I'm a binge eater, and I don't want to go through this alone

prettyinpetite
prettyinpetite Posts: 8
edited October 4 in Introduce Yourself
Shameless self promotion. I'd love to be friends with every single one of you guys :)

At this point I'm less focused on losing weight and more concerned about my binge eating habit. Anyone who shares this problem with me can definitely understand that feeling of loss of control, but I'm done making excuses for it. I don't really have a choice other than to get better.

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  • melieeeboo
    melieeeboo Posts: 7
    yup with you on this, there are times i feel so out of control! i dont feel like i can stop myself :o(
  • mleoni092708
    mleoni092708 Posts: 629 Member
    You are not alone. Don't feel embarrassed to post what you are going through. We all have food issues we are trying to work out. Feel free to add me as a friend for support.
  • NicksFitClub1
    NicksFitClub1 Posts: 36
    I'd love to help out add me ;)
  • Uerzer
    Uerzer Posts: 273
    takes a lot of discipline, but you can do it!!!
  • RaeannePemberton
    RaeannePemberton Posts: 382 Member
    been there done that.... over and over again.... i can't just have a little... a cheat meal turns into a day... etc. and running distance only makes it worse because my mind knows i need "fuel" but the addictive side of eating rears its ugly head.... UGH. hang in there! one moment at a time.
  • Shajsum
    Shajsum Posts: 121 Member
    first off im not sure why ur trying to lose weight, you look very thin from your profile pic. secondly, im glad that you realize that you have a problem. and if your looking for support and TRULY want help you've come to the right place. good luck to you!
  • loseiteli
    loseiteli Posts: 242 Member
    This is exactly why I started MFP. I need to lose weight as well, but just having the journal makes me more in control. :) add me if you'd like!
  • diehl_35
    diehl_35 Posts: 1
    here for ya girl
  • irunforfun
    irunforfun Posts: 113 Member
    I've been down this road. The only person that can help you...is you. I'm not being mean, but as a person who has dealt with this for years you have GOT TO LET GO. It takes discipline and sacrifice, but it is worth it. Occupy your mind with something else.
  • MissMarthaGrace
    MissMarthaGrace Posts: 227 Member
    You are not alone ~ I can totally relate! I know how it feels to completely lose control. It's sugar, salt, sugar, salt for me ~ never feeling "full". Since joining a few months ago though, I've been able to keep my binges to a minimum. (Still happens, but they are fewer and farther between.) It's a wonderful community to belong to! Feel free to add me ~ we can get through this together! :smile:
  • email4jenp
    email4jenp Posts: 52 Member
    How do you stop though? This is my biggest struggle, as I'm sure it's most of yours too, or you wouldn't be here. It's like I have blinders on. And I don't stop, I keep going, EVEN THOUGH I KNOW I should not. I mean, I wouldn't take cocaine, I wouldn't take heroin, because I know they are bad for me and kill me, but at my weight, my unhealthy body, I'm putting sugar, fat, horrid cholesterol, things in my body that can kill me just the same... (I'm not comparing drug use to obesity, it's just we make a conscious effort not to take those drugs, because we know their potential) but even though I know what I'm doing to my body, the harm, I still do it. How do you stop?

    Everyone keeps telling me "If you are ready to do it, you will do it" and I partially agree with that. I certainly don't want to be 300lbs. That's for freaking SURE! If I had the answer for myself, I wouldn't be 300lbs! I DO WANT it. I need to know how to break this cycle for me.

    So I would love to hear your experiences on what works for you to step away from the binges...
  • wackynunu
    wackynunu Posts: 103
    Sometimes I feel like I am 2 people. I am either super motivated and exercise 6 days a week and eat at my calorie goal or I sit on the couch all day and eat double or triple a normal person's intake. Fortunately, for the past 5 months I have been on track thanks to MFP. Tracking has helped me to keep an even keel and not let one unhealthy meal or skipped workout send me on a downward spiral.
  • Dangerkitty79
    Dangerkitty79 Posts: 49 Member
    you are in the right place, I also find myself needing support, Add me here for u :)
  • MikeM53082
    MikeM53082 Posts: 1,199 Member
    I've struggled w/ binge eating for years (and struggle currently). I know exactly how you feel.

    I remember when I lived w/ my friend in college. We'd occasionally make runs to go to Costco and pick up a 50 pack of granola bars. I'd eat all 50 within a few days. I remember the shame and embarrassment that I felt when my roommate would give me a "what the hell, they are gone already" kind of look. It still makes me feel uneasy.

    Feel free to add me as a friend on here.
  • mandy_lynn
    mandy_lynn Posts: 165 Member
    I am the same way. I go through waves. I'm really diligent for awhile, never skip a workout and eat right. Then I eat, and eat and eat. As much as my 350lb husband. Then I feel guilty and the cycle starts all over. Feel free to add me, we can help each other!
  • ArroganceInStep
    ArroganceInStep Posts: 6,239 Member
    Good luck! I hope you can find a strategy that works for you and kick the habit.
  • mleoni092708
    mleoni092708 Posts: 629 Member
    How do you stop though? This is my biggest struggle, as I'm sure it's most of yours too, or you wouldn't be here. It's like I have blinders on. And I don't stop, I keep going, EVEN THOUGH I KNOW I should not. I mean, I wouldn't take cocaine, I wouldn't take heroin, because I know they are bad for me and kill me, but at my weight, my unhealthy body, I'm putting sugar, fat, horrid cholesterol, things in my body that can kill me just the same... (I'm not comparing drug use to obesity, it's just we make a conscious effort not to take those drugs, because we know their potential) but even though I know what I'm doing to my body, the harm, I still do it. How do you stop?

    Everyone keeps telling me "If you are ready to do it, you will do it" and I partially agree with that. I certainly don't want to be 300lbs. That's for freaking SURE! If I had the answer for myself, I wouldn't be 300lbs! I DO WANT it. I need to know how to break this cycle for me.

    So I would love to hear your experiences on what works for you to step away from the binges...


    I would try to figure out what is causing the binges. Do you have certain emotional triggers? Are you waiting too long to eat until you're starving and then binging? It's a mental thing. Do you maybe need treated for depression? I'm just going from my own experience. I was extremely depressed and having panic attacks and eating lots of food was calming for me. You CAN reduce your binges-I've done it and I never thought i could quit either. (((HUGS)))
  • nettleboo
    nettleboo Posts: 177 Member
    hello i too struggle with binge eating and when i snap i snap and i keep eating to the point i feel ill. i have no stop when ive broken my cal counting and then the days after when i feel guilty i still want to binge because i feel bad bored with cal counting etc. its such a struggle im not sure id be much help with helping to advise you how to stop but add me as a friend if you like xx
  • prettyinpetite
    prettyinpetite Posts: 8
    first off im not sure why ur trying to lose weight, you look very thin from your profile pic. secondly, im glad that you realize that you have a problem. and if your looking for support and TRULY want help you've come to the right place. good luck to you!

    That picture is from September. I've gained weight due to my unhealthy habits in October...
  • adamswife23
    adamswife23 Posts: 52 Member
    I am right there. Whe I get upset or don't know what to do I binge eat especially on sweets. I know that is why I can't lose that layer of fat in the mid section because I haven't figured out how to control those urges. I was told the brain is the toughest muscle to train and I completely agree with that statement.
  • mrsgroove
    mrsgroove Posts: 44
    I have had a similar binge problem and I have been working on the mental component for about a year now. I had to ask my self everytime I found myself bingeing, Why? Why am I doing this at THIS time. I found that most of the time, when I wanted to overeat, it was because I was trying to avoid doing something I really didn't want to do. I was using food to "hide" from unpleasant tasks. Example: I can't do housework, because I'm having a snack right now. or I can't call clients right now because I'm having a snack. Anytime I was faced with a task I didn't want to do, or was feeling too tired to do, I would find myself standing in front of the fridge or scrouging in a cabinet. Some times knowing why I'm bingeing doesn't stop it. All I can do is say to myself, " Hey, you're over eating because of __________. Next time maybe you'll recognize it BEFORE you the eat six chocolate chip cookies.
    I have learned not to yell at myself for bingeing, I just log the calories for better or worse and start over the next day. A clean slate everyday and treating myself with kindness even when I "screw up". It makes it easier to get back on the horse the next day. I think the hardest part of my journey has been learning not to berate and belittle myself for being fat. I try not to say anything to myself (inside my head or vocally) that I wouldn't say to my daughter, or sister, or best friend. When I think back on the things I used to say to myself and think about my body, I could just cry. I was so cruel! I had found the most value in learning to be my own best cheerleader and caretaker. I wish all of you good health and the ability to treat yourself with love and kindness everyday. Peace.
  • genmills2001
    genmills2001 Posts: 24
    My biggest problem with food is that it's F'ing delicious! If they made all the worst foods taste like Doodoo then things would be easy. I don't share your problem but you've already made the first step: seeing it and looking for help. If we could do some things on our own, we would. I'm glad you're reaching out to us and I'd best most of us are here for you. However, if it's a serious issue, not one of us would be able to help you like a counselor. Perhaps talking with one might give you exactly what you need. If not, there isn't much to lose by trying. Anyway, you do what's best for you and let us know how it's going! May the force be with you!
  • keishatlewis
    keishatlewis Posts: 2 Member
    I agree! Finding something else to focus on is the only way I can control my binges. But I binge w everything. Everything thing I do I do it in binges. I binge w cleaning even! If I let my self get bored all I want to do is EAT! And a couple bites are not enough. I was blessed all my life w a high metabolism. Them two years ago I lost my thyroid dues to some tumors! It's been so hard to control my eating! Some days are harder than others. Just know you are not alOne!
  • Lolabelle666
    Lolabelle666 Posts: 10 Member
    I think I've always been a binge eater but I could control it until I gave up smoking four years ago and now I feel like food is all I think about, it's turned into a habit, instead of waking up wanting a cigarette I wake up thinking what I'm I gonna eat today.
    I am disgusted at myself even while I'm bingeing but that just makes me more depressed so I scoff more.
    I really thought it was just me but since joining this site I've realised there are a lot of us out there and it's lovely reading all the supportive posts hopefully we can overcome this together.
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