How to not let home stress affect your eating?

I don't know how old you are and what your financial status is but, get your own place. Sometimes it's just not going to work and you have to get yourself to a mentally safe place.

OK, since your profile is private I can't see how old you are. But, is there an option for you to move out? My mother and I had a very volatile relationship while I was growing up; she was verbally and emotionally abusive, and even physically so when I was young enough that I couldn't prevent her from doing so. Ever since I moved out, our relationship has improved. You may wonder why I even bother, but I do it for my dad and for my maternal grandparents. Yes, she still irritates me beyond all belief, but I can hang up the phone or just go home now and that makes the stress go away.

I wish you luck. But please, don't starve yourself.

I wish I could fix this for you I'm here to support you and talk to you of you need someone. Home life effects my eating as well so I know how that can be. I also feel guilty leaving my sister behind even though she is also a major trigger.

xox

*gently*

I'm assuming you know that starving yourself / hiding in your room isn't fixing the situation. Therapy hasn't helped your situation with your mom; I'm wondering if you'd consider it for your own health issues? It's hard, so very hard, to take really good care of yourself under stressful conditions, but now's the time to really embrace yourself and do it - because no one else can.

Starving yourself weakens your ability to cope with outside stressors. It does make you numb; sometimes the numbness is a good thing; but the stress doesn't go away. It just hides for a while. If you can eat, you can give your body energy to do other things - like take on those outside stressors (your relationship w/ your mom.) I'm not saying head-on confrontation, but if your body is healthy, you can direct more energy to being emotionally strong in the face of that stuff.

I SO understand your room being your safe place. Can you fill it with non-refrgerated snacks so it's also a healthier place? Almonds, peanut butter & crackers - those are calorie/protein filled. They've got good-for-you energy. You can strengthen yourself and be safe at the same time. I'm sure others here will have other suggestions as well.

Please, take really good care of yourself. You're important, and you're worth it.

Would it be possible for you to take out student loans and move in to a dorm? College life was a huge push in the right direction for me, it made me feel independent, but at the same time i was surrounded by people and didn't have to worry about paying bills. You can't change your brother's situation by giving your own life away. Moving out of there will help you get some distance so you can come home and visit without it being a volatile situation. Plus, your brother only has a few more years before he can also move out.

Lean on your MFP family, we can gently push you to stay on the right track when it comes to your health.

I don't know how old you are and what your financial status is but, get your own place. Sometimes it's just not going to work and you have to get yourself to a mentally safe place.

I'm 19 next month. I'm a full time student & painfully unemployed. If only it was simple as moving out. I'd feel guilty though for leaving my 13 year old brother in this mess.

You're an adult now, so you need to make an adult decision and move out.

I moved out when I was 18 because I didin't get along with my family. I worked 3 jobs at a time (retail, mowed lawns, fast food, tutoring, janitorial, whatever I could get) and put myself through college at the same time (paid for everything myself until I got my scholarships my junior year). If you really want to get out, you will.

As for your brother, there is very little you can do aside from filing a complaint with CPS (child protective services), which may or may not be the best decision depending on the situation. You need to take care of yourself first, then worry about him next.