Respect the skinny people too!

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erin2081
erin2081 Posts: 368 Member
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Someone recently made a post about a friend being critical of their healthy eating habits. Another commented about a "110lb coworker" commenting on her food choices.
I myself am close to that 110lbs, and make attempts (occasionally) to turn down unhealthy food from my....lets say 170lb coworkers (because the weight of the commenter apparently matters).
I'm just wondering....WHY is it that people who are overweight have all the freedom in the world to make comments on what I eat, and how much I weigh, but I am not allowed to comment on their weight or eating habits?
Why is it ok for people to say, "Have you gained some weight?" "You need to gain some weight!" "You're too skinny!" or "like you really need to eat healthy. Come ON." ??
Really. I mean, sometimes almost spitting, as if my choosing to eat healthy (or no) foods somehow disgusts them to the point of having to make faces while they talk.
Why is it that eating healthy food and/or watching your calories and exercising when you're not 50lbs overweight is somehow an open invite to make rude comments? You don't hear me walking around telling overweight people, "Have you gained some weight?" "You need to lose some weight!" "You're too fat!" or "You REALLY need to diet. Come ON."
I wish people would respect skinnies too.
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  • Ninja_Knitty
    Ninja_Knitty Posts: 67
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    :) Comical double standard that I could really care less about, but is really fun to talk about. :) Love your post.
  • MissingMyOldSelf
    MissingMyOldSelf Posts: 689 Member
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    When I commented on the post you were talking about, it was because of a so-called friend, who maybe weighs 140lbs... probably more like 130.... and she's never dieted in her life, but proceeded to criticize ME.... her FRIEND... for wanting to have a "cheat" meal.

    In reality... it's not kosher for someone who's never had a problem with weight in their life to criticize, joke (no matter the situation), or try to belittle the person dieting when they're in a struggle to lose. Just like it's not right for someone to say, "Wow... that person's BIG...." especially if they don't know if there's a medical reason why they got heavy. People don't always just get big by eating anything they wish, but people automatically assume that if a person doesn't eat salads and fruits and veggies, the moment they put a chicken wing in their mouth, they're bound to gain 5lbs.
  • babyblake11
    babyblake11 Posts: 1,107 Member
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    im 50kg (110lb) and i get exactly the same thing. people are like you dont NEED to eat healthy youre already skinny. you dont NEED to work out youre already skinny.
    makes me mad, eating healthy and exercising isnt a quick fix its something EVERYONE should do for the REST of their life!
  • ptrain987
    ptrain987 Posts: 30
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    why do we have to say anything at all?!?! so what if ur skinny and other people are fat....some people think 110lbs is too skinny and the whole world thinks 170 is waaaaayyy too fat. lol where does that place me?!?! i'm not even included on the charts....who cares u do u and let the haters do their on thing. I will say this...yes i want to be skinny but not skinny to the point where i have bones sticking out all over the place...that's just not cute...for my height my maxium healthy weight is 150lbs so we'll see how that looks when i get there. The point is...everyone has their own views...if u look at yourself everyday and you're happy then u shouldn't let it get to you. You do what makes you happy not what makes the world happy. U have to live with you, sleep with you, dress you, and feed you, not the world. tell dem b*tches to stop hatin' and mind theirs. :)
  • daves160
    daves160 Posts: 600
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    Because! that's why. (double standards suck no matter what the case)
  • babyblake11
    babyblake11 Posts: 1,107 Member
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    but i will go on to say that you are starving yourself. eat food!
  • brandenocs
    brandenocs Posts: 146 Member
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    I'm in agreement 110%. My wife gets it all the time. She's 5'8" 116lbs and gets that crap all the time. It's stupid that if you say anything to an overweight person, they lose their sh**, but they have the INDECENCY to make judgements of ANYONE'S weight. The part that bothers me most about how overweight people treat naturally thin people, is the whole "REAL women have curves crap". Most of these women are severely overweight and the only way they curve is out, like this (____). I don't know if it's to make themselves feel better, but making ANY kind of comments like that against thin people is wrong. And it doesn't mean the thin woman is any less woman than the overweight woman.




    Oh and I am/have been overweight so if this put a fire in anyone's belly and wants to fight me on it... Bring it. I'm not a thin person by any means but can still see the injustice.
  • michedarnd
    michedarnd Posts: 207 Member
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    *chuckle* Now, *I* LOVE this post! Don't get me wrong. I'm fat. I'm middle-aged. I'm short. I'm black. I'm a female in a male-dominated field. SUPPOSEDLY, this gives me the right to say whatever I want, by social standards. I also think that that assumption is a pile of bull. I'm sorry that people take their frustration and jealousy out on you, but maybe, if you look at their envious remarks as a kind of back-handed compliment and walk away with your head held high, YOU can feel better about it. Personally, I admire you for striving to keep healthy habits so that you DON'T end up like many of us, in the first place! GOOD FOR YOU!!!!
  • ElementalEscapee
    ElementalEscapee Posts: 552 Member
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    Dude, I hear you! My friend is 5'4" and weighs about 70 something lbs usually...she eats junk food because that's all she gets/can afford, but she actually prefers healthy food and EATS MORE THAN ME so no she doesn't have an eating disorder and I wish people would stop assuming that >.<
  • MIMITIME
    MIMITIME Posts: 405 Member
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    I never bring up weight in any conversation whether the person is thin or fat. Now deep down I am probably wanting to hate the thin person since I am fat but I know they are thin for a reason and I am fat for a reason. Like another poster said - Why say anything at all? Random comments about weight are wrong either way.
  • cantjustcant
    cantjustcant Posts: 1,027 Member
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    That was probably my post.. this is what I said

    YES! Mine is a 110 pound co-worker! She has her two cents to add no matter what I am eating! She eats crap and then says things like one little cookie won't kill you. I also weigh and measure everything I eat. Like tonight I made a fruit and vege platter I went back and part of it is gone! She said I didn't think you would miss all that extra food! SMACK!



    I never say anything to anyone about what or how they are eating. I think it is rude. If I was eating something my kids didn't like and they said ewww I would say "I don't say things about what you eat, please don't say things about mine." Now that is to my children...I'm allowed.

    But she says things to me all the time! Anything I eat she has to comment on it. I usually just say thank you for that information and continue what I am doing. Tonight I had fruits and veges for dinner while she ate mozzarella sticks and french fries (ohhh and half of my plate too!) I never said a word to her...

    So I am wrong to come here when someone asked if people made comments about their food and share my experience?
  • plantgrrl
    plantgrrl Posts: 436 Member
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    It's how society is...blah, blah, blah. When I was small and cute my heavier sisters used to say they were going to "force feed me butter." They were kind of joking, but you know jealousy, insecurity. We like people to be as miserable as we are. Though, in all fairness, I really don't think fat people need to hear how fat they are--they may already have self esteem issues. You/we don't like it when someone tells us we should "eat more" either, but it us it's merely extremely annoying, it doesn't really make you feel bad (IME).

    BUT YES, everyone should shut the heck up about other people's weights. It would probably help us all with our weight/body issues. Esp. the negative stuff, no one wants to hear it, we should all just respect each other.
  • unsuspectingfish
    unsuspectingfish Posts: 1,176 Member
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    To be fair, I'm quite obviously overweight and people still make rude or snarky comments about my healthy food choices. Some people get REALLY offended when they see you eating healthy, like they expect you to start preaching to them at any moment. That being said, I never say such things to anyone. You eat what you want, I'll eat what I want.
  • Ninja_Knitty
    Ninja_Knitty Posts: 67
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    Exactly. Back handed comments should be taken as a compliment. The person may not be judging you so much as judging themselves. Life's to short to worry about what anyone else thinks. I plan on eating healthy most of the time, but put that chicken wing in my face and I'll be licking your fingers, too. :)
  • getskinnyk8
    getskinnyk8 Posts: 28
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    Someone recently made a post about a friend being critical of their healthy eating habits. Another commented about a "110lb coworker" commenting on her food choices.

    Someone probably made a post like that because the "110 pound person" probably said something like, "You shouldn't eat that" to the heavier person.
    Which is rude.

    Just like it's rude to say to a 110 pound person, "Why aren't you eating? You're so skinny."

    Either one is rude and awkward.
  • MissingMyOldSelf
    MissingMyOldSelf Posts: 689 Member
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    Agreed agreed agreed!
    Its like asking "when's the baby due?"
    "Uh....I'm not pregnant."

    That happened to me at IKEA once, before I started losing weight. I'm 5'3" and I weighed 228, and to top it off, I carried my weight like a pregnant woman. Of course the lines are mile long at the check out, and some older lady... maybe around 65 or so, told me and my husband to go ahead of her, so "his pregnant wife can go sit down."

    B*tch, be glad you're cute, and elderly.... because I would have done some "pregnant" jujitsu.
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
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    I DESPISE the word "skinny" but respect and agree with all else you said. I'm so sick of everyone on here thinking this is just to lose weight or people in real life questioning or mocking my food choices. Lifestyle changes, baby, and anyone any size can and should do it.
  • deathstarclock
    deathstarclock Posts: 512 Member
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    Could be that the easiest thing to do is not let it bother you and devote your energy towards things that concern your life more than the opinions voiced by others. Look at it this way, if it's not going to affect you tomorrow, why waste your time worrying about it today?

    Example: somebody called me a dirty jew for no apparent reason other than the fact that I don't like pork. Am I really going to sit there and let myself get heated for a comment that existed for the amount of time it took to say it? Is this person going to say the exact same thing to my face at the exact same time tomorrow? Will this continue for the rest of my life? Most likely, no. So why should I expend the energy to get pissed off, possibly start a fight, and suffer the consequences? Why waste my time??? Ignore it.

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