starting to lack motivation

Hi, like the title suggests i am starting to feel a lack of motivation. I am in week 8 now, iv'e lost 18 pounds, of course i am delighted to have lost that weight but i am starting to go off track. Is this normal and how did you keep the motivation going? It doesn't help with Christmas so close, the supermarkets are full of goodies and i am about to start my Christmas baking. I suppose i need a kick up the pants! Any advice please!


  • It's hard to make new habits. I don't know if it's "normal", but I do guess it's probably common. When I start to lose a lil' mojo I think about the non-vain reasons I'm doing this. I don't want to suffer the pain of a heart attack, dying & leaving my family WAY too soon. I don't want to have to ride around the grocery store in a motorized cart, b/c I'm simply too heavy to walk through the store. There are so many non-vain reasons. When I think of those, it keeps me going. I want to LIVE and LIVE HEALTHY!

    I read one time that motivation is like a shower. You need it daily, or it's recommended daily. So, that may mean finding new things to motivate you each day. One thing's for certain: you're worth it!

    You can do this. Press on & create those new healthy habits. You've done outstanding thus far!


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  • rossi02
    rossi02 Posts: 549 Member
    The poster above gave great advice.. however, when I need a motivational kick in the pants.. I go the other way with it. Christmas.. means lots of pictures, in my house anyway. No way in the world would I want to undo all the good done so far. These pictures will be around forever. After the holidays I want to look at these and say.. if I looked this good now, imagine how great I'll look and feel if I keep going with it.
  • lucasgirl
    lucasgirl Posts: 10 Member
    I loved your quote about the shower. I am going to use that to help me out.
  • Thanks for your replies and some great advice thankyou! x
  • Thanks for your replies and some great advice thankyou! x
  • kapeluza
    kapeluza Posts: 3,434 Member
    "Overview (why I'm posting this)
    Over the course of about 7 months on here, I have seen many people suceed, I have also seen some drop off the map. I expect this is because some succumb to the demon that is temptation, and some to the devil that is dissapointment. I wanted to give a few "heads up"s to both new commers and vetrans to the site. Some may know already, some may not. But either way, if this helps anyone to set more realistic goals in their own head, I feel like it has done it's job.

    Phase 1. The start of a brand new day! (or week, or month, or year)
    Expectations are sky high, usually so is motivation and intentions. This is where most people lose the most weight. At the start it's not uncommon to see 4 to 8 lb losses per week. The reasons for this are mostly (sorry to disappoint) water weight. You drop excess water quickly, and you can have up to 5 lbs of water weight. The next biggest reason is the fat that is right next to the blood vessels, the stuff that you put on in the last month or three, it will melt like butter usually.

    Phase 2. Reality setting in.
    At about week 3 to a month or so, people suddenly realize that they are no longer dropping 8, 6, or even 4 lbs a week. This is a crutial phase in your journey. Expect this, it is natural. You have shocked your body by changing both eating habits and exercise routine. Now it has had a little while to become used to the new lifestyle, it's going to compensate. Your body still doesn't believe it's permenant yet, so it will still try to store some fat, so now that it knows how to regulate it's new metabolic levels, it tryies to store fat in earnest. It's not uncommon for people to hit a wall here, no loss for weeks. Expect this as well.

    Phase 3. The routine.
    At about 2 months or so, your routine is pretty much set, your body is beginning to believe that you really want to STAY the way you are going now. You will start to see more consistant (but lower, usually 1 to 2 lbs a week) loss, also, you should start seeing some muscle tone (depending on how much you had to lose in the first place). If you stop to think, you should realize that you have improved dramatically in your exercise levels. If you do cardio, you should notice how much longer and harder you can work. This is important to realize as it is just as big of an indicator as weight loss. Also, by now you may notice that your clothes no longer fit right. This is also very important. The weight may not be falling off anymore, but you are becomming a smaller person. Weight is arbitrary, if you are building muscle (which your body is doing at a furious pace by now) you won't notice huge losses, but you will notice wholesale changes in the mirror!

    Phase 4. Really digging in.
    This is where the second wall can happen. You're probably at between 3 and 4 months by now, and if you have gone this far, you feel like you have already suceeded. This is where many people stumble. they are tired of the routine, tired of eating different things from all their friends, limiting their alcohol intake. Basically the shine has worn off. this is when your really need to plant your feet. Maybe change up your exercise routine, make a concentrated effort to find different, but still nutritional food. Talk to people. And examine how far you have come. At this point, no matter how much external motivation you receive, it's all about believing in yourself!

    Phase 5. End game.
    5 or 6 months in you are probably working on that "last 10 pounds". This can be discouraging for many as it is a slow burn. Remember, your body probably feels like it is where it needs to be, your brain might think you need to lose 10 more, but your body is quite proud of itself now, it feels like it has "Done enough" and it wants to stay RIGHT HERE. The body LIKES to have a little fat around just in case, especially for the ladies (sorry girls, it's just human physiology). If you feel like you still need to lose it, prepare yourself for some guerrila warfare against your body. Design an exercise regimen that is very dynamic, forget the "same thing every day". Make a plan that challenges you both physically and mentally. Make sure you give yourself a day off here and there to just veg. And by all means, remember, muscle burns fat at rest. So get some weight or resistance training involved.
    The last 10 may take 3 to 6 months to lose. I know nobody wants to hear that, but it's true. And forget the idea of increasing your calorie deficite, healthy bodies need good nutrition, your body no longer has the fat reserves to handle the large deficites you could when you were 30 40 or 50 pounds overweight. Better to make it a 3 or 400 calorie deficite (NET, please count your exercise calories too!). It may take a bit longer, but your body will like you for it. Plus it feeds those new muscles and keeps them burning fat, keeps your skin healthy (elasticity is important when you want those places that were stretched out to "snap back") and keeps you from getting head aches and depressed.


    this is what I have learned, not just from my journey, but from others as well on here. It saddens me sometimes to see people hit one of these stages and not recognize it for what it is, a part of the process. If we all can have realistic expectations, then we are more prone to win the fight and stay healthy in the long run. Note that some people will hit these stages harder then others, some may take longer, but for the most part, this is the rule that the exceptions will come from.
    THISisTARRAN Posts: 487 Member
    18 pounds in 8 weeks is pretty good weight loss! I like you fall off the wagon from time to time. Today is my day getting back on the wagon. I've been off the wagon for 4 days (My birthday was October 30 & ever since) and I'm "getting back on the wagon" for a few reasons: I know that being off of it doesn't get me to where I want to be, my friend is counting on me because we are running a 10K together at the end of January, and because I know that a year from now (like I was last year) I don't want to be saying all these same things to myself. I don't want to look back in a year and know that I wasted all that time and I could be to my goal by now. You can do it!!! Just make a decision and GET back on the darn wagon. Good luck to you :happy:
  • alyssamiller77
    alyssamiller77 Posts: 891 Member
    I like the ideas above quite a bit. I also have to admit that to keep my motivation going, I often times just look at people who are a little "fatter" than me and use them as motivation too. The pure desire to "not look like that" ever in my life helps me keep going.

    Not sure if this will help but one thing that I use in situations where I find it rough going is to shrink my view and focus on short term goals. For instance, when on a long run (or in my case refereeing a soccer match) if I start to feel tired and struggle with continuing to go on, I look at my watch. I say to myself, I can push hard for 5 more minutes and then I focus on that. After I hit those five minutes, I do it again. Breaking down a 45 minute half into five minute chunks before you know it the time has passed and you're done. The same can be done with your weight loss. Focus on just a week. Set some non-scale goals such as hitting a total weekly calorie number or completing a specific number of minutes of exercise that week or something. Then focus on hitting it for that week. Say to yourself, I just need to go these next seven days without falling off the wagon. When you get to the end of the week and see that you did it, focus on repeating it the next week. Before you know it, it will just come naturally.
  • mrivera713
    mrivera713 Posts: 231 Member
    Hmmmm... you will feel more motivated if you let me come over and play with your pony! GIGGLE! I LOVE HORSES TOO!!!! I like kids too.. But I LOVE HORSES!!! WOOHOOO! giggle...

    oh wait... sorry... how to stay motivated... hmmmm... ~mind wanders to picture of pony~ uhm.... I don't know but if you live in AZ, Can I come over and play with the pony... LOL

    Ok, for me I stay motivated by signing on to MFP when I am not motivated. Don't beat yourself up. Life is never completely predictable. There will be ups and downs and in your walk, you will find people who will motivate and encourage you and you will find people who need your motivation and encouragement. MFP is a family if you let us in. So when you are feeling down, sign online and scream HELP!

    Or you can invite me over to play with your pony! :)
  • Hi, thankyou all so much for your replies. Some fantastic advice i really appreciate it!!! I am determined to succeed, i just have to dig deep and keep at it!!