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  • samanthacollier
    samanthacollier Posts: 16 Member
    I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. Coming to this board and moderate exercise will definitely help. Therapy does wonders too. I'm going through something similar and I understand your pain. I hope you feel better soon.
  • Hoppymom
    Hoppymom Posts: 1,158 Member
    You are dealing with a loss. You may not have had him die but its still a loss none the less. You are probably just running on autopilot and everything around you is a blur. This is totally normal. It will get better and with time you will see the light at the end of the tunnel but right now you just have to make decisions on what is best for you and your girls. Set an example for them. Show them that you don't need a man in your life to conquer the world. It would also be nice to rub it in his face that he didn't break you. Good luck.
    I agree with what everyone has said. If you can hold it together for your children you will definately make it. You are stronger than you think you are. Try allowing yourself a set amount of time each day for real grief and reduce it a bit everyday. Grief counselors often recommend this practice. Be angry, cry, remember the good times for two hours and then move on. The next day an hour and 55 minutes then move on. Really feel your feelings. It's very easy to numb the pain with alcohol or drugs or relationships too soon after this crisis. Use antidepressants if necessary but avoid if possible; they can interfere with real healing. Remember: Living well is the best revenge.
  • phenrichs
    phenrichs Posts: 102
    Having been through this about 3 years ago I may understand a bit of what you are going through. You will lose weight from losing your appetite, but you're right... its not healthy. The best way I found to get through it was by really moderate exercise. Because you're not eating, you won't have your normal energy levels, so a 60 min run is probably asking way too much of yourself! But a 30-45 minute walk will do you wonders. It helps to clear the head, helps to release all those hormones to combat depression, and will also help to improve your appetite. I also took natural sleep aids, Blackmores does a good one, which helped to stop my brain running around in circles at night. It is a really tough thing to go through and I feel for you. Make sure you find an understanding ear.

    First of all let me say that I am sorry to hear what has happened to you but this quote ^^^^^^ is the correct answer. Quiet walks to clear the mind and also get in some non-strenuous exercise. With your emotions wavering an exhausting workout will put undue stress on your body. That undue stress couple with your current emotional state could make you physically ill.

    You are a beautiful young woman and you will bounce back from this. Of course right now you are thinking your first priority is your girls but if you don't take care of yourself first you won't be able to take care of them. This is also the perfect time to set an example of a strong independent woman for your daughters. No offense, but screw him. His loss. He will come to realize that sooner than later. I am one of only two of my friends that are still married and I can tell you from being a first hand witness that some boys never grow up. They just get taller.

    Stay strong.
  • SarabellPlus3
    SarabellPlus3 Posts: 496 Member
    I'm so sorry.
  • laurenpence
    laurenpence Posts: 147
    I am staying strong for my girls, I refuse to cry in front of them or let them see me sad. I have kept their daily lives the same as they always have been, minus their dad coming home at night. Im not depressed just pissed and hurt all at the same time. I know I am extremely strong and can get through this like I have gotten through the rest of the crap I have had to deal with. Its just a lot to take in and sometimes a girl just needs to vent and break down a little bit. I am trying to eat more through out the same even though it is super hard. I dont realize how little I eat until the night time when I add everything up. I will get through this, thanks everyone
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