Those with significant others...

My husband knows my weight but it was really hard for me to let my trainer see how much I weigh. LOL I weigh more than he thought but my bf% is pretty low so he was happy

My husband fell in love with me when I was very thin, so part of me has been afraid that my weight fluctuations would affect our relationship. They haven't. He's incredibly supportive, I tell him how much I weigh and how much I'm losing, and he always has kind, encouraging words. He tells me I'm beautiful no matter what.

Having that kind of support from your s.o. can be so amazing and bring you even closer together. It might be hard, but just go for it. He's already with you, already loves you, so a number probably won't mean much to him- definitely not as much as it means to you!

I think my DH knows what I weigh.

Hm. You know, I really don't know if he does or not. He knows what I weighed at my heaviest, though, and at my eating-disordered skinniest. He doesn't seem to care what the number is - he thought I was gorgeous at my heaviest, and when we met (when I was still a tad underweight) he still thought I was gorgeous.

He knows what my struggles with food were and are, though. I trust him more than anyone else in the world, so I've sort of enlisted him to help me on this whole thing.

My husband and I report our weight to each other every morning.

This guy loves you; he doesn't care what your scale says. Don't worry.

OH yeah, My hubby and I are doing this together and keep each other updated. When we hear they scale hit the bathroom floor (we keep it propped up so we aren't tempted ALL day) Just tell him. He's into fitness and maybe this will encourage him to keep encouraging you. I meanobviously he thinks you are hot bc he's with you. So dont worry. If he does have a problem with it, screw him! Relationships are about honesty. Best wishes!

Does it really matter? I don't think it's a big issue.
I mean it's one thing to avoid or lie about it, but if your BF hasen't asked how much you weight why do you feel the need to tell him. I don't think any of my past BF's or the person I'm currently dating have known my weight, not because I'm afraid to tell they, but because the question has never been asked.

If it's not an issue to him... why torture yourself over it?

It's not just boyfriends/girlfriends I've been married for 5 years and I just told MY HUSBAND how much I weighed 2 months ago- after I started MFP in May. It was extremely hard to tell him because I weighed more than he does. We started working out together in May he was 276 lbs he's now 206 lbs I was 273 and now weigh in at 232 lbs. That was the first and only time he weighed more than me and it didn't last long. Now we keep each other updated daily. Your weight is very personal so don't feel you have to tell him if you don't want to, but I can say it has been nice being able to be open about my weight with him. Now if I could just get comfortable being NEKED in front of him. Maybe another 40 lbs.

My husband and I have always been very open about our bodies with one exception, after our kids were born my weight was top classified information. Nowdays, I tell him my successes and failures on and off the scale and he helps to keep me accountable. I found that when I kept my weight a gaurded secret that is when I gained the most and got myself into this situation in the first place. One of my big motivators has been to look good naked and he is the best judge of that. I have a long way to go but he has been a big helper. So dont be afraid. Relationships are about opening up. If you are not vunerable then you are not really being honest with eachother.

Also, if your boyfriend gives you a hard time, sometimes it is for your own good. My husband's critiques of my body have been good for me even though sometimes it has been painful to hear. Wanting to look good for the person you love and have them like the way you look is good motivation.

Isn't it crazy that most of us (me included) are so stressed about a number.
How about you guys compare blood pressures and cholesterol levels instead of weight.

I mean you can stand two people next to each other who weight exactly the same and because of where they carry the weight they will look completely different.

Take the stigma out of the number.
Tell him or don't but don't let that number determine who you are. if you want to tell him just let it slip in casually. Don't give it power by making a big production of it.

Personally I don't tell people what I weigh because I know how much stigma people hold around numbers. But my BF knows what size to buy me for clothes :-)

my husband does not know my weight. no one but my doctor does. to be honest no one will. it will not do anything to make me feel better about myself or do anything to make me work harder. the actual number of your weight doesn't matter at this point. your choices are all that matter right now. your boyfriend does not care what you weigh. don't hurt yourself by telling him since you obviously don't feel up to it.

My boyfriend never asked, but when weight started creeping up and I weighed more than him, I told him. He didn't make a big deal about it, and I didn't think he would. I knew I was going to get healthier, and he's very proud I've lost the weight I told him I would.

honestly, my boyfriend has no idea how much i weight. he knows what my successes are and what my failures are. probably more so than i list on here. but he's supportive no matter what. tells me i don't need to lose weight. tells me i'm beautiful no matter what.

i think it helps though, when we're together. he'll always compliment me in ways that make me feel better. for instance, when we're getting ready for a date or a night on the couch, he'll look at me and say "damn girl. you been workin out??" and it always makes me smile :bigsmile:

i don't think weight is something to hide, i just never have been comfortable telling people what i weigh. i dont' mind sharing how much i've lost. that's just me though!

I told my husband when I was pregnant with my 2nd son. I weighed more at the time and I needed to be accountable to someone so I wouldn't gain too much weight. It was really hard- I had NEVER told anyone my weight before. I carry my weight really well and weigh much more than anyone would guess. Now it is nice that it is not a secret and I can be honest about it with him. We have even tried some weight loss challenges with each other. (whoever lost the most weight in a week got to ask a favor from the other person- it was pretty funny- he wanted sex- I just wanted an afternoon of quiet- men!)

Go for it- he will love you anyway!