Honesty

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Myguire
Myguire Posts: 20
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Just my own personal food for thought....
Throughout my ups and downs in life and in working my program, I have discovered the importance of complete honesty. No matter what I feel or think, being honest about it with myself, others and God helps me to stay in a healthier state of physical, emotional and spiritual wellness. When I first started my weight loss, the idea of telling friends how I really felt was foreign to me. I could not ask for help or explain what I was going through. I could not pour my heart out. I didn’t want to offend or burden anyone, even God with complaints or weakness.
Now, I have learned to share more often and to tell my friends and God the way my life really is. Sometimes that includes sharing my negative attitude, crying, or just conversing casually. People are receptive and full of acceptance and even understanding. It really pleases and heals me every time I share my honest thoughts and feelings.
The years of denying and burying my feelings resulted in an automatic reaction to not allow myself to feel or think straight in lots of situations. If I can take the time to identify exactly where I am and then honestly admit that to God and others (when needed), I have made progress.
Sharing my true self with others helps lift the blinders from my eyes so that I can see my reality and proceed from there. If I hide, all I do is fool myself and others. I rob myself of honesty which is the foundation of my progress towards serenity and wisdom.
I am doing this - one day at a time.

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  • Teeteetare
    Teeteetare Posts: 50
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    I completely agree with you and glad you have come to the point in your life where you can share with God and others your true feelings. That can be so hard to do if we aren't used to doing it.
  • susaneec
    susaneec Posts: 72 Member
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    Accepting yourself and all that entails, sharing what you learn, think, and feel... it's a necessity and a relief. You gain so much through honesty. I am proud of you!
  • Marla64
    Marla64 Posts: 23,120 Member
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    Just my own personal food for thought....
    Throughout my ups and downs in life and in working my program, I have discovered the importance of complete honesty. No matter what I feel or think, being honest about it with myself, others and God helps me to stay in a healthier state of physical, emotional and spiritual wellness. When I first started my weight loss, the idea of telling friends how I really felt was foreign to me. I could not ask for help or explain what I was going through. I could not pour my heart out. I didn’t want to offend or burden anyone, even God with complaints or weakness.
    Now, I have learned to share more often and to tell my friends and God the way my life really is. Sometimes that includes sharing my negative attitude, crying, or just conversing casually. People are receptive and full of acceptance and even understanding. It really pleases and heals me every time I share my honest thoughts and feelings.
    The years of denying and burying my feelings resulted in an automatic reaction to not allow myself to feel or think straight in lots of situations. If I can take the time to identify exactly where I am and then honestly admit that to God and others (when needed), I have made progress.
    Sharing my true self with others helps lift the blinders from my eyes so that I can see my reality and proceed from there. If I hide, all I do is fool myself and others. I rob myself of honesty which is the foundation of my progress towards serenity and wisdom.
    I am doing this - one day at a time.

    Lovely post-- how blessed you are to have come to this realization--

    Took me a lot of years, a lot of pain, a lot of trouble I caused before I would allow myself to be dragged kicking and screaming to this point-- the point where I take my thoughts captive, figure out what is making me upset, what I actually feel or think. The honesty is liberating.

    I can't say that people always appreciate my expressing it, but I do always make sure I do it politely. I can no longer abide violating my conscience by giving platitudes and saying things I don't mean. If you don't want my honest opinion, you'd better not ask, my friends.

    Good for you-- happy to hear!!
  • catwrangler
    catwrangler Posts: 918 Member
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    I've missed you! Glad you're back. :flowerforyou:
  • Maura5
    Maura5 Posts: 30
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    I'm right there with you. My epiphany came just over 8 months ago. Life is still a challenge but a new way of living it makes it more rewarding & peaceful. I wish you continued growth :smile:
    Maura
  • Steven
    Steven Posts: 593 MFP Moderator
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