Dear me ten years ago,

ladyofivy
ladyofivy Posts: 648
edited September 19 in Chit-Chat
Dear Me, ten years ago,

You just turned 20 a couple of months ago. You are young, smart and beautiful. You will be getting married in a few months, and while your life seems hectic right now, there is so much more to come.

At this point, you haven't experienced too much death in your life, but just wait to see what the next ten years hold. Your first child, your brother, two of your grandparents and your soon-to-be husband's grandfather... cherish the precious time that you have with these and all other people in your life.

You'll make and lose friends, and the ones you lose really won't come back to you. For a while, you might blame yourself, but in the end you'll start to realize that it had nothing to do with you... it simply was what it was.

While you don't think you need it now, please start eating right and exercising. Contrary to popular belief, apparently jumping jacks *did* do something for you in high school PE. Remember that your health is important. Your dad will be diagnosed as diabetic, and you can probably stop this diagnosis from happening to you, if you only work at keeping yourself healthy.

Trust your gut. If you've been suspecting something, you're probably right.

While it's ten years down the line, I don't have regrets. If things hadn't played out just so, my life would be so much different, and I really like my life right now. If I had a chance to live the past ten years over, I'd spend more time loving, more time laughing, and less time worrying. Because life is REALLY short.

You'll learn that in the next ten years.

Love,

Me today

[Feel free to write your own letter to you ten years ago.]
:)

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  • ladyofivy
    ladyofivy Posts: 648
    Dear Me, ten years ago,

    You just turned 20 a couple of months ago. You are young, smart and beautiful. You will be getting married in a few months, and while your life seems hectic right now, there is so much more to come.

    At this point, you haven't experienced too much death in your life, but just wait to see what the next ten years hold. Your first child, your brother, two of your grandparents and your soon-to-be husband's grandfather... cherish the precious time that you have with these and all other people in your life.

    You'll make and lose friends, and the ones you lose really won't come back to you. For a while, you might blame yourself, but in the end you'll start to realize that it had nothing to do with you... it simply was what it was.

    While you don't think you need it now, please start eating right and exercising. Contrary to popular belief, apparently jumping jacks *did* do something for you in high school PE. Remember that your health is important. Your dad will be diagnosed as diabetic, and you can probably stop this diagnosis from happening to you, if you only work at keeping yourself healthy.

    Trust your gut. If you've been suspecting something, you're probably right.

    While it's ten years down the line, I don't have regrets. If things hadn't played out just so, my life would be so much different, and I really like my life right now. If I had a chance to live the past ten years over, I'd spend more time loving, more time laughing, and less time worrying. Because life is REALLY short.

    You'll learn that in the next ten years.

    Love,

    Me today

    [Feel free to write your own letter to you ten years ago.]
    :)
  • havingitall
    havingitall Posts: 3,728 Member
    If only we could have received these letters when we were younger. Do you think we would have listened?
  • lynniejones
    lynniejones Posts: 1,291 Member
    Dear me at 30,

    Appreciate those perky boobs, gravity is a b**ch.

    Lovingly yours,

    Me at 40.
  • kpnuts23
    kpnuts23 Posts: 960 Member
    Dear me at 30,

    Appreciate those perky boobs, gravity is a b**ch.

    Lovingly yours,

    Me at 40.

    :laugh: I'll take your advice at 20!!! :laugh:
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    Heck NO I don't think we would have listened
    I think you live and learn and make mistakes...all part of the process

    I think I need to go back 15yrs..LOL
    I would tell myself
    -you can do it alone, you don't NEED someone/anyone to fill that void....
    -be yourself...be confident....have fun (I'm specifically talking about with Greg..LOL)...
    -be vulnerable...let the wall down...you don't always have to be so tough..
    -don't get married until you are 35 dummy :)

    Love you!!
    Me
  • Sparksfly
    Sparksfly Posts: 470 Member
    Dear Me at 13,

    The next few years are going to be tough. High school will be better than middle school but not nearly as great as college. No matter what your mother, father, or grandmother says, you are not fat. You are beautiful. Oh, and when your 18 year old boyfriend offers you alcohol at 14...politely decline. :-) You'll thank me later.


    Melissa
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    Dear Me At 30,

    You are so young and beautiful, how can you not see that?

    Do not put yourself down at all, but especially infront of your daughter that every says looks just like you! You are smart, how did you miss this one?

    Take pictures with YOU in them. NO ONE cares about your fat arms, wide butt or waist.........they love YOU, so should you. You will look at those pictures when you are 45 and wonder where you were. Were you invisable? (except when bent over something, then your DH always found the time to snap a shot!!:wink: )

    Please know you are important. Everything you do is an example for the kids, they will eat what you eat, exercise if you exercise. If there are only apples and oranges and no chips-no one will die! They will eventually eat the apples and oranges and a long time from now, thank you.

    Play like your children! Can you believe you play hopscotch and jump rope at 47 and love it???

    Signed,

    Young and Beautiful At 47!!! :flowerforyou:
  • thejarviclan
    thejarviclan Posts: 465 Member
    Dear Me, Ten Years Ago:

    Things feel hard right now, but it's all a journey - and you are going to LOVE the woman you are becoming! Give it a few more years.

    Love, Me, Now
    P.S. - Enjoy every day with your children, especially that precious new baby girl! They're going to grow up so fast.
  • loreeb18
    loreeb18 Posts: 1,221 Member
    Dear me at 16,

    Don't worry that you aren't the "hot" girl and the guys you have crushes on always like your friends. Be patient and when the time is right, you will meet a wonderful man who thinks YOU are hot. He will treat you well and life will be great. He will also love your other great qualities. Guys in their 20's appreciate smarts and a sense of humor much more than 16 year olds boys do.

    P.S. Your first baby will be adorable!
  • marisa0918
    marisa0918 Posts: 178
    Dear Me at 15,

    Stop parting, and listen to your parents more. When you are 17 and get the chance to go to Italy go, but this time try to focus more on the area you are in and not the boy you are with. When you're 18 and meet that guy 10 years older then you, stay away....it will just be heartache :cry: This time stay in college so you won't have to go back when you are 25....ohh and major in accounting so you won't have to change your major 5 times. Just because you go to the #1 party school does not mean you have to party every night....focus on college. And study Spanish...you took 4 years of it so learn to speak it...it will come in handy when you move to FL. Spend more time with your grandparents. Get to know your brother more. When you do move to FL and meet the "biker" don't talk to your mom about your problems with him....it will just make your family despise him, and will make life so much harder. You two will have a lot of rough patches, but in the end you make it through so don't stress the fights so much. And he will give you a gorgeous daughter :happy: The weekend after your daughter is born DO NOT I repeat DO NOT let her daddy go for a ride on his cruiser because some a-hole will run a stop sign and run him over. And hey if that didn't happen your stress levels wouldn't have been through the roof and you wouldn't have gained 40 pounds :grumble: Enjoy life and remember you don't have to be the center of attention to be happy

    Love,
    Me at 25
  • Heather125
    Heather125 Posts: 433 Member
    Dear me at 15


    TURN AROUND AND RUN THE OTHER WAY



    Yup this was the advice that would have helped me but I would have never listened
  • memaw66
    memaw66 Posts: 2,558 Member
    Dear me ten years ago,

    Spend as much time with your parents as possible. Cherish them for they will not be around forever. Make your mother GO to the doctor. Sometimes the kids have to BE the parents! Listen to your father, he is a pretty smart guy. You could learn a lot from him. Try not to get too emotionally attached to your extended family because they are just there for thier own gain, they aren't who they seem to be. Your kids will turn out okay but you will NEVER stop worrying about them, just because they are out of the house doesn't mean the problems go away. Your marriage is going to be stronger than you ever realized possible. Your husband loves you for you and wants you to feel good about yourself. Always try to have a job you enjoy because it makes it so much easier to go to work every morning. Things always have a way of working out even when it seems like it's the end of the world. Let go and let GOD! HE is wonderful!

    Me Now.
  • megancolleen
    megancolleen Posts: 106
    I find this post so funny because my younger sister is 10 years younger than me and I am always trying to help her through these horrible couple of years and she doesn't want to listen!

    So here it goes:

    Dear me at 14,

    Dan (you know the one you are in love with and doeasnt even look at you) will fall in love with you in hs and you will want nothing to do with him.you are not fat! Who cares if your chest is a little un-even your bigger than all you so called friends anyway. Your family is the most inportant thing in the world. Cut your mom a little slack she is trying so hard! Play sports even if you think its not cool and try your hardest you will need that schloroship in college! Just don't stress the little things! Life gets better in hs even better in college and you will meet your prince charming when your ready who will treat you amazing! Love me
  • lynniejones
    lynniejones Posts: 1,291 Member
    I honestly love this thread and a lot of these message brought real big crocodile tears to my eyes.
  • songbyrdsweet
    songbyrdsweet Posts: 5,691 Member
    Dear me ten years ago,

    Let the boys make fun of you now. In 10 years, you'll be able to kick their *kitten* and out-squat them.
    Oh, and you're only 12. Stop thinking about boys! :noway:

    Love,

    Yourself

    :drinker:
  • 3babybeans
    3babybeans Posts: 8,268 Member
    Dear Me-at-16,

    Savor the rest of your teen years. Don't rush things. The boyfriend isn't going anywhere so stop freaking out about it (you get married & have three beautiful kids...you'll see...it's great).

    You'll continue to have issues with your father but only until you're 20 & move out. Then you'll realize that you're just like him & that was the problem all along. He's a wonderful grandpa.

    I could tell you so much more about going away to school, spending more time with your friends, etc...but all of those things could change where I am today & I'm not willing to do that. You will LOVE your life, just give it time.

    Love,
    Me-at-26

    p.s. PUT DOWN THE CHOCOLATE & COKE!!!! :laugh:
  • CassieNic
    CassieNic Posts: 223
    dear a 12 almost 13 yr old Cass,

    josh will try to talk you into something you are not ready for. you say yes, then will freak at the last minute and tell him no. then he will dump you because you said no. hun, do not let that get you down, he was so not worth it, dont spend your highschool years thinking you have to sleep with boys to get them to like you. thats exactly what they are boys. wait till you get older and fall in love with a MAN. :wink:

    still cant tell me nothin(:laugh: ) 22 almost 23yo Cass.

    ps. use that bio-oil that everyone raves about...your first baby basically rips your stomach apart with strechmarks. and the cocoa butter just didnt cut it. kthxbye.
  • ChubbyBunny
    ChubbyBunny Posts: 3,523 Member
    Dear me 10 years ago,

    Just don't.

    Don't be pissed at your parents for sending you to a religious college, they are freakin paying for it! Enjoy that! Don't decide to go all rebellious with guys to make a point (after first 2 years and then again after divorce). DO NOT talk to that older guy... EVER (either time).

    Get out and enjoy life! Enjoy being young! Take care of yourself NOW so later it will be easier.

    Love
    Me
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