Fat girl in a little coat

I know the feeling. My advice is to have mini goals. Even none food related goal like committing to food tracking for one week then doing it again the next week. Or walking 15 to 30 mins a day or every other day.Track your food even if you stuffed yourself. It will keep you honest. Good luck!

One step at a time... try Burlington Coat Factory or stores like Debs or Fashion Bug.

Yes, Burlington has beautiful, inexpensive, BIG GIRL coats... I bought a coat last year for a trip I was going on (I live in FL and have no other use for it lol) but it fits wonderfully... I've had the same issues, so trust me when I say -- go to Burlington haha. I can't ever find clothes there, but coats for us seem to be on the racks

I'm so sorry, I truly am. IT looks like you are losing some weight though. Small changes over time do add up. Keep at it, you can do this. Have you considered buying a men's coat? I'm personally almost 6' tall and have spent a good chunk of my life having to purchase men's items, especially running shoes. But I've also had to buy men's jeans to get them long enough, or whatever. Just a thought. I do understand though the desire to wear female clothes. Have you looked online? Perhaps you could find something there. Regardless, let this really motivate you to do what is best for you. You know the drill. Chin up...

I know the feeling. My advice is to have mini goals. Even none food related goal like committing to food tracking for one week then doing it again the next week. Or walking 15 to 30 mins a day or every other day.Track your food even if you stuffed yourself. It will keep you honest. Good luck!

I agree with this 100% Baby steps Lead to Big Steps, Once you see it's Working for you, You'll want it more than you want to stay the same. Last year I shoped in the Mens Department for a Coat,.....I got a Nice one! This Year I really hope with my Whole Heart It won't fit, and Can Donate it for a Good Cause!

I agree with Burlington... That is where I have gotten stuff for cheap.

As for not sticking with it, you seem to be losing some weight, which is good. You can't beat yourself up. Half of this whole thing is attitude. Taking a walk or picking a healthy snack instead of crap is a small step you can take. You can't just change over night. Just do your best. Try to make every day a little better than the last.

I agree with vglv07, it is time to adjust your goals. Make them non-scale and attainable. Vglv07 had some good suggestions. I'll make some more: every day set yourself a goal that YOU KNOW will be possible. Say to yourself EACH morning: "TODAY, just for today I will:
- walk in place for 5 minutes - or-
- not drink any soda (sweetened or non-sweetened for one day -or-
- tell myself I CAN do this -or-
- drink at least 8 oz of water -or-
- take the stairs (somewhere you go often) -or-
- park a little further than you usually do when doing errands.

Keep this up EVERY DAY and EVERY DAY you will be able to celebrate your successes. Go to bed saying to yourself, "Look at me, I met my goal for today, I am a success". Don't think beyond this. Don't think about your ULTIMATE goal. Just adjust your goals each day so that you eat less empty calories, more nutritious calories, and move more. Good Luck!

Hey, please go easy on yourself. You're not "a failure." no matter what size you are or what you eat. You're more than your body and you're precious and valuable!

And eating right is not just "one thing" - it's a whole series of decisions from shopping, being prepared, logging your food, making a choice about everything that goes in your mouth (or doesn't). It's not black and white (Failure or success). And it's very much linked to your emotions and thinking. It's not a pure matter of will power.

It sounds like you're writing off whole days i.e. you eat something high cal. then say 'stuff it, I've ruined today so I'll eat whatever then try again tomorrow'. How about you make sure you log EVERYTHING no matter what and aim to get closer to your calorie limit. Even if you eat something high cal, keep focussed for the rest of the day on minimising your calories (but not starving yourself). And do some exercise (even just a short walk) to work off some cals.

Aim over a course of weeks (or even months) to retrain yourself... it takes time to get used to lower portion sizes and less junk food and being more active. But it is very possible to feel full and comfortable eating healthier once you've changed your habits.

Good luck on your journey!

when i first joined I didnt diet but logged all my food everyday. After about a week I was amazed at all the crap I was putting into my body. I had no one to blame for being fat but me. I am the type of person that will eat something and once I am done I dont think about it anymore. So whats 1 candy bar or cake or soda...... well when you log it you see. I then started with Mini goals. If I can do good Monday - Friday over the weekend I would treat myself. Then once the weight started to come off I found other ways to treat myself.

I had to start this off as a game.

I think this is a brilliant idea!

I had no idea so many other people felt this way, makes me want to cry cause i thought i was the only one. :laugh: reading all of your comments is making me feel great and want to get out there and do it, you girls are AWESOME