Tough Times with food

armywife121110
armywife121110 Posts: 117
edited October 4 in Health and Weight Loss
Ok so hubby left for four months for the military and I did great. I worked out everyday, was obsessed with MFP, and watched what I ate and I lost 30 lbs. Now he's back home and I feel like I fell back into bad habits... Ive gained back 10 of those lbs, am hardly ever on MFP and I cant seem to get motivated to do ANYTHING!! I cant remember the last time i worked out and I'm constantly eating "bad" things because its what my husband likes to eat. Grrr... I need to get out of this slump but not sure how... Right now im not working due to just moving here so I have all the time in the world but I find myself always doing "other things" I miss the old me where I woke up everday and walked for a mile, ate healthy breakfast, went to work, healthy lunch, worked out again at night, and healthy dinner and then relaxed.... A meal to me consistes of meat and veggies but hubby likes the noodles and bread while i didnt eat while he was gone. I make it and eat it b/c i dont want to throw it all out.... I know im making tons of excuses but i dont know where to begin again..........

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  • awkwwward
    awkwwward Posts: 73
    Stop making excuses - that's where you start. First off, congrats to the hubby for what he's been doing and to you for staying strong. But he's not your excuse - you are. When you do anything "hardcore" for long enough, a lot of people break and can't get back to it. It's rough once you get out of a groove. Get back in that groove. Start somewhere - maybe it's working out or eating better. Start somewhere and work your way back. You didn't become instantly obsessed with MFP - you won't instantly become obsessed again. Good luck - you CAN do it.
  • Faintgreeneyes
    Faintgreeneyes Posts: 729 Member
    First and foremost, stop making excuses! If you want to get back on track, then there is no good day like today!! Start with something small, go for a walk, or make a goal to log all your food for today in MFP. Then gradually add more goals as you feel comfortable to help you get back to where you were.
    If your hubby likes pasta/bread- then make a portion size big enough for him to eat- but so that there won't be any left over to tempt you. Have you tried talking to your husband about what it is you are trying to accomplish? Ask him to support you in your endevor! Maybe he would be willing to eat healthier with you!
    We all fall off- but the great thing about falling off, is that you can always, ALWAYS, get back on the wagon and start again!

    Good Luck! Feel free to add me if you would like motivation!
  • hollymcd1027
    hollymcd1027 Posts: 27
    You need to start working on your portion control first. Unless you want to live in a cave isolated from every other human being, there is always going to be bad food around. =) The key is to have some but just in moderation. Make the pasta for your hubby, but only make 3 servings of it. Then he can eat 2 and you have one. Plus make yourself extra veggies to bulk up on those before you eat the pasta (or whatever the bad dish is that day).

    I would also recruit your husband to help you out. Ask him to go out for walks with you. That way you get to spend time together and still get your work out in.

    It also sounds like you did better when you had more structure to your day. Perhaps you need to come up with a schedule for yourself. Just becuase you are not going to work does not mean you can't have a routine.

    Its all about baby steps and I know you can do it!
  • Sidesteal
    Sidesteal Posts: 5,510 Member
    I don't mean this to be rude OP, but I'll say it: it sounds to me like you don't want it bad enough.
  • tita0427
    tita0427 Posts: 26 Member
    have you talked to your hubby and told him what you are trying to do? maybe just talk to him and let him know that you are trying to eat healthier and you need his help. You can also stress to him that it is not just you that needs to eat healthier, you both probably need a lifestyle change. He may be able to afford all that food now, but if he doesn't learn (or if you don't teach him) how to eat healthier, when he gets older he may find that he develops health problems and doesn't really know how to change his diet. ((or care to change it since he has been eating that way for such a long time))

    You could also just start cooking differently without telling him. He will still like the food you make, and if he is anything like my hubby, he won't get up to make something for himself even if he doesn't want what you have made. A tip though: Don't cut out all his favorite foods completely. You can have a small portion of pasta as a side dish instead of the main dish and only have one of those foods you are trying to stay away from at a time. (ex. pasta as a side tonight, eat a completely healthy dinner tomorrow, then maybe make some bread as a side the next day).

    If you mix it up a bit, he probably won't even realize you have changed much. And DEFINITELY make smaller portions. If you are making toast and don't want to eat it, don't make enough for yourself or make just one slice for yourself. This is not an easy road that we are on. We are going to make mistakes and we are going to have setbacks, especially when our families are junk food-a-holics. lol. Mine loves McDonalds and all kinds of fried foods.

    Just remember that you can do it!
  • armywife121110
    armywife121110 Posts: 117
    Thx everyone for your post. One thing I have to say is my husband is VERY supportive of me. He's a gym guru and a body builder so he had always been a positive influence in my life. I have talked to him before but I may need to speak to him again. He knows I want to be healthy and is a very bit part of the reason why I lost so much while he was away in the first place. He always says he will eat whatever I make but I just feel I need to make more for him due to him going to the gym for two hours a day :/ I guess I just need to be the one to step up and do what I have to do and I know he will follow. He encougages me to go to the gym with him and asks me to go all the time but I turn him down :/ I have equipment at home and we even made a "fitness room" for me but I have yet to use it. You all are right I NEED to stop making excuses and start again. I want to accomplish my goals. He leaves for the field next week for a few weeks so i want to really step it up then and theres also a deployment in our future. I told him when he returns Im going to be the healthiest Ive ever been!! Again thank you for all your feedback, i greatly appreciate it!!!
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