WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2025

barbiecat · November 10

😀 Margaret, I agree that you might not be the best person to say anything to your friend about her depression. I am like you that I have a collection of practices, many spiritual in nature, that have helped we walk through the tough times. They are not necessarily easily understood by others. Years ago someone told a group of women at dinner "you can't get over depression by lying on the couch:" which spoke to my beliefs about doing the next right thing. Gratitude is the center of my spiritual practices. The three shirts I rotate wearing say "Chop wood and carry water", "Snap out of it", and "Wake up grateful". The right food and exercise are important, too. Eating a pint of chocolate ice cream out of the carton may feel helpful in the moment, but a nourished body can withstand a lot of stress. I listen to and read things that focus on solution and avoid negative stuff. It sounds like your friend would benefit more from professional help or a professionally guided grief group.

😍 Barbie

pipcd34 · November 10

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sh0tzz99 · November 10

Tracey—I cannot imagine why the granddaughter would treat her grandmother that way. It’s totally undeserved. It’s terrible that the family is forever fractured, but in this case, it sounds like it’s for the best.

Melanie—The new company is not a big corporation. It’s very small—25 people. There is no pension. The healthcare options are very expensive and not great. There is a very small matching on a 401k (employer sponsored retirement plan) for which I’ve received no info, but don’t plan to use anyway. I’m at the point in my life that I need some income, but I don’t want to be bothered. I don’t need health insurance (right now I am on the mister’s plan) at the moment. I don’t need a 401k, and I don’t want to keep moving up the corporate ladder and I especially do not want to be in any sort of management/mentorship role. So, we will see what the future holds here.

Kylie—Lovely snow. I like to look at it, but don’t like getting out in it.

Machka—Thanks for the popping/cracking info. Mine is like bubble wrap. If I do a sit up, it starts at the bottom of the spine and pops all the way to the mid-back in succession. I hope it’s a muscle imbalance and not osteoporosis.

Foot update—I got a cortisone shot in the left foot. It felt great on day 2. By day 3, it started hurting again. Not as badly, but it’s still there. I have a follow up in a few weeks and if it’s not gone, I’ll get another one. In the meantime, I will resume my daily 3 miles walks. I just may do them slower.

For whatever reason, I have no motivation today.

Tina in CA

dlfk202000 · November 10

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/comment/48827103#Comment_48827103

That is my all time favorite, most used, of all my cookbooks(and I have a LOT). It is my go to for most things.

My tuna casserole is super simple and son loves it- start with a box of mac and cheese, add extra cheese(always add extra cheese even when just making plain mac and cheese) garlic powder, a can of tuna and a can of mixed veggies. He prefers it without the veggies but now that he is older he will eat it with them.

I rarely order tea/coffee when out- I know how cheap it is to make-I get water, no ice(ice = instant asthma attack for me). I also order things that will be good as left overs as I only eat half of my meal, sometimes less than half. Prices are so crazy. I have always thought eat out prices were too high and now, it is crazy. Dh is even more aware now but still thinks some places are decent prices when I think they are crazy high. We have our favorite places where the food is good, service is great and the prices are great for the amount you get. My favorite is a Hawaiian BBQ place- I get the chicken katsu plate. Comes with 12 pieces of chicken, two scoops of rice, a scoop of macaroni salad(and theirs is so good- I am very picky about my mac. salad!) and some steamed broccoli on a bed of steamed cabbage. The box is so full, they use a rubber band to close it- all for $11.50!

this is two orders- we were taking food over to son and his fiance for all of us.
One order, dh and I share and still have leftovers that we air fry the next day. It comes with tonkatsu sauce but I like mine with curry sauce which she remembers and gives me at no extra cost

SophieRosieMom · November 10

Rebecca - you gave me a good chuckle with "let's exchange pamphlets". Do you have any of the nudist pamphlets left? I could use a few, lol. 😁 Actually, you've given me an idea. Bet I could stick a little holder next to the front door with a sign that says "take one" and stuff it full of all kinds of pamphlets I can pick up around town. When an uninvited visitor shows up, I'll raise the blind and point to the pamphlet holder then close the blind. Leave them wondering and confused, lol.

Allie - loved the photos of SMiles and Delia at the Northern Express. When is Tracy due? Hope that UTI gets better quickly.

Debbie - thank you for the long catch-up in your world. I was wondering how your mom's MRI went. I bet Thanksgiving at your son's will be nice. Sorry the turnout for the sale wasn't great but good that it was close by. Hope next show is better.

Heather - so glad to hear your health problems are easing up. Looks you and John had a very nice visit with DSIL.

Barbie - agree, it's time to stock up in case weather prevents us from getting to the store. I used to buy tetra pack milk at the Dollar Tree. Shelf stable for many months. When I was in there last week, I didn't see any. The cartons I have tucked back here had a "best by" date of August 2025. They might be past usable quality now. Will pick up powdered milk next time I'm in town.

Melanie - I'm with you on the food for visitors. I think we all have memories of "you eat what's on your plate or go hungry" lol. Having the visitors watch eye surgery is a great idea. In my mind, unless a person was raised on a farm and grew up around birth, death, and in between, including wounds and wound care can take some getting used to. Regarding my visitors the other night, I actually did tell them I was this close to grabbing the pistol so it would behoove them to NEVER knock on my door again at night, or anyone's door. The looks on their faces. I wish I would have asked for their supervisor's name and number to emphasize the point of how unsafe it is to send the boys out in the dark. I don't remember a lot of home invasions when I was working at 911 25 years ago, but times have changed.

Regarding the Farmer's carry - so interesting we're now seeing the benefit of carrying heavy stuff. Carrying a heavy bucket of water or feed. Or a 20# container of kitty litter really does benefit us as we get older. Can we carry 5 lbs in each hand for 5 blocks? Peter Attia says this is a goal.

Kylia - sorry you had such a week, hope this week is better. When you said "snow" I had to check on my relatives in northern Indiana - looks like they are coming off the deep freeze too. Looks like the warmer weather is back for a while for you mid-westerners.

Margaret - you have done so well after your DH's and son's deaths, and I think you have a good formula for fighting depression. Diet, gratitude, volunteering, keeping up with friendships are working well for you. 🤩 I'm waiting to hear back from the new insurance company I want to go with for my Medicare supplemental. Should be OK, I'm sure they are inundated. Hoping to see a net saving of over $100 per month and crossing fingers nothing major next year since it's high-deductible. I rewatched a video yesterday about the benefits of Near Infrared light and the importance of getting some morning sun, outside, to start our days. I think it's supposed to help with depression. I know my mood is better when the sun is shining v. a cloudy day, but between checking on the chickens several times a day and the bird feeders, I get to be outside quite a bit.

Barbie - thanks for the exercise recommendations, and great insight into depression. I think gratitude makes all the difference. And smiling. I just came back from shopping in town, and always try to greet everyone with a cheery smile, an uplifting comment. It's a habit I cultivated after my DH passed. This morning I was in line with a little gal who was a schoolteacher and she told me about how she does her lesson plans. I thought it was so interesting. I wonder how many people give her the time to talk about her job like this. Glad I was there. I'm learning to shut up about myself and listen, too. 😉

Better get this posted. Make it a super week, ladies.

Lanette 😎

SW WA State

SophieRosieMom · November 10

MFP Weekly Check-In 11-10-25

Debbie in Napa Valley CA -weight is staying the same- at least it isn't going up.

Barbara on the Southern Oregon Coast-

Missed last Monday so...

Week ending: 11/9 11/2 Oct 26

Avg WT 132.2 131.2 130.9

Avg steps 4758 5223 4923

AF days 43% 71% 57%

Thought AF pctg would have been worse, its been a week...Ps@2s habit solid but no easier .No knee and shoulder PT, BB&B/PT knee lifts, split squats, dynamic balance, or chair yoga, foo. Way too many poor choices and inactivity on Medford trip resulted in 4+ lb gain within two days. :P

Hope to catch up with the thread soon!

Lanette in SW WA State - Weight same as last week. Steps avg. this past week: 7952, up from last week. Still house walking after most meals, carrying weights. Back to SWSY twice a week.

Whidislander · November 10

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/comment/48829601#Comment_48829601

I think all the young impressionable guys with the suits and name tags knocked on our door on purpose, just for those dang pamphlets! We don't have any left!

Good idea with the random pamphlets! I would just get a fake ring camera, a note that says if you leave a pamphlet you must take a pamphlet! Its my law, and violators will be fined!

Rebecca Whidbey Wa

OregonMother · November 10

Melanie. It is kind of you to ask about special dietary needs.

As someone who is celiac and whole foods plant based, I feel like that's my problem. If you had asked me, I would have just said celiac, and then prefer vegan, but if it's one or the other, prioritize no gluten, since it really does make me sick. But I eat around what I don't like or don't prefer. I have ordered roasted veggies at a restaurant many times, and been happy and satisfied. Just give them options they can choose from, without being a short order cook.

Still busy here. Five more weeks, more or less, until Christmas break. I am more than ready!

My littles, actually getting along. They get distracted by the squirrels and forget to fight with each other!

Much love.

Flea

Willamette Valley OR

pipcd34 · November 10

well kids, one thing for some unknown reason I had stopped doing my floor exercises since I moved to California. I have decided that I was going to start them up again. Through reading, I found some of the exercises I was doing was helping me run and I discovered new ones I could do. So I’ve got a plan. I am going to do a 10k instead of the 1/2 next year but I still planned on running it. In doing these floor exercises again I will find out if they have benefited me by next year or not., I’m sure they will. I will also try walk/running them which will be new for me. I’ve read all kinds of plans and I think I like the walk 1 minute, run 5. There are different ones, we’ll see. I am thinking I will also do a full marathon when I’m 70 with the run/walk method. I should have it down by then. This is of course if I’m still alive by then.

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grandmallie · November 10

Afternoon ladies

My dear Doris is in the hospital,she had shortness of breath,so her son took her over and they are keeping her for a couple of days,and I think she maybe will be going to nursing home end of the week

They love the mini pancakes,Miles eats them frozen lol

dlfk202000 · 1:38AM

High today was 83. At 5:30, still 70. Supposed to get down to 52 tonight

pipcd34 · 2:18AM

stats for the day-

Walk w/family- 1hr 29min 17sec, 10220steps, 76elev, 2.50ap, 83ahr, 162mhr, 4.09mi= 397c
Strava app= 496c
Walk home to gym- 10.49min, 1270steps, 2.80ap, .52mi= 47c
Strava app= 63c
Bosu ball various legs exercises, single leg squats, etc- some 2 sets of 10 each, 5 different exercises, jumping ing place and single leg jumps 2sets of 100, 103ahr, 134mhr= 114c
Lateral machine- 15min, 10w, lvl2, 113ahr, 143mhr, 7laps, 1.66mi= 137c
Walk gym to store then home- 18.44min, 2096steps, 2.50ap, .81mi= 87c
Strava app= 99c
Walk kids- 12.20min, 1252steps, 2.10ap, .47mi= 61c
Strava app= 57c

Total cal 846

right now it’s a clear night, 69 degrees

Snowflake1968 · 4:26AM

Heather - she bought that dresser for $40 off Marketplace. I will probably refinish it in the summer for her, it needs some love on the top.
A lot of my craft supplies are still behind the shower curtain and in the cubbies. I really can’t empty them all out. I am emptying the bottom of my China cabinet today and will put a lot of the most used stuff in there.
I’m quite sad to lose my room but it is for the greater good. She would have been absolutely fine with me leaving it, but I want her to know she’s wanted and we aren’t “putting up with her.”

If I thought for two seconds I could get her to talk to a therapist I would get her one, but I know she won’t.
I fear she’s depressed, and I know she’s hurting tremendously. I hope our love is enough and she finds happiness in her remaining years.

Lanette - that is scary, I’m glad they were harmless and you gave them the what for.

I was so looking forward to today as MIL’s things were to be removed today, when her son in law showed up they wouldn’t let him in. They claimed they didn’t hear him pounding on the door and were still sleeping. 🙄
They think we’re all stupid.

Anyway I woke up to him calling me, I called the RCMP but apparently they have almost squatters rights. We have to wait for them to be evicted by the sheriff. Hopefully we still are able to get her stuff. My SIL wants to pay them to give her stuff to her SIL but we all told him no.Her daughter called last night and acted all nice. I knew that it was a fishing expedition, but she didn’t get as much out of Mom as she was hoping I’m sure.

We also found out today she was coerced into signing an 11000+ loan in 2023 that now has an outstanding balance of 12000+ because of missed payments. MIL doesn’t even know what it was for.
Every single day I learn something new.

Maybe one of these days soon I can actually start talking about something else, this is just consuming my every waking moment right now. It’s exhausting.
Tracey in Edmonton

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