Sabotage

MikeSEA
MikeSEA Posts: 1,074 Member
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
Does anyone have friends, family members, co-workers et al who sometimes say things similar too: "We all die sometime." or "I'm going to enjoy mountain of ribs while I can!" ?

This isn't really just a weight loss issue. It's more of a general health issue with some weight loss crossover. But really? Sometimes I point out that there are worse, and more painful things than death. It's not as if everyone who dies from preventable heart disease passes away peacefully in their sleep.

To each their own, but at least when I enjoy a bacon cheeseburger I know it's fitting into my goals and I've talked with people who survived heart attacks and strokes.

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  • Cold_Steel
    Cold_Steel Posts: 897 Member
    I think people unintentionally sabotage more than intentionally. For instance, a friend of mine was talking about how much my weight loss inspired them and when I visited them I see a half eaten box of fries and some Jack in the Box burger wrappings on the table and they offer me one. I just think like most things people just do not understand and see every thing as a temporary change not realizing that people are trying to make permanent life changes.
  • jmelyan23
    jmelyan23 Posts: 1,648 Member
    I kind of feel like people who are like that are still stuck in the way things are. They're not ready to change their lifestyle and don't really have intentions of doing so.

    I agree with xayekim--sometimes those people just can't understand that sometimes when people are trying to change their health, it isn't temporary. It's not a diet. It's a permanent, LIFESTYLE change. With how many diets and quick-fixes come and go, I think a lot of people go through life thinking that weight loss and maintenance can't be permanent.
  • MikeSEA
    MikeSEA Posts: 1,074 Member
    Yeah this came out of a conversation where a co-worker vehemently defended his position (I wasn't attacking it per se) that he's overweight and that's that, and he's fine if it kills him because he loves his food.

    I attempted to point out that there can be balance in the form of eating great food and being (mostly) healthy and that a sudden death would be the least of his worries, but some people get a little irrational.
  • papa5280
    papa5280 Posts: 80
    I have a Jewish mother. It kills her when we go to dinner and I don't have a plate overflowing with food. She's not intentionally sabotaging me, but she tries to put things on my plate, order extra food for me, etc.

    For her, it comes from a culture where food represents security and caring. So, more is always better, for the ones you love. She doesn't understand that I'm not suffering with my human-sized portions, but I can only shrug it off.
  • Skinny_minny_mo
    Skinny_minny_mo Posts: 1,272 Member
    I've decided not to tell anyone about my weight loss goals as I found that the more people ask me, the more conscious I become about it and the more I have food on my mind.

    This way, I have my own goals and expectations and i'll let the results speak for it self :wink:

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  • silkysly
    silkysly Posts: 701 Member
    Not one of my friends or family lives a healthy lifestyle. They tend to discount the time I put into my health by saying I have a natural high metabolism or they can’t afford to eat healthy. In reality, it’s every meal, every temptation, every push up, every exercise & every mile I run…, to be me. I have learned to say “This is a choice, (pointing to my 124 lb body) just like that is YOUR choice for you.” Mean? Maybe, but they are just as mean with their word..
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