Taking a compliment is so damn hard sometimes

rockabillymama
rockabillymama Posts: 117 Member
edited October 4 in Success Stories
We had a family party yesterday at to which 1 of my 23 cousins said "you look really slimmed down, I think i'm putting on what you're losing" which was awesome t hear, but he's the only one I've heard it from. so i was really excited one minute then totally discouraged the next

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  • sc1572
    sc1572 Posts: 2,309 Member
    i know what you mean...i never know what to say!!!
  • BSero1982
    BSero1982 Posts: 45
    Any compliment is a good compliment! Keep up the good work! :)
  • shovav91
    shovav91 Posts: 2,335 Member
    Your family loves you no matter what- maybe they feel uncomfortable bringing up weight because that would mean they are insinuating that you used to be fat. I personally don't feel comfortable commenting on people's weight loss specifically, I tell them they look nice or something generic. I'm not sure why... but I'm sure they noticed your weight loss! They were just too embarrassed to draw attention to your previous weight. I know it must feel awful thinking that your hard work is going unnoticed, but I'm sure that's not the case. Just stick with it, you look fantastic!
  • anubis609
    anubis609 Posts: 3,966 Member
    Tell them you want to hear more accolades. They usually stop after that. Then it becomes saddening.
  • jessfresh
    jessfresh Posts: 22
    just say thanks and enjoy it :) you look great in your photos anyway!
  • EzraCCM
    EzraCCM Posts: 47
    Just remember... you aren't losing weight and living a healthier lifestyle for anyone else... it's for YOU!!!

    So, the compliments are nice, but the way you feel about yourself is what matters the most!

    PS- Congrats!
  • glockster972
    glockster972 Posts: 704 Member
    I have found that if you're anti-social and grumpy all of the time, you don't get invited to those family gatherings. That will save the heartache of only one compliment.
  • FindingMyself239
    FindingMyself239 Posts: 57
    I will put it this way...my family is so use to seeing me huge..lol..that now that im slimming down they have to take a second look to make sure its me:) Its just there so USE TO SEEING YOU ONE WAY THAT THEY MUST ADJUST TO YOUR KNEW LOOK or JUST AFRAID TO SAY SOMETHING CAUSE THEY DON'T WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS

    Yet a compliment is a good thing and it just takes some time to get use to it...GOOD JOB ON YOUR WEIGHT LOST AND KEEP IT UP:)
  • Leigh_D
    Leigh_D Posts: 356 Member
    According to your ticker, you're just getting the ball rolling. Keep up the good work and in no time at all there'll be no denying it! :happy:

    (Checked your profile -- love that plaid dress! ssssSmokin'!)

    .
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    i know what you mean...i never know what to say!!!

    You could try "Thanks!"

    It's working for me.
  • rhodes2b
    rhodes2b Posts: 304 Member
    I find it hard to accept them as well. I try smiling and just saying thank you.
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