebecca, Whidbey Wa
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I need one of those tools! I think I will explore on Amazon!
Rebecca , Whidbey
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Big hugs to you Rita! (((((((((((hugs))))))))))
I have felt your frustration, when it was my middle sister. I was putting so much energy, emotions into her situation, yet she wasn't putting in any. I had to step back, tell her I loved her, and know that I had no control of the situation. Same with my youngest son when he went invisible in the Navy. Maybe if you mentioned to your son that every couple of months he just texts you a ๐๐ผ๐. That's really all I needed from my son.
Rebecca Whidbey Wa
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Hello-
My name is Melanie and I am from east central Alberta, Canada.
I will be 59 a week from tomorrow.
Looking to check in with others that are my vintage ๐ค
My main goal right now is to overcome my diet/restrictโก๏ธbingeโก๏ธdiet/restrict pattern that has been ruling my life since I was 15. I am reading Brain Over Binge right now and her story is mine. It makes sense and I am working on it.
I am a livestock veterinarian. I have 2 adult children, 2 grandchildren, and one husband. I am a lifelong athlete and continue to love all sports and working out but a knee replacement has me making some changes- mainly no running or jumping. I walk a lot, ride my fat bike as our roads are all gravel, swim, weight lift, and coach high school girls volleyball.
I also love to read - fiction and history- so if anyone has any good recommendations I'd love to hear them.
I am pretty far behind on your posts so hope to get to know you all in the following weeks.
Melanie, Alberta, Canada
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So sorry Rita. Your post really touched me. We are with you. Lean on AlAnon. It is super hard, I can feel. Lots of love.
Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Melanie ~ Welcome to a very supportive group of women!
Rita ~ My heart goes out to you as I know this is breaking your heart!
Carol in GA
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(((Rita))) I wish there were better treatments for your son. Before Reagan there were places set up to help someone like your son. During Reagan they went with the idea just give them meds and keep them on it for life. The meds can have severe side effects. The mind the body and the spirit need help in tandem. The are starting to suspect diet is a piece of the puzzle. Gluten might aggravate the condition. Unfortunately alcohol is like putting gas on the fire.
Your son needs more help than you can give. I said it to you once before just let your son know you love him not the state his condition has found him. You did the right thing by saying the electronics were stolen. In essence his illness stole the electronic as it is stealing his life and a piece of yours. Encourage him to research what is happening to him and what he can do to help manage his mental state and heal There is hope. It will require tremendous changes on his part. If you get the chance you could ask him what steps he could do to help get his life on track. It is his life and his job to live it best he can!
Give yourself the self care you can because the stress this creates for all concerned is right up there at the top!
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Hi ladies,
Lisa, I was never good enough in my mom's eyes. I was too fat, and looking back at my pics, I wasn't. I didn't dance like my cousin did. She learned from her older siblings, and I was an only child who loved books. My hair wasn't long enough for her until it was straightened, then she loved it. When I was in my teens and talked to my mother over the phone, she would ask, how was my weight. Then I had acne and eczema, and she would complain about that when she saw me. I always felt like I said before, not good enough. Then I finally let myself go. My highest weight was 330 pounds. Glad to get that load off. I just had a bad week and gained 5 pounds. So I skipped dinner last night.
Later, I felt clammy and shaky. Checked my blood sugar, and it was down to 65, so I had to eat. I had oranges cut up and ate them, along with turkey, whole-grain crackers, and cheese. I instantly felt better. Now my mom says that I look like her. My mom would get mad at me for getting so dark from playing outside or going to the pool. She had issues, like a former patient of mine would say. It is funny how all those things stick with you. I got to the point that I didn't want to visit my mom as a teen, for fear of hearing her pick at me. My dad never did that. He made me feel like I could do anything.Margaret, I love the pics of the gardens. Are those hostas I see?
Rebecca, I am so sorry that your son is so ill. I was hoping that his Crohn's would get under control enough for him to stay in the Navy, but in the States with a desk job. It would be horrible to feel sick on a ship. So, he does need to be on land.
Rita, I have been praying for you.
Carol, I just found out that it is King Koil. His third interview was successful enough for the CEO to request an in-person interview. The other job for which he had a few interviews moved him to the next round of interviews. So he has another interview next week.
Will pray for your DH. I hope he takes it easy as well. You should see if you can get PT for your back.
M, the concert hall looks beautiful, and so are the tulips. I bet DH enjoyed getting out for a date night.
Pip, I love your planters, and I am going to paint a rock too. Currently, I am working on my mermaid child for my patient, whom I had to repair first. Did you ever have problems with your weight? You are so pretty. I bet your sister was a cheerleader. Do you have any pictures from when you were a teen? Were you always athletic? When did you start training?
Annie, I haven't heard from you. I hope all is well. Starting to worry about you.
Terri, sounds like you have your hands full. Hopefully, things will settle down to a routine soon.
Allie, Glad you had a break. I know you love your grans, but I was concerned if watching Miles would be too much for you. He looks pretty active.
Got to go to bed for work tonight. Talk to you all next week. Have a wonderful weekend.
XO,
Mo in MS
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Barbara - thinking of you and Tumble today.
Mo - crossing fingers your husband's interview went well.
Carol - hope the meds allow your husband to remain active and enjoy life for a long time. Do they know why his left ventricle is at 25%? I can't recall, did he have a heart attack or just plaque build up over the years? Is BnL's estate job nearly done? Your husband was so kind to take that over.
Margaret - what a lovely garden in the woods - thanks for sharing that photo.
Rita - glad you were able to find your son but so sorry to hear about his situation. Don't blame you for reporting the electronics stolen. Glad you are meeting with psychiatrist this afternoon. (((HUGS)))
Melanie - welcome to this group. We are a busy and lively bunch and talk about everything that pertains to health, not just weight loss. We avoid politics and religious debate (OK to say you're praying for someone if you're so inclined.)
Ladies, I wanted to comment a lot more but am rushing through again. Have the car jam packed with charity shop items. I had to make a lot of calls, finally found one that agreed to take the stemware. We're having late September wind gusts here today. Warm sun but the wind makes it feel a lot colder. Been out rearranging bungee cords on the new tarps over the chicken run, things were flapping By the way, haven't had an egg for 4 days now. The girls might be heading into winter shut down - I'm expecting to see them start to shed feathers before long as they molt.
Lanette ๐
SW WA State
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Did an incline interval workout and then went to Samโs to get some salmon that weโre going to have for dinner tonight. Then in the pool. After here, I think Iโll take Ganon for a walk. Have a load of laundry in right now
Mo โ I hope your husband gets the job he wants
I have a tool, too, that I use to open jars. It gives extra leverage
Gee Lisa โ sounds like what I do with my clothes. First, wear. Then they go into the โwork clothesโ pile. Then โrags to wash floor or stove or whateverโ Finally, garbage
Margaret โ she was supposed to go to the eye MD right after it happened. Guess Iโll find out next Tues what the result is.
Yesterday I saw the saddest thing. It almost made me cry. There was a leaf in the pool!!!!!
Rita (((BIG HUG)))
Melanie โ welcome! A livestock veterinarian? Not many women work with large animals. My daughter just finished her residency and is now working as a research vet. She does have an interest in large animals, tho
Sorry for the flyby. Off to take Ganon for a walk. Ceramics tonight.
Michele NC
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I started buying sheets at the thrift store when I was making masks. I got so many nice, soft cotton fabric sets for really cheap. Most, if I remember right were $2-$4 for a set. The fabric is great and so much wider than regular fabric for sewing. I also made the skirt I wore to my dad's memorial service from two of the sheets I bought there. Made the sample shirt for my friend's mom with another one- didn't end up fitting her(thankfully I used that fabric and not her fabric) so gave it to another friend.
Comfort is the main thing for me, then the color.Well, looks like another appliance we will have to replace this month- Thought the dryer was fixed- no squeal when we tried it- Sounded great- BUT didn't dry the clothes more than half way, tried another setting, still not dry and squeal started to come back. Air dried the load that was in the dryer and air drying(hanging them up) the second load. Most feel ok except the cotton tank tops of mine are a bit rough.
I haven't told dh yet that it didn't work. I will try another setting on the next load next week. I can always take the load over to son's to use the dryer there. With just dh and I here and no more clean up from the old cat. I am not doing much laundry. Eventually we will replace it. I am not in a hurry- more moving stuff around to get it out of the garage- we just have too much stuff. I will tell him later, not sure whenDebbie
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I was painfully skinny as a kid, I kinda looked anorexic. I wore really thick glasses, really long straight hair (mom wouldnโt let us girls cut our hair). I guess you could say I was bullied a lot. I was a late bloomer as far as boobs and *kitten* were concerned. I ran away from home. Thatโs when I started drinking, cussing and started out with taking pills (because I was so restricted at home). Mom disowned me for 10 year after I ran away, I was 19 when I went. I guess I was around 25-30 when I started putting on weight. After I left my 1st husband, I started doing harder drugs my main love was crank (Methamphetamine) never shot it, only snorted. After I left husband #2 I was bigger, I wanted to stop drugs so I had to get out of that marriage, then I met Lenny. I was at my biggest (i think 198) proud that I didnโt hit 200. By that time I was in my 30s. He bought me a gym membership when we moved to Seattle in 1990. I lost weight and became an aerobics instructor and I was in great shape, I had stopped drugs and stopped smoking. Lenny then died on 10/10/95 and depression stepped in big time and I put the weight back on because I just didnโt care. I then met Kirby so he met me fat, and 3 weeks after knowing him I moved to Indiana with him. I was on antidepressants and going to therapy and support groups at that time (Lenny died of AIDS). I let Kirby know up front about Lenny, he still stuck around. Kirby was a year round bicyclist riding around Seattle when we met so when we moved to Indiana he got me a bicycle and got me to ride. Slowly but surely, I dropped weight , (depression still there) and after 3 years we moved back to the west coast where we bought a house in Tacoma WA, I got a job with Amazon, he went back to hospital work, joined a gym here and then slowly got into running. 1st marathon at 55, did 3 of them, now only doing 1/2 marathons. I am roughly in the same shape that I was in my 30s when I was an aerobics instructor.
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us 3 with one of our brothers Joey, one year older than me. I donโt remember how old I was there
This is around late 30โs? We moved to Tacoma wa and that was rocky, our 1st golden
that was in tacoma
Kirby threw me a surprise bday party, that was in Indiana
I donโt have that many fat pics of me,
my body shape ow, this was when we went to South Carolina awhile ago, this is kinda my body shape now
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Well, I am sitting on the balcony with the dog at my DS's place in San Diego. Left DD andDGS at home to take care of the critters there. Was going to go in the pool here but decided not since I don't know when all of the kids will be out of school and heading to the pool. Planning on doing that tomorrow. Interesting flight yesterday as we had a wasp on the plane. They tried to get rid of it but didn't want to delay the flight so we took off with it. We had just started our landing when it began buzzing around again. A guy 1 row ahead of me and across the aisle finally was able to kill it. Just me and the dog this next week so lots of walking and pool time.
Welcome Melanie.
Barbara - hope Tumble does well.
Rita - sending good thoughts your way.
Everyone take care, Sue temporarily in San Diego
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I hope the rains hold off a few more weeks. We have our 45yr class reunion on 10/4 and it is outside!
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Yep, I was hoping too. But he knows his life is complicated enough to be trying to fit in the Navy when he's suffering these days. He is antsy to start the separation, and try to make sense of his life.
Rebecca, Whidbey Wa
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Welcome, Melanie! Mo and I both just finished The Frozen River. We enjoyed it - historical fiction about a real-life woman who was a midwife.
Rita, hugs, hugs and more hugs.
Barbara, thinking of you and hoping for the best possible outcome for Tumble. Hugs for you, too.
Carol, thinking of you and your DH.
Mo, wishing your DH the best of luck in his job hunt.
Lisa, my shower needs regrouting if you are available for a road trip. Just sayin'โฆโฆ
Did I tell y'all about my mother's fall and our decision to get her a medical alert necklace (her idea, thank goodness)? I swear that 92-year old woman must have bones of steel. She just gets up and keeps on going, but this one scared her a little bit.
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stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 1hr 29min 4sec, 10128steps, 55elev, 2.70ap, 87ahr, 121mhr, 4.17mi= 404c
Strava app= 505c
Walk home to gym- 11.02min, 1190steps, 3.0ap, .54mi= 53c
Strava app= 66c
Treadmill jog- 43.15min, 7724steps, 179spm, 156ahr, 182mhr, mile 1 @5 .5sp, mile 2 @6 .0sp, mile 3 @5 .6sp, mile 4 @6 .1sp, .10mi @ 6 .5sp, .10mi @8 .0sp, 10.18min mi, 4.2mi= 448c
Walk gym to home- 11.38min, 1282steps, 3.10ap, .60mi= 60c
Strava app= 73c
Walk kids- 8.27min, 872steps, 2.0ap, .33mi= 50c
Strava app= 41cTotal cal 1015
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Talked to my sister yesterday- she is still in the care facility. She has finally gotten her voice back after almost 3 months BUT now she has Covid- she said it is going through the facility
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Hidee ho slept all afternoon and have a feeling I will be awake tonight.oh well ut is what it is.visited with Tracy and Delia,she smiles at me and all but its all mommy all the time..poor girl she is 20 weeks and I don't know what she is gonna do when the new little one comes
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Dear all.ย Tumble's Chest xray shows no evidence of metastasis, thank God and thanks for the prayers.ย Sheโll be first surgery tomorrow morning.ย ๐
Barbara the AHMOD
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Feeling so much better after a day's rest and a couple of decent nights' sleep. Yesterday, the only things I did were, put away the Waitrose delivery, and make my quick goat's cheese and mint tart. No exercise, no writing. Just bliss from doing nothing. I watched a batch of wonderful, inspiring, YouTube videos. I thought the latest from Dawn, The Minimal Mum, was exceptional this week. Especially at the end when she talked about being sabotaged by accidentally coming across an object that brought back difficult memories. She is a very brave and courageous woman.
This morning I did a job I always put off, which is transferring my writing from my tablet to my laptop. I have always hated this laptop, and, now it is over 8 years old, I hate it even more. Still, it's done, and, the convoluted process I go through, does give me a chance to review what I've written. Not edit, just review. Contemplate. It's become part of the process for me.
Sending out loving thoughts to all those struggling, and to all those dealing with parents in their declining years. ๐๐ Especially to those whose parents fell way short in their care of you.
Welcome to the new person, the vet. ๐คฉ
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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