Having a bad day... need to get back on track!

speckled_1
speckled_1 Posts: 14
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
Hello all... So Thanksgiving was an Epic fail, up 4 pounds, but it could have been worse I suppose. The cheesecake, and pumpkin pie won. It's my fault!

I am having the hardest time getting my motivation back. I have been on and off Weight Watchers for years, and was quite successful at it, when I was going to the meetings! i was down a total of 37 pounds. I Started at 194, and my lowest weight was 157. It seems that I set myself up for failure, by thinking that I need the meetings... I should be able to get the same results on here, and without the WW program!! It's mind over matter! So why is this so hard! It's not the meetings that stopped me from having snacks after 8pm!!

Since moving in with my boyfriend in February I have gained 20 pounds!!! He's Hatian, loves food, and loves me no matter what size I am(I guess I could have worse problems), it's just been a challenge getting through to him. He makes fun of my portion controlled meals, I am never feeling deprived with my plate, and he's finally starting to be more supportive of my goals, but doesn't understand our metabolism isn't the same. He's 5'11', a man, and doesn't have to work to be fit... I'm 5'3', with non existant metabolism. I am also using the Mirena since May, but refuse to blame it on the IUD, it can't be from that. I know all the crap I've been eating is the reason. What the hell!! (need to vent sorry)

I have been on this site for about a month, and although I am making healthier decisions, I can't seem to get my groove back. I felt amazing when I was 20 pounds lighter, healthier and sexier! I loved trying on clothes, and taking pictures. Now I just feel fluffy!

I need to log all of my food. I need to be accountable... I need to stop eating so much sugar: but am allergic to artificial sweeteners... I need to remember how good I felt in my bikini in Jamaica last February. I need to have small goals, and once I reach them, hold onto that feeling of accomplishment. I need to like what I see in the mirror! Ugh, so many little insecurities, and I think i'm strong!

OK enough venting... but if anyone has been here, and has any advise... it would be appreciated! I know I can do this, I just need to get on it... the man or woman who makes a pill for motivation, is going to be rich rich rich.

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  • ckdub428
    ckdub428 Posts: 453 Member
    I am also allergic to artifical sweeteners! Its stinks!
    About the 4 pounds over Thanksgiving, it is probably just water weight from excess sodium. Drink lots of water the next few days and work out and you'll be fine.
    Its so hard to lose weight when you're "happy". I put on 30 pounds of "happy" fat when we got married, until I realized that I wasn't happy. I had gained 30 pounds and lost the fun girl who got married. (BC did make me gain some weight, but not all of it.)
    Just reemember that feeling you had in Jamaica and whenever you are feeling "fluffy" go for a walk, or so some jumping jacks.

    You can do this!!! You're the only one to give you that motivation. Try that binki on once a week if you need to! When you begin to see it fit the way it did, you'll be even more motivated to finish!

    Good Luck!!!!
  • beesareyellow
    beesareyellow Posts: 335 Member
    First of all, forget the Thanksgiving weight gain, I too was up about 5 pounds, now it's gone to just 1.4 pounds. There is no way you ate the 17,500 calories over you need to gain 5 pounds overnight, LOL:) If there is one thing I have learned since starting here, it's log, log, log! I have fallen off the wagon a few time, and my friends on here have helped pull me back up. Continue from where you are instead of "starting over" each time. This is not a race, it is a lifelong journey, you will do fine, just don't be too hard on yourself :)
  • gudiiya
    gudiiya Posts: 116 Member
    Awe...I hear ya! I too have been a weight watchers drop out after losing 40 pounds once upon a time. I just realized that i needed something that would help my motivation along with my dietary restrictions which is that I am a vegetarian. I am not a vegan, but still no eggs, chicken or dairy so protein was huge for me. Now I have a protein shake to get that fulfilled. IN any case, bottom line, maybe you need a change. This site is great if you use it to the fullest. You said in your message you needed to do a lot of things. Figure out what's stopping you and what you really need to do to get there. If your boyfriend is stopping you, sit him down and have a conversation with him. Guys need to be told I guess because they don't have the power to read our minds.

    My hubby was the same, but you know something, now he has been nothing but supportive...it helps that he knows what you are going through. I have been there and somehow this Monday, talking to a guy at work that I have known for about 10 years who has lost 98 pounds sparked that motivation back into gear.

    Hope that helped...

    D
  • cockneypaul
    cockneypaul Posts: 52 Member
    Good for you!! you at least understand where you problems are, the next stage is to stop looking for any more problems.
    By the sound of it you understand what you are doing wrong and you just need the motivation.
    Well here it is. You WILL be in better shape next month wont you, keep thinking about what you are eating and replace all the packaged food for fresh ones, it doesn't take any longer to cook and prepare really.
    Your boyfriend likes his food - well let him eat it, Being Haitian I bet he knows some real good recipies and loads of them will be good for you.

    Are you exercising?? in my mind dieting and exercise have to go together, if your metabolism is slow then speed it up, we all have different speeds, mine too is quite slow but if I exercise it speeds up.

    As you said keep your goals small, I have a large goal with little achiever goals in between, those one make it all worth while.

    You can do it but only if you really want to, a lot of people say they want something but don't want it so bad to go and get it. I think from you post that you can get what you want and win....


    Go on show me

    CockneyPaul xx
  • egillespie5
    egillespie5 Posts: 6
    I totally feel your pain, I am also lacking much needed motivation. Have you had your thyroid checked lately? I have under active thyroid (hypothyroidism) which makes me feel tired & just blah, but that's not my only excuse for me being overweight :). Do you happen to have any pictures of yourself at 157 lbs or in your bikini? I have a few "skinny" pictures of me posted all over my house, especially the fridge with notes above them saying "You can DO THIS!" or "Stay on PLAN!" It's just little reminders that even though I am over weight now, I was once where I wanted to be & by seeing myself skinny in pictures lets me know that I can be that way again. (People sometimes cut out models in magazines saying, "I want to look like her" but that's bad for 2 reasons, 1 is they are all photo shopped & 2 is no matter how skinny I get I won't have Jen Aniston's body, face, or personal trainer so I will never look like her.) Go easy on yourself since negative thinking makes us women feel bad, we eat because we feel bad (comfort food) & men usually go run, workout or watch sports (if they do eat it is something like steak, aka protein, which is metabolized differently than, say, my bowl of ice cream). You can do this! Just start small, & give yourself weekly goals, mine is 2 pounds a week I can get a new pair of shoes or a mani/pedi, or massage- but I'm up 2 pounds this week so far so the mani/pedi will have to wait :( Anytime you need to vent this is the place! You can always message me too :flowerforyou: Good luck & keep trying!
  • Alice230
    Alice230 Posts: 66
    I know how you feel about the WW thing. I too,dropped out and don't understand why the meetings are so important. I didn't like going and I didn't like measuring everything. I decided to come here and have liked the community and the way things are done here. Although,tbh it's pretty much the same principal. I wouldn't worry about the weight gain. Sometimes it just happens. It can be from water or anything really. Losing weight is not an exact Science because everyone's body is different. You just have to move on and get back up on the horse. We'll all get there eventually we just have to keep at it and be patient.
  • speckled_1
    speckled_1 Posts: 14
    Thanks for the response!I did get my blood work done last week to make sure everything is OK! And I am a shoe addict! I figure i will buy myself a new paid for every 10 pounds lost! That is a good idea.
  • speckled_1
    speckled_1 Posts: 14
    @cockneypaul: Having the smaller anchor goals is a great idea. I'll try this thanks! I do exercise about 3+ times a week. I need to incorporate some strength training on top of my cardio.
  • triski73
    triski73 Posts: 50 Member
    I am the same as you. I have been on WW for YEARS. I lost 30 lbs and then lost my motivation. Since getting married 3 years ago I have gained 20 lbs! You and I are totally in the same boat. I am 5'4" and have ALWAYS had to fight my weight. The problem is I LOVE food...I eat when I'm NOT hungry. I eat when I'm stressed (and with my current job I have been eating a LOT of things I shouldn't eat.

    It is hard when you have someone that doesn't support you like you need. My husband is soooo good about it! But my coworkers, not so much. I have one that thinks I am "obsessed" with food and need to just learn to like myself the way I am. I am not happy with that. I know what it's like to be thinner and look good and feel good and be fit and healthy. And while it's hard work to get there and stay there, it's much better than being happy with where I'm at now.

    I got back on here this week after a lengthy absence (still going to WW meetings) and tracked EVERYTHING yesterday. it was NOT pretty and today is not starting off well either. But I am tracking which is half the battle for me.

    You and I can both do this! Hang in there...even just tracking and being aware of what you are actually putting in your mouth on a daily basis is a great first step. It kind of opens your eyes (which I don't need to tell you). I find that once you meet enough people on here, there are many that will keep you accountable. If you would like, friend me, and we can keep each other accountable! :D
  • speckled_1
    speckled_1 Posts: 14
    @triski73: Thanks for the post, I feel you in many ways. I have always been thicker... and it has always been a struggle... because yes, I love food, and the bad kinds: sweets, pastas, and carbs! As for my other half he's come a long way since February, he is starting to be more supportive, and hide the pecan tarts lol. I allergic to chocolate, so he tries to have only chocolate sweets in the cupboards now, that way i don't sneak them ;-). And good for you for coming back and tracking everything! you have to start somewhere!
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