Do You or Don't You?

FitForeverAgain
FitForeverAgain Posts: 330 Member
edited October 2024 in Fitness and Exercise
So, awkward is all I can say. I just finished a long business trip to the East coast. I found a great gym, grab a week long pass and got some great workouts in. I'm on the treadmill day two, and this very classy, attractive and fit woman (late 20's & with two great tats - my weakness) strikes up a conversation...cool - I think. She jumps on the treadmill and works out. We chat a bit more after that. Here's where it gets a bit, well, odd. She doesn't smell good at all...in fact, kinda nasty body odorish / stale smelling. After chatting a bit, she asks if I want to get a workout in the next morning - I tell her what I plan doing, and she says she'd love to join me. So, it had to be a one-time thing, right - just a random episode of old gym clothes or something? Yeah, NOPE. 6:00, we're doing a lower body workout, and the hot, classy chick is simply funky - and not in a good way - again!

So, she asks me if I want to do cardio the morning - I declined and said I had to work early. I went to another gym, and bought another pass. So, my question is...do you say something!?

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  • 1234terri
    1234terri Posts: 217 Member
    If you're just visiting, why say anything, chances are you won't have to deal with this much longer.
  • Heatherbledsoe
    Heatherbledsoe Posts: 106 Member
    dude, youre at a gym, or is this new to you? I dont smell like a bed of roses at the gym!
    Chances are if shes "classy" its just from working out. smh... -.-
  • Shayyy01
    Shayyy01 Posts: 290 Member
    You want some one to tell you?
    I would but in a the nicest way possible.

    To be honest when i'm working out i know i stink so i'll say it out loud. Eh everyones different.
  • DKev
    DKev Posts: 266 Member
    I must admit, I would have done what you did. Said nothing and found somewhere else to go lol but I'm not very bold when it comes to telling people things like that.
  • iysys
    iysys Posts: 524
    i have discovered that some people have very different ideas of what is appropriate hygiene. we used to have a girl who worked here. early 30s. very cool and hip. married. artist. cute as can be. however she smelled like such deep b.o. that she actually smelled sour...like rotten milk.

    she is probably aware of what she smells like and just doesn't care.
  • PeachyKeene
    PeachyKeene Posts: 1,645 Member
    dude, youre at a gym, or is this new to you? I dont smell like a bed of roses at the gym!
    Chances are if shes "classy" its just from working out. smh... -.-

    ^^^this! I am very sure I smell really funky when I work out.
  • FitForeverAgain
    FitForeverAgain Posts: 330 Member
    Ok, clarification. I played team sports - I've worked out a long time - I understand natural funk. I've had natural funk. This was UNNATURAL funk. Wrong in alot of ways. She was sweet, and I wanted to say something...there is simply no way this girl knew how bad it was. I figured since I was a transient, maybe I should have said something...
  • kunibob
    kunibob Posts: 608 Member
    Though there are definitely different ways to approach it, here are my thoughts...

    Comments like that from strangers or near-strangers don't generally do a lot of good. They hurt, and they usually get dismissed as "he/she is just a jerk" and don't even have a meaningful impact anyway, so it's kind of lose-lose. Besides, without context, you don't know if she has a temporary medical condition that causes body odour or even just can't do laundry right now because her hot water is out, or other explanations like that...all of which could make you look pedantic or insensitive. In my opinion, those kinds of comments are better off coming from friends, who know the full context AND the best way to approach it. So, I agree with the idea of staying silent.
  • sharonsjones
    sharonsjones Posts: 574 Member
    I wouldn't want a stranger to tell me that I smelled. If my husband or a friend told me it wouldn't bother me as much. But I think I would be horrified if a stranger told me.
  • RoanneRed
    RoanneRed Posts: 429 Member
    Always difficult - I recently had to raise the topic with one of my gym members as it was affecting the workouts of others (hard to breathe properly while working out if the air stinks) and it's a small gym in a country town. Unfortunately, I've gone as far as I can - if it doesn't improve I can't really start questioning his daily hygiene habits.

    On a personal note, I would've done something similar to you, although very annoying that you had to go somewhere totally different.
  • Scoobies87
    Scoobies87 Posts: 379
    dude, youre at a gym, or is this new to you? I dont smell like a bed of roses at the gym!
    Chances are if shes "classy" its just from working out. smh... -.-

    Haha, my thoughts exactly.
  • Improvised
    Improvised Posts: 925 Member
    I wouldn't want a stranger to tell me that I smelled. If my husband or a friend told me it wouldn't bother me as much. But I think I would be horrified if a stranger told me.

    Haha! Me too!
  • AshleyNicole8686
    AshleyNicole8686 Posts: 103 Member
    Nope don't say anything! Bad plan, you did the right thing for sure! I would be horrified as well if a stranger told me or someone I had recently met, especially if I wanted to make a good impression.
  • Jana9559
    Jana9559 Posts: 29
    I think a stranger is the perfect person to tell someone that they stink. Although, that is a touchy subject and we wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings so you'd have to approach it delicately. I would have said, "you're a very nice person but for some reason you are putting off a strange odor....maybe it's from your sweat?" Then I would say, "I would get that checked into because the odor is offensive and perhaps you can' t smell it." Hopefully, she would say, "oh really?, I'm sorry, maybe I'm sweating too much" and you could say, "yeah, maybe you just need a different deodorant". Etc.... And hopefully the conversation could turn beneficial instead of a resentment. But if it did turn bad, who cares. You'll never see her again and you possibly may have helped her in a way that no one else was brave enough to do. :)
  • NoDairy
    NoDairy Posts: 88
    No way that would not had been classy of you to tell her. Maybe it was her time of the month.
    Watever it was you just cant touch that subject... If she smelled she must not be that classy..
  • skarr28
    skarr28 Posts: 98
    One possible reason? If you do a quick little study on pheromones, you might find that the reason you found her rank (lol) was because you're body chemistry just doesn't mesh wish hers (suggesting to you that she wouldn't be a good canditate to have children with; according to these studies, pheromones could be the culprit in this case).

    To you, her natural BO may have smelled repellent, to another, she could smell like roses. Or, you know, she could have BV or have halitosis, etc (oh, the possibilities, lol).

    In any case, a stranger telling her or hinting that she stinks probably wouldn't go over so well. I remember meeting this one person and they greeted me hello with a hug (some ppl are just huggers, lol) & their bo (too much garlic!) almost made me instantly gag as soon as it entered my nostrils. I was covering my mouth, doing my best to keep it together, but, wow! Man! Did I want to say something! But, i didn't (I had to make a quick escape, lol). I felt bad for her & for my reaction. I wonder how I would have felt if I had said something.

    My advice? If you think it's a 'natural smell', then give'r. If not, walk away before you gag, lol.
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