Support Frustration on Forums

A_New_Horizon
A_New_Horizon Posts: 1,555 Member
edited October 3 in Motivation and Support
This very well could be my hormones talking today - very emotional day for me (so please forgive me if this offends anyone). BUT I feel like sometimes I don't get the motivation/support that I need on the forums because I don't over 100 lbs to lose. I started out at 194 lbs (I am 5'3"), and I have lost 55 lbs (at 138.6). I hit my original goal of 140, so now I have set a second goal weight of 135. BUT I don't get the encouragement/support that others get because I don't have 100+ lbs to lose. Why is that? Isn't my weight loss just as important as others? I have worked just as hard as others have; I just don't have as much to lose. Again, it very well could be hormones talking today (like I said very emotional day).

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  • Teliooo
    Teliooo Posts: 725 Member
    What support are you not getting?
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    You are pretty much at your goal. That's awesome, but I don't get what you need now? You are a success.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I never look at how much someone has to lose. If someone posts something for encouragement and support, then I offer it. I really hate to think that you feel like someone was given more than you simply for that reason.
  • janet_pratt
    janet_pratt Posts: 747 Member
    It sucks to feel overlooked. You've done a great job with a nice consistent loss. Maybe people see that and think you're got this wired and only 5 pounds to go is a no brainer. But sometimes that last five can be tough. And hormones suck! I take a xanax about once every 2 months on those days when I feel like I have my hair on inside out. Hang in there.
  • wvjanie
    wvjanie Posts: 37 Member
    I think everyone is working on the same thing, the next pound. We can all only lose them one pound at a time. And a 55 pound loss is fabulous!! Ultimately our prime motivation has to come from within ourselves, and you must be doing something right inside to get to the point you have. I think it will be recognized by most on this journey (though I haven't fully arrived there yet myself), that maintaining once at our ideal weight can be just as big a challenge (maybe even more so in some ways) as losing, regardless of how many pounds we have to lose. I've always found it better in my life, when I feel neglected, to turn it around and reach out to others the way I wish others were reaching out to me. Hang in there!
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    I'm trying not to be snarky, really I am. But you have 250 friends on here. How are you not getting support with so many people on your radar? Do you give support and motivation to all of those people?

    I get the hormones, I have more than my share today.
  • CoraGregoryCPA
    CoraGregoryCPA Posts: 1,087 Member
    I've never paid attention to how much someone has to lose eight. Most of my MFP friends only have a couple of pounds to lose or are trying to maintain!

    Rock it! You'll get there.. no problem. Look how far you have come!
  • A_New_Horizon
    A_New_Horizon Posts: 1,555 Member
    I'm trying not to be snarky, really I am. But you have 250 friends on here. How are you not getting support with so many people on your radar? Do you give support and motivation to all of those people?

    I get the hormones, I have more than my share today.

    Actually I do - or I atleast try. I am on alot during the day while at work (in which I comment on success and give support when feeling down).
  • localatte
    localatte Posts: 78 Member
    Hi,
    I'm very new here, but have been on other forums before. I think sometimes, we need to ask for what we want. Online, we can't always read others' needs or emotions. So you may need to ask for it "I need support. Today has been rough." etc. I bet people will be quick to support you.
    You have done a great job with your weight loss.
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    ^^^^Yep, this. I have had days where I literally say "Ok people, I do not want to go to the gym, please kick my butt" And believe me, they do. :)
  • getsveltEagain
    getsveltEagain Posts: 1,063 Member
    I'm trying not to be snarky, really I am. But you have 250 friends on here. How are you not getting support with so many people on your radar? Do you give support and motivation to all of those people?

    I get the hormones, I have more than my share today.

    Actually I do - or I atleast try. I am on alot during the day while at work (in which I comment on success and give support when feeling down).

    I am able to verify that support is given by her....
  • saintspoon
    saintspoon Posts: 242 Member
    I know how you feel. I lost over 60 pounds a few years.. went from about 260 down to 196 at my lowest. When I was 260, 250,240 even 215 people wer soo supportive & "proud" & just didn't have anything but compliments for me on my loss. Once I got down below 210 it was like all I heard was -so are you gonna lose more? Are you still working on it? How much more were you wanting to lose?

    At this point I needed support... at this point I had lost enough weight that the cals had caught up with me & I was stuck at that weight, it was very depressing because I was doing the same but the weight wasn't moving anymore. This is the point were people thought I had it all under control & knew exactly what i was doing but it was the complete opposite :( I needed help more than ever at this point!

    But I didn't ask & I didn't tell anybody & eventually I didn't care & the weight went back up to 234.. that's when I found this place & now it's coming back down again.

    So you're right... people aren't as free-giving of the compliments & support if you're not huge or they just think you know what you're doing. The trick at this point is to ask & seek for it activley!
  • AJDistel
    AJDistel Posts: 93
    Motivation and support is great... but ultimately it's up to you to get the job done. I think you have done a wonderful job with a 55 lb loss. It's an amazing accomplishment, but your right. Everyone's journey is their own and just as important. Being that you have done so well, people could think you are on track. If you struggle, ask for help. I know I feel more motivated when I am really able to help someone else in their journey and I am by no means fit. I find new ways to help myself when I help others. Maybe consider helping others in their journeys to find your motivation.
  • MuseumOfAsh
    MuseumOfAsh Posts: 72
    I don't understand how you feel like you get no support. Every time I check my friends feed, all of your statuses have no less than 12 replies about 95% of the time. Everyone seems to jump at the chance to reassure and support you no matter what it is you're posting about. With 250 friends, you seem to get a stinkin' TON of support and motivation.

    You replied to the question asking if you supported all 250 people on your list, but you ignored the question about how you can feel like you get no support when you have 250 people who are your friends on here. How do you feel like you get no support when almost every single one of your statuses that isn't a working out or daily log update get no less than 12 responses of people saying entire paragraphs of motivating stuff to you?
  • A_New_Horizon
    A_New_Horizon Posts: 1,555 Member
    I don't understand how you feel like you get no support. Every time I check my friends feed, all of your statuses have no less than 12 replies about 95% of the time. Everyone seems to jump at the chance to reassure and support you no matter what it is you're posting about. With 250 friends, you seem to get a stinkin' TON of support and motivation.

    You replied to the question asking if you supported all 250 people on your list, but you ignored the question about how you can feel like you get no support when you have 250 people who are your friends on here. How do you feel like you get no support when almost every single one of your statuses that isn't a working out or daily log update get no less than 12 responses of people saying entire paragraphs of motivating stuff to you?


    I was just being hormonal yesterday. I am better today (hormones are back in check again - or atleast I think so).
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