Are you happy now?

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  • bookyeti
    bookyeti Posts: 544 Member
    Here's the thing, happiness isn't (for me at least) measured in pounds.

    You have to work on the inside while you work on the outside.

    Perfectly put by 'ickybella'. This really resonated with me.

    Through the years, I was 'okay' with the person I am, at ANY size. I have always tried to focus on the positives, and work on what I thought I could improve on. After all, if we don't love *who* we are when we're overweight, losing weight is NOT going to solve that problem for us. Why? Because we are not (and should not be) defined by our size. Losing dress sizes does not change the *person* we are inside.

    Am I proud of what I've done thus far? YES! And I am still happy... no more or no less than I was 40lbs and nearly 4 dress sizes ago. :)
  • sparklesammy
    sparklesammy Posts: 465 Member
    I think generally I probably am. I like the fit feeling when im at gym classes. I like feeling better in clothes and feeling (usually) like I look better.

    Although I am generally upbeat - I think sometimes I am not too happy. Being the type of person I am , the better i do (in anything, not just weightloss/fitness) the more hard on myself i can be. So sometimes, although i am working on it, I feel a lot worse. And my realtionship with food is fragmented and damaged.

    But im working on the in head stuff.

    I am happier becasue I am healthier, I am happier becasue of my vanity (because I know I look better than I did).
  • oneoddsock
    oneoddsock Posts: 321 Member
    I'm happy knowing that I'm getting there, no matter how slowly. I felt pretty disheartened because I kept starting half-arsed attempts to lose weight, in which I wasn't really trying. Now I'm holding myself accountable and taking far more care, I'm starting to see results and that makes me feel good. I'm a bit of a control freak deep down, so I like the thought that I am taking control of this and making a change that has long been needed.
  • trud72
    trud72 Posts: 1,912 Member
    it's 1.46pm here and yes most definatly much happier now, :drinker:
    but 2 bad things really bother me now...1. bloody plataux(for 10 months)!:mad: and 2. i REALLLLY wanna go out and do loads of stuff i have not been able to in the past...(which is good) but i can't now as hubby had a accident and is unable too and i don't wanna do it without him(when i was unable he wanted too and now in reverse!) i wanna go hiking,iwanna travel,i wanna go do EVERYTHING thinkable!!!! :blushing:
    but i don't wanna leave hubby by himself..:love:
  • BeanyFrog13
    BeanyFrog13 Posts: 161 Member
    I think I'm happier because I've proven to myself that I *can* do this and I don't *have* to eat rubbish foods all the time. The weight loss is a nice side effect from that which has definitely improved my confidence as well! Win win all around :)
  • stevwil41
    stevwil41 Posts: 608 Member
    For the most part (as another poster said) I'm more relaxed. I feel better, I look better and I take more pride in my appearance and I think people respond to that.

    The one day that I think I can say that I was truly happier than I was before was about 2 weeks ago. I see a trainer every couple of weeks to change up my routine and make sure I'm doing everything right and we were talking about about various outdoor activities and I said that considering I'd spent a lot of my adult life seriously overweight I had done a lot of things we were talking about (specifically zip-lining). He said "Well, you're good to go now". I told him that I still weighed 215 lbs and has some weight to lose. He said that he weighed 215 lbs (he's solid and lets just say I'm...not) and 215 lbs was 215 lbs. If he could do it, then so could I. I thought about this all day and walked around with a totally goofy grin on my face becaue I realized he's right. I'm not that 289 lb person I was a year ago or that 270 lb person I was 6 months ago when I started changing my life-style. I can do what I want and enjoy it. That was a truly happy day.
  • Halothane
    Halothane Posts: 69 Member
    I am happier and more confident in the way I carry myself now. Other professionals that I work with that I see 1-2 times per month are always commenting how awesome I look and that I seem to be doing well.
  • Mrrwmoo
    Mrrwmoo Posts: 44
    I'm happier x3. I got my blood pressure down and my family can't laugh behind my back about how big I am ;D.
  • gazz777
    gazz777 Posts: 722
    Yes, very much so !

    This never started off as a weight loss journey, it was a battle against depression. I'm winning !

    I still have a way (weigh) to go, but where I have come from powers me on..
  • nevadjinn
    nevadjinn Posts: 75 Member
    Oh yes. So yes. Two years ago, before I started losing weight I was 174 lbs and MISERABLE. I hated my body and my life. I only started being really committed to dieting after a suicide attempt. I just could not handle life when I was perceived as fat and ugly.
  • shamr0ck
    shamr0ck Posts: 296 Member
    I'm not yet at goal, but i've been exercising regularly for the last 8 months, and i am much happier. I feel better, have more energy, more confidence, and generally just enjoy stuff more than when i was heavier.
  • sheltielover
    sheltielover Posts: 135 Member
    I am happier, and that little thing called 'confidence' as started to come out of hiding. :smile:

    I agree!!! My confidence is soaring now. I notice I now want to leave the house and go meet friends or go shopping. before, I would cancel dinner w/ my girlfriends b/c I was ashamed.

    I'm happier
    more confident
    feel at peace
    feel calmer

    and this is only half way there!
  • epoint
    epoint Posts: 88
    Yes, I'm definitely happier now. It had a snowball effect for me -- first I was just trying to lose weight. Then I figured out that not only did I feel better if I ate healthier food, I was able to eat more of it. I gradually lost my taste for junk food, and as my weight dropped I felt more like exercising. And that part really made a difference, because I have SO much more energy now. I've been maintaining since July with very little effort and no logging of calories. I don't think a lot about what I eat any more because I have different habits now, and the exercise allows me to eat plenty of calories without weight gain. Life is good. :-)
  • Tennessee2019
    Tennessee2019 Posts: 676 Member
    I am happy that the weight is comming off, however I am still far from my goal. I just have to keep telling myself all in due time and with the help of MFP and all my friends and their support I will reach my goal maybe not as fast as I would like to but I will reach it . even if I loose 1 lb per week in 1 year I will be 52 pounds lighter and that is quite amazing :)
    She took the words right out of my mouth!! Even though it has been VERY slow for me (due to my surgery) I am doing my best to remain patient & know that I will succeed at this, all in due time.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    Being thinner hasn't really changed much in my life - I'm still someone who battles depression and anxiety and has a lot of crap going on in my life - but the sense of accomplishment in setting and reaching goals is pretty fantastic. :smile:
  • Gspice3
    Gspice3 Posts: 88 Member
    Honestly, when I lost a bunch a weight awhile ago I was happy that I lost it but if you just focus on the outside it never fulfills you. My goal this time is health and balance, then weightloss :)
  • megz4987
    megz4987 Posts: 1,008 Member
    I am happier now than I have been for years and years. I lost 110lb 5 years ago, completely unhealthily, gained weight through life and pregnancy and I'm now working my way back down.

    Difference is, Im not looking for happiness through my weightloss. That was my main problem the first time Iost it. I thought losing the weight would make me happier and it didn't. I'm 75lb heavier than my lowest and I'm happier now than I was when I was that weight.
  • stimpackus
    stimpackus Posts: 22 Member
    I wouldn't say that losing the weight has made me "happier". I would say on the other hand, that there is a little peace of mind knowing that I'm doing the best I can though in order to keep my health in order.

    At the moment I have been suffering through severe physical and emotional stress which has nothing to do with weight gain or loss. Not having to think about how much I weigh is now something I don't have to think about, but I still have to have those typical coping strategies in order to get through everything else. For me, happiness isn't measured but how much I weigh. It is learning to confront those demons internally as well as externally that matter the most. If I don't do that, then the weight loss meant nothing to begin with.
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