Husband's support

I wouldn't worry about that. I don't think his comment meant anything at all. When we get married we should go into it with both eyes open. After we get married close one eye. Forgive his comment and get on with it. I'm sure he did not mean to hurt you.

By the way, I think you two make a beautiful couple.

Dont let him start making comments like that , put your foot down and let him know how you feel. My ex-husband use to always make ugly comments whether its having friends on this site or whatever it may be that made me feel upset and never spoke up. With my boyfriend now has tried to make dumb comments and i tell him right away that i am not gonna put with it and he needs to stop cause im not dealing with it again, in a very harsh tone :mad: , its like you smacked him in the face without giving him a time to realize what the hell happened :noway: .

I sort of have the same issue...my husband is not keen on social networking. He doesn't say it too often, but I know he doesn't like it when I am on Facebook or MFP for any great length of time. I believe he is also nervous (I am speculating a little here) that I am going to meet someone online. He has never said anything to me like what your husband said, but I just sense the feeling...call it woman's intuition. :happy:

To be honest, I enjoy having similar things to chat about while on MFP. I think I am on MFP more so than FB! Everyone is so supportive and it helps me. I think if you explain it to your husband in that manner, perhaps he will see the benefit and lose the insecurity...because you know that is all it really is...his insecurity. And to be honest, honey, there is nothing you can do to help him with that! That is his beast to concquer, not yours! (Man, I sort of sound like Dr. Laura after re-reading that! LOL)

I assume he has no reason to believe that you would ever leave him based on your history together, so just keep doing what makes you happy and prove to him that this is beneficial to YOU and he should come around! That is basically what I am doing for my situation.

Take care, Peyton!

Tanya

Your not alone. I went through the same thing when I started the site. He was glad that I was lossing, but also scared that I was going to leave him. He would not even noldge that I have lots. My daughter was getting mad at him. My daughter was helping me find a outfit for a event that him and I were going to. I shoewed him every outfit, but no response. The next day I got out of the shower went over to him and said. 1 thing.IM NOT LEAVING YOU.... 2 Im doing it for myself, so I can feel better about myself. 3 So I can live a longer healthier life. Walked away went to work. Did not mension it again. I still ate the way I wanted and workout the same.

After awhile summer came and I did my first 5k. He didn't come cause he was working. But he was glad I did it. Then this summer on the way to our lake place, he asked how im doing on my lossing weight. I said I haven't lost anymore over the summer. He said don't give up, you have gone so far and look great. You can do it. you can reach your goal.

Then the other day he asked me if I seen the pictures on the computer. I said yes He said I knkow you have lost alot but , sence I see you every day he just got used to it. But when you look at those old pictures of me its like WOW, you have lost alot. S

SO know he is all for this site and working out. I did run another 5k, he was there taking pictures on the corner when I came by. and at the finish line he was so excited that I made it, that he forgot to take a picture of me coming over the finish line. He gave me a great big huge and sad Im proud of you.... It will get better, just give it time.

I know it's hard to look at his comment in a positive light, especially since you had issues with your husband in your previous marriage, but you have to also be careful not to make comparisons between the two men.

I think everyone has insecure moments or has times when they should think before they speak. Women are more known for this than men, especially with self-esteem issues, but men can also feel bad about themselves at times too.

Since it bothered you, maybe you want to make a point to talk to him about. Don't be accusational and don't compare him to your first husband. Do it over a low key dinner so that it's not made into some sort of high pressure, huge crisis. Just casually mention to him that you want to check in with him that it's okay that you use MFP, because you were concerned about his earlier comment. Explain why you feel the site is helpful and, most of all, tell him that you love him and that you appreciate his concern.

Shannon

We all tend to say things out of character every now and then. Brush it off as a mistake,we all make them.