feel like a single mum

I think it's pretty typical in the first year, but should get better. My daughter is 10 months old and my husband is only now really feeling connected to her. Have you talked to him about it? Is there a reason that your child is not his priority? A lot of times the man is resentful because the woman spends more time thinking and catering to the baby. I'd just try to talk to him before I'd say he's no good. Good luck!!!

What I have learned after 5 children is that men just don't see what needs to be done with the infants (and cleaning as well ) and really don't find them to be very interesting at all. Once our children get older my husband gets more involved and likes to spend time with them. At about 1 yr my husband has been known to say they are "starting to become human" lol! I would talk to him about it and maybe make some compromises. I know when my hubby gets home he needs some time to decompress and be alone before he is ready to take on the kids. You may need to set up a schedule with him that you both can agree to.

Hi was she planned?
Alot of men dont realise they arent the centre of attention anymore (NOT ALL MEN) my ex husband was like this with our 2nd daughter it was awful I left him when she was 2 that was as hes an alcholic but he never really interacted with her until she was 1.......
You need to ask him whats up x

If this is his first child, he will get better over time. My husband had two boys when I met him, and so he already was good with kids, but over the last 10 years (and 7 children), he has gone from 0-10 on the scale of helpful around the house and with the kids. We do talk about everthing, and it can be hard to talk to a man about things, but it helps, if you can get through. One thing, if you want him to be involved, don't criticize the way he parents the children. Men parent a lot different than women--you have to remember that they love the baby as much as you do. I will pray for your situation, it can be very tough to be new parents. Don't forget men are a lot like children and they need lots of love and attention too. You have to give love to get love.

You are nothing like a single mom. If you were a single mom, you'd be working full time & your child would be in daycare. How dare you even compare yourself to one. You are so LUCKY to have the opportunity to stay home with your baby. Most women single, or married do not have the choice to stay home due to financial burdens. So please just be thankful you have a man that has a job that pays well enough for you to stay home so you can have the JOY of raising your sweet baby. Not all dads are just not naturally"hands on, some just feel like their job is to be a good provider.

There is a much better way you could have said this. This might be one of the ruddest posts I've seen here. I am a single mother, and I would consider hers a situation similar to my own.

To the OP, How many days a week does he work. I would plan a girls night out for one of the days/nights he doesn't have work. Give yourself a break. Relax. Enjoy yourself. And let him see how much work a baby really is. When you get home ask him how everything went. And then ask if he sees why you need help because even though he works all day long, you work 24/7 without any breaks. Goodluck Hun!

That's good advice. Be sure to let him have a guys night out too, so he can have a break too, it sounds like he works a lot. Good luck to you OP, I hope you can work out something with your partner that works for you, him & your precious baby.:flowerforyou:
P.S. Sorry to offend, I was not trying to be rude. I have been a single mom & I have been in a situation like hers as well with a man that worked & yup, that's about it. Single mom was much more demanding. All the same work to do at home + a full time job + juggling childcare. (just my experience)