It's a stressful time.

WalkingGirl1985 · October 2011

Hey guys--just needed to vent if thats ok. Just wanted to post this, see if its helps.

For the past day or two, things just seem overwhelming. I've been snapping at my fiancee, I know he doesn't deserve it. He'll ask me for a simple favor, and I'll sigh and complain about it like its one of the many tasks in life I have to do--just seems so epic. The small factor--yeah, it's life. My GED studies, job skills training, maintaining a clean place to live--going to food drives so we have food in our fridge, making sure the bills are paid..and doing my part and maintaining my healthy lifestyle. That's not the only thing. The big factor--Because of the economy, we are one of the millions of couples/families thats barely holding by a thread and I pray for a miracle...I know that miracle will come someday. Some months are ok, and are tight, but more flexible, still stressful, but I'm dealing..some months like the month of November coming in, got more bills then usual we have to take care of--and its causing more stress. I do miss the days where I could afford to go out on lunch dates every week, go shopping, get a massage :laugh: we all miss those days don't we? As for stress relievers--both unhealthy and healthy ways have come in, theres times id snack at night, and work it off afterwards..healthy--Running and Walking. That moment to myself, where I can clear my head. So, thats what has been bugging me. Just needed some words of comfort, wisdom, I'm sure some of you are in the same situations with busy lives, kids, jobs..and sometimes I wonder how you do it all :laugh:

(I don't have kids yet, but I am pretty busy most days)

ninerbuff · October 2011

Hey guys--just needed to vent if thats ok. Just wanted to post this, see if its helps.

For the past day or two, things just seem overwhelming. I've been snapping at my fiancee, I know he doesn't deserve it. He'll ask me for a simple favor, and I'll sigh and complain about it like its one of the many tasks in life I have to do--just seems so epic. The small factor--yeah, it's life. My GED studies, job skills training, maintaining a clean place to live--going to food drives so we have food in our fridge, making sure the bills are paid..and doing my part and maintaining my healthy lifestyle. That's not the only thing. The big factor--Because of the economy, we are one of the millions of couples/families thats barely holding by a thread and I pray for a miracle...I know that miracle will come someday. Some months are ok, and are tight, but more flexible, still stressful, but I'm dealing..some months like the month of November coming in, got more bills then usual we have to take care of--and its causing more stress. I do miss the days where I could afford to go out on lunch dates every week, go shopping, get a massage :laugh: we all miss those days don't we? As for stress relievers--both unhealthy and healthy ways have come in, theres times id snack at night, and work it off afterwards..healthy--Running and Walking. That moment to myself, where I can clear my head. So, thats what has been bugging me. Just needed some words of comfort, wisdom, I'm sure some of you are in the same situations with busy lives, kids, jobs..and sometimes I wonder how you do it all :laugh: (I don't have kids yet, but I am pretty busy most days)

Go visit a cancer ward. Or an orphanage. Then you'll really see how fortunate you really are. Sometimes seeing the bad, will make you feel good.

Alacey88 · October 2011

I am in college, living with my boyfriend and I do know how you feel. But what makes it all good is that I know that I have a place to come home to and be able to sleep in a comfable bed and have a man in the house that helps with what ever life throws at me.... ( try to help at least).....

Just try to remember that you have a place to live, a man that loves you for who you are not what you can be, and that you still have a job as well...

healermoon · October 2011

For me, I know I am in the same boat. I was laid off last month, and while I can get by on unemployment if my bills were caught up they weren't. I noticed that all my expenses went up 25% from last year (gasoline, utilities and so on), but my pay didn't, and worse unemployment is half of what I made. Thankfully I do get child support which helps a lot, otherwise I wouldn't be making it. I do have great support from my in laws, but I have been catty and waspish to my husband, and feeling much more stress than usual. I find that walking my son to school, thankfully he isn't against that even at 12, is really helpful, and that is 1.5 miles at a 10% grade coming home.

I see that your progress is amazing! Great job, you are obviously doing something right!

Hugs-

WalkingGirl1985 · October 2011

Hey guys--just needed to vent if thats ok. Just wanted to post this, see if its helps.

For the past day or two, things just seem overwhelming. I've been snapping at my fiancee, I know he doesn't deserve it. He'll ask me for a simple favor, and I'll sigh and complain about it like its one of the many tasks in life I have to do--just seems so epic. The small factor--yeah, it's life. My GED studies, job skills training, maintaining a clean place to live--going to food drives so we have food in our fridge, making sure the bills are paid..and doing my part and maintaining my healthy lifestyle. That's not the only thing. The big factor--Because of the economy, we are one of the millions of couples/families thats barely holding by a thread and I pray for a miracle...I know that miracle will come someday. Some months are ok, and are tight, but more flexible, still stressful, but I'm dealing..some months like the month of November coming in, got more bills then usual we have to take care of--and its causing more stress. I do miss the days where I could afford to go out on lunch dates every week, go shopping, get a massage :laugh: we all miss those days don't we? As for stress relievers--both unhealthy and healthy ways have come in, theres times id snack at night, and work it off afterwards..healthy--Running and Walking. That moment to myself, where I can clear my head. So, thats what has been bugging me. Just needed some words of comfort, wisdom, I'm sure some of you are in the same situations with busy lives, kids, jobs..and sometimes I wonder how you do it all :laugh: (I don't have kids yet, but I am pretty busy most days)

Go visit a cancer ward. Or an orphanage. Then you'll really see how fortunate you really are. Sometimes seeing the bad, will make you feel good.

We have a homeless shelter nearby, and have seen that. I feel for those people, more then I feel for myself. Sometimes I see people on the streets and wish i can help in some way.

Healer- Yeah, my fiancee was laid off in 2008-2009 and was unemployment until last January.

docturtle · October 2011

I think it always helps to vent. It's good that you wrote that down. Do you feel better. Where there is a will, there is a way. Keep walking/running to clear your head. Exercise is the best stress-relief. They say misery loves company, so here's the source of my stress: I just moved back to my home town, where my husband doesn't know anyone but my family and a couple of my friends. I've started a new job working lots of hours and squeezing in time with my family and friends, eating out a lot, which doesn't help my food diary. My husband broke his arm the night after we moved and is in week 8 of the 10-week recover and is unable to look for a job and is going stir crazy at home and is bitter, in pain, and doesn't want to eat and I feel like I have to do everything from move into our new house, work enough for both of us so we can pay for our new house, and do all of the cooking and cleaning and try to get him to eat and spend as much time with him as possible since he feels like I am never around and he's always alone. It puts a lot of pressure on me. I see him sinking into depression and it really wories me. I'm looking forward to the next two weeks going by fast as this roller coaster of life has been, and hoping the doctors will take his brace off his arm and tell us he is healed so we can go on with our lives. He's told me that it's hard for him to watch me start my new life off with a bang while his life is in limbo. =( It makes me sad. I want my husband back. I'm happy to be home and I want him to be happy living here too, but that just isn't possibly right now. All I can do is have faith in this quote: 'Everything will be okay in the end...if it's not okay, it's not the end."

capriciousmoon · October 2011

I'm having some of the same stresses... I'm going through job programs, trying to find work in a town where there aren't many jobs because most of them are taken by collage kids (state uni here). I'm living with people that really have no reason to help me (my ex and his family) because they aren't mean enough to kick me out. I don't have any friends or family at all.

I'd say... be thankful you have a place to live and people that care about you.

Kassielin13 · October 2011

Suzanne,
As I read this, my heart went out to you. Since becoming your friend through out this journey you have helped me so much. So now is when I want to help you with extra words of comfort and encouragement. Sweetie, I am in the same boat as you in so many ways. My husband and I are both unemployeed (have been off and on since 2009) and we too are in classes to return to school. It is so hard at times. Like you, November is our roughest month by far. I know I sure do miss the days of living comfortably.
With being in the same situation it is so hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel. However, I know that we will! I want to let you know that I will be praying for you and your fiance. I always lift all of mfp ladies up, but it is more sincere when I know of a specific need. If you ever need anything or just need to vent, send me a message or even a comment. I am all about venting too!
God Bless,
Kassie

WalkingGirl1985 · October 2011

Suzanne,
As I read this, my heart went out to you. Since becoming your friend through out this journey you have helped me so much. So now is when I want to help you with extra words of comfort and encouragement. Sweetie, I am in the same boat as you in so many ways. My husband and I are both unemployeed (have been off and on since 2009) and we too are in classes to return to school. It is so hard at times. Like you, November is our roughest month by far. I know I sure do miss the days of living comfortably.
With being in the same situation it is so hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel. However, I know that we will! I want to let you know that I will be praying for you and your fiance. I always lift all of mfp ladies up, but it is more sincere when I know of a specific need. If you ever need anything or just need to vent, send me a message or even a comment. I am all about venting too!
God Bless,
Kassie

Aww, thanks Kassie. That means a lot. I am feeling better, trying to stay strong. I know in God's plan, something will happen sooner or later. It just might not happen as soon as we'd like.

It's a stressful time.

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