No one noticing?

JMehl135
JMehl135 Posts: 37 Member
edited October 4 in Motivation and Support
Ok....so I have quick question. I have read in past forums that generally people start noticing when you have lost about 20 lbs. I have gone from 170 to 148.9 as of this morning (in about 4 months). I have dropped 2 pant sizes and 2 bra sizes. I am extremely proud of how far I have come, and I finally feel like I can really tell a difference. BUT...the only people that have said anything are my parents and a few friends who know that I had a change of eating habits. It is really discouraging that no one else has noticed. Two of my best friends haven't said a thing...anyone else in this situation?

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  • kendf60
    kendf60 Posts: 234 Member
    Not many people noticed until I was down 30 lbs.. It doesn't seem like the people closest to me are the ones who noticed though.
  • glockster972
    glockster972 Posts: 704 Member
    Yes, but I'm not doing it for someone to notice. I'm doing it for myself.
  • spammyanna
    spammyanna Posts: 871 Member
    No one noticed my weight loss until I was around the 30lb mark.

    So as long as you notice, the rest of them can shove it.

    Be proud of what you have accomplished!
  • michedarnd
    michedarnd Posts: 207 Member
    Oh, nobody has noticed me, either. I started off a size 22 -- three months ago. I am now a size 16. Not a peep. *shrug* Oh, well.
  • hausofnichele
    hausofnichele Posts: 531 Member
    Maybe they aren't saying anything because they are a little jealous?
  • ansonrinesmith
    ansonrinesmith Posts: 741 Member
    It may be just that the topic is a little taboo.
    Asking "Have you lost weight?", may imply that you overweight/fat before (which some people might take offense to).
    I wouldn't think anything of it! Congrats on your accomplishments!
  • Haz89
    Haz89 Posts: 55 Member
    Maybe they are so used to seeing you, they just didn't notice. You're doing great! Keep it up.
  • deb_rn
    deb_rn Posts: 144 Member
    One of my coworkers finally looked at me yesterday and asked if I had lost weight! I think because the weight came off gradually, the people that see me all of the time didn't notice the gradual change.
  • tol5667
    tol5667 Posts: 5 Member
    I had the same thing going on, and it took a while, and almost 40 pounds before anyone said anything, but perhaps you should see someone you haven't seen in a while, and someone like that might notice a drastic change like that. Also, sometimes people might be reserving comment, even if it is complimentary, for any number of reasons; in any case, 20 pounds is really a great accomplishment!
  • missfluffyuk
    missfluffyuk Posts: 245
    As somebody before me said, it could be that they don't want to mention your weight., as it can be a very touchy and taboo subject.
  • mamamc03
    mamamc03 Posts: 1,067 Member
    Ladies....just be open about it. That's my thing. I just tell people who know, or dont know, about my journey. Then you can always whip out a pic of the OLD you on your phone and they WILL notice.
  • Maryfullofgrace
    Maryfullofgrace Posts: 342 Member
    I didn't hear anyone say anything until I was down 35 pounds. And it was mostly from people who hadn't seen me in a long time.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    It may be just that the topic is a little taboo.
    Asking "Have you lost weight?", may imply that you overweight/fat before (which some people might take offense to).
    I wouldn't think anything of it! Congrats on your accomplishments!

    This.
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Maybe they aren't saying anything because they are a little jealous?

    Not this.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    If they're people you see every day, like at work, it can be hard to judge because they see you every day and the change is gradual. Also, it is kind of taboo to mention. People I worked with didn't really notice mine (my students did!) but they did notice my rise in self-confidence.
  • Kushgetti
    Kushgetti Posts: 146 Member
    Who r u doing it 4 u or other people????
  • ahinescapron
    ahinescapron Posts: 351 Member
    Maybe people are just not comfortable saying something. I never want to say anything, unless it is really a big loss. I guess I just don't want to imply that there was anything wrong with the way they were before. People probably notice, but just aren't sure what to say.
  • christiemarie823
    christiemarie823 Posts: 7 Member
    At 20 lbs down - I hadn't heard anything. At almost 30 down, I have had a few people comment. And I agree that it is taboo. The more you lose, the more people will comment. While I'm losing for myself, the feedback is always validating. Congrats on the weightloss and keep it up!
  • kyliecakes0405
    kyliecakes0405 Posts: 73 Member
    I hear people don't start to notice until there is a 20lb loss but then it depends on how frequent you see certain people. It's one of those weird things. Could depend on how the person is viewing you? Some may be too afraid to say anything at all.

    Personally I had several people notice my loss around 17lbs but I just noticed myself just last week after 3 months of dieting. The full length mirror made me really stop and stare!

    It's worth it and keep up the great work!
  • Mariposa187
    Mariposa187 Posts: 344 Member
    some people are afraid to ask or say anything considering how easily people are offended nowadays. but ultimately you are doing this for you and if they dont notice too bad! or maybe they are jealous as well... i had a friend that refused to acknowledge anything good i did b/c she wasn't doing it for herself.


    You look amazing! Thats all you need to remember!
  • Jorra
    Jorra Posts: 3,338 Member
    Maybe they aren't saying anything because they are a little jealous?

    Not everyone is jealous of people losing weight. Really.

    The change may be too gradual for anyone to notice. Or, they might think the subject is awkward.
  • KellyRunyon
    KellyRunyon Posts: 21
    First of all congrats on the weight you have lost. That's awesome!! I have lost around 20 lbs. and no one other than my husband has said anything yet but I am waiting for someone to notice. In fact i was telling someone just the other day that I was waiting for this NSV but so far nothing. Oh well I will keep working at losing the weight and if someone notices I'm sure it will make my day and if not that won't keep me from continuing on losing the weight. :smile:
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    Trust me they notice! They probably just not saying anything. I went 5 sizes down (weird because I only lost 23.2 pounds so far) and I have 36 more pounds to go...Havent dropped a cup size yet :( and no one hasnt said much (except my parents and brothers), but I deal with classmates, friends, etc all the time since I gained my 50 lbs and they havent even noticed..or at least mentioned it. I catch them staring at me, so I figured they notice I lost something, but jsut wont say nothing. Dont worry about it! Do it for you! :)
  • JMehl135
    JMehl135 Posts: 37 Member
    Thanks everyone for the feedback! As sad as it is, this is the first time my weight loss journey isn't a diet. It is also the first time it is completely for me. I definitely can't say this for my past attempts which is probably why it failed every time before... Whether I get comments or not, I'm going to keep going because this is the best I have felt in years :) What's important is that I can tell and am making the best choices for my body!! (something it has wanted/needed for a long time)

    Great job to everyone so far!!
  • paeli
    paeli Posts: 295 Member
    Noticing weight loss is a funny thing. I agree that people may notice but not be sure what to say, it IS a taboo subject, people can lose weight from iillness, or may make the person feel awkward if they comment and find that you weren't TRYING to lose, etc etc.

    Definitely true that people don't notice when you see them every day. My family never said anything until I started talking to them about it, and even then I had to actually ask my dad "Is it THAT noticeable..?" and his response "Oh yeah!!!" and to be honest that felt a bit bittersweet, it does make you realize you were "that big" before, etc.

    I've continued to get comments and compliments since then and it always makes me feel good. It definitely is a great form of motivation but don't let it get you down too much. And if you are more open about your health effort, others will probably feel more welcome to give encouragement and feedback. Example: I was surprised when my coworker hadn't said anything to me about my losses but when I brought up how important health and loss was to me, he said "and you've already lost so much!" Shows he was noticing, just probably wasn't sure how to comment.
  • MrsCon40
    MrsCon40 Posts: 2,351 Member
    Are you doing it for them or for you?

    They may just be rather unobservant or being politically correct - let's not play the jealousy card so quickly, folks.

    I wonder why people don't complain when their friends don't say, "Gee - you sure have gotten fat!!" but they expect them to call out their weight loss? That's my head scratcher of the evening.
  • MrsCon40
    MrsCon40 Posts: 2,351 Member
    double post
  • JMehl135
    JMehl135 Posts: 37 Member
    Paeli - Definitely agree with what you said. I guess I didn't think about it that way. Thanks!!

    MrsCon40 - this time I'm doing it for myself which is definitely the key. I think the fastest way to fail at this is to do it for someone else :) and thinking about why people don't complain about not getting the "you've gotten fat" comment....I know I'm not going to complain about not getting a negative comment like that hehe
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    Perception is evil.
    What matters here is...DO YOU NOTICE? Of which you have stated that you do.

    That is all that matters. Remember, you are doing this for You, not for someone else
  • geri1955
    geri1955 Posts: 106
    Hi, I noticed that the ppl. who see me on a daily basis dont notice, but thiose who haven't seen me in the past few months notice !! As long as i notice I'm happy!!!:noway:
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