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i am soo glad ive read this ive just had a week of fat days where nothing seems to fit right having just been and tried on every pair of jeans i own to discover that everything makes me look like a house today AMEN to you and this topic just proves we are not alone so thankyou x

You are right, I think the 'fat' days will never go away for good. I think on days like that just venting about it helps tremendously. Keep yourself busy and try and engage in anything other than bakery gazing. Also, if you really need some comfort food, get a small piece. I love cake and the grocery stores near me have the little pedifour cakes that are tiny and just enough to get that craving knocked out. Or grab a sugar free, skim hot chocolate. I was feeling cravings this mornign and did that and it wasn't a blemish on my diary at all! Hope this helps! :flowerforyou:

I had a day like this last week. It passes. I do find it's worth it to budget in a treat once in a while. I was frustrated and annoyed the other day trying to push two bikes home and I found myself in front of my friend's cupcake shop. 350 calories later I was in a much better mood.

if i want chocolate i have a milkyway only 98 calories and 1.7 sat fat.

You know, mirrors can lie to you, especially when you're in a bad mood. Step away from the mirror and concentrate on how the clothes actually fit. Are they *really* making you suck it in and leaving you breathless? If they weren't yesterday, they probably aren't today.

You'll see it on the forum a lot - if food didn't cause the problem, it won't solve it. In other words, chocolate and cake and all that yummy stuff isn't going to make you feel better. HOWEVER (and take this with a grain of salt): depriving yourself completely of something you're jonesing for isn't going to help your stress level either. Chocolate does have stuff in it (no, I don't have any links to any of the science behind this. I've read it somewhere; that's all I've got) that releases endorphins, I think, and those make people feel good. Dark chocolate has antioxidants that can be good for you. (Again - I don't have any links. I probably read it on Web MD or something.)

Anyway - can you have just one piece of really good chocolate? (I treat myself to Ghiradelli or Godiva when I can - I buy ONE truffle for a couple bucks.) Bring it home, put it on a plate and savor the heck out of it, and be done? It won't bust the bank calorie wise, you'll have enjoyed your chocolate, and it's a very different from going all-out on a bag of Halloween candy or something.

Really glad about your friend!

Personally if I have a craving I wait a day. If I'm still wanting it I have it. I don't consider chocolate, chips and so on cravings because I can factor them in with a snack version. Cravings are fish and chips, McDonalds and so on. If I'm craving it a day later I have it. Rarely does it happen.

man have i had days like that! And oddly, it IS usually after a great day !

I'm sorry about your friend and hope she comes through surgery ok.

This might not be a popular idea and you'll grunt and groan but my best friend did this for me one day and I'll never forget it.

I was so close to the end of a "perfect week". Got a bad phone call with some bad news and I was like "ok really?? really?? don't i have enough on my plate?? dammit!!" So i called bestie and ranted and said "lets go to a movie!!" which, she knows full well means " I need a HUGE bag of BUTTERED popcorn, a HUGE diet coke and some chocolate, i don't even care what the movie is".

she said sure..but then asked me for a favour. She asked me if i'd go to the gym with her and then shower and change at her place. She really needed to go to this class to feel accomplished that week (we go together but she always did 1 -2 classes more than i). I did not want to go. I just wanted movies and food. But she's my friend and I care about her so i went.

Loved it so much, and felt so great after we didn't go to the movie, we just sat around and talked at her place. When she asked me why i agreed to go and i explained she said "Lisa honey, do yourself the favour first next time. Go for you. If you still want the pig out afterwards, fine, have it, you've earned the extra calories, but 9 out of 10 times you won't."

i hope this LONG winded post helps you out someway..just trying to pass it on yanno?

Glad to hear your friend is doing good! Sounds like you had/have lots of stress today and stress eating is NEVER good, at least not for me. I find myself oh so enjoying the food as it hits my mouth but as it hits my stomach and sits there for awhile I get to feeling worse than before I ate the food. I personally don't have any days that I crave chocolate because I ALWAYS factor in 2-3 snacks a day for a Fiber One bar (chocolate/peanut butter), a 100 cal chocolate nutty bar and either the 100 cal chocolate hostess cakes or some other 100 cal cake. I tried NOT to eat these throughout the day and substituted them with other things and it made it worse. I have a sweet tooth and by allowing myself to eat these EVERY DAY I have found it very easy to stay away from the Mini Reese's cups that I have sitting on my desk for others here in my office or clients. I usually only eat them when I have figured out my daily calories and NEED THE EXTRA calories, which only happens about once a month. It works for me. I also drink flavored coffee in the mornings. Hazelnut, French Vanilla, Chocolate Mocha- which ever one sounds good. I have found that helps with my sweet tooth as well. But on those stressful day I do allow myself to eat...only I make healthier choices. Instead of grabbing the bag of fat loaded high calorie chips I buy my boys, I grab the bag of Veggie Straws or the light cool whip with 60 calorie pudding. So I trick myself into thinking I am eating bad because both those taste so good, but still not ruin my day with an excess of calories that I will hate myself for in the morning. Good luck to you! As far as feeling fat... well I know for me that will NEVER CHANGE. I have been heavy all my life, even as a child- so 40 yrs of buying the larger clothes and never being able to look into the mirror and say "wow you look skinny today" WILL NEVER CHANGE for me. I hope it does but I have a feeling it won't. I do however love to hear others say how "good" I look or ask how much weight have u lost? But no matter what when I look in the mirror I still see the "fat person" I have seen all my life. I hope that changes but not holding my breath. I know I NEED to loose weight for my health and as I see myself get smaller then that is where my mind goes. I tell myself this is good, you are getting healthier and getting this excess weight off your body so your heart doesn't have to work harder.