I kind of think I'm throwing in the towel...

jerber160
jerber160 Posts: 2,607 Member
Not sure what I'm thinking... I'm 170, down from 191... and still FAT. (sort of... i have NOT LOST anything from my thighs but have slimmed down almost everywhere else) the charts say still obese, but I think I weigh less now than I did in junior high. 5'5"....on a tall day,, broad shoulders... used to be a lot stronger. i'm thinking of setting my FINAL goal at 160 and maintaining there. after all, it's a lot less than i ever expected in my life. I kinda grew up thinking 180 was fine for me... but with the ease fitnesspal has helped me....I know differently now... but really, do I need to reduce myself to a twink size?

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  • dovesgate
    dovesgate Posts: 894 Member
    Well... it is entirely up to you of course but how do you think you would feel if you stuck with it and got down into a healthy weight range?
  • dalgal26
    dalgal26 Posts: 781 Member
    Please do not throw in the towel. Weight loss is different for each one of us. I have lost and gained a ton of weight in my lifetime.
    I have found that all bodies are different and we are all going to lose it in different places.

    You may never have a perfect BMI, but that does not mean that you are not healthy. Talk to your doctor. He/she will have the answers.

    Good luck to you in your journey.
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    You don't have to be super thin - as long as you are healthy and comfortable --- be where YOU want to be.

    I'm 5'4" with a medium frame and all the charts say I should be around 120lbs. Not gonna happen. That is FAR too thin for me and I know it is. I know I would look and feel unhealthy that thin. I know a lot of other women on this site who are the height that I am and have far lower goals. I'm happy and content with 143-145lbs. No need to be thinner. Do what is comfortable for YOU.
  • nettleboo
    nettleboo Posts: 177 Member
    Oh i feel you really im struggling at the moment i like food and i too dont want to be a twig but we gotta try to stay what i suggest is get to the weight you wanna maintain at then see how you feel if you want to lose more go for it.
  • KeepGoingRhonda
    KeepGoingRhonda Posts: 527 Member
    If you feel comfortable at 160 then that's where you should stay... Good luck! You have done great so far!
  • KeepGoingRhonda
    KeepGoingRhonda Posts: 527 Member
    If you feel comfortable at 160 then that's where you should stay... Good luck! You have done great so far!
  • michele_lynn
    michele_lynn Posts: 66 Member
    You lose fat in different places at different times.. I'm 10 lbs from my goal weight and STILL have fat thighs... have you taken measurements with a tape roll? Maybe you have lost, and just don't realize it because they still look big compared to the rest of your body? That's how it is for me.. they still look large, but my pants are SO much looser.
  • achampionsheart
    achampionsheart Posts: 1,020 Member
    dont throw in the towel....all people are different in their weight loss...ive lost 30 lbs in a little less than 8 months and i have not lost fat from my belly....ive lost inches but not weight.....i am losing all over.....as long as you can see changes in your body keep going.....youll be within your healthy range before you know it....dont get discouraged
  • Abbey70
    Abbey70 Posts: 82 Member
    154 shows the average weight of other people of your Age, Height, Weight and Gender would describe as their ideal weight. Medical weight shows 114-150. So if you are going for 160 you are not far from average of others. Don't give up just keep pushing through. I always gave up but I decided to challenge myself and have lost 36 pounds in one year. Set small goals for yourself so you won't get discouraged and if you work out then don't just go by the scale cause like me right now, I am at a plateau according to scale but I am still losing inches. I am 41 years old and high risk for heart disease and cancer. I intend to beat this and to make a difference in my family by them seeing me taking care of myself so that hopefully they will too. I am a grandmother of 4 and I intend to be chasing them around when I am in my 70's. :)
  • ProudDaddy
    ProudDaddy Posts: 80 Member
    Dont give up..You will hate yourself later..Finish it get where you wanna be..You CAN do it:smile:
  • MacMadame
    MacMadame Posts: 1,893 Member
    From what I understand of how our bodies work, you are much more likely to keep your weight off if you lose a small amount each year than a big amount all at once. So why not put yourself into maintenance for a while until you feel ready to lose some more. You may find you want to lose more in 6 months or a year or you may not but the possibility of doing so is always open to you at any time.

    Oh and I read somewhere that thigh fat is always the last to go! (It was for me so that was kind of nice to read.)

    Scientific explanation:

    If you lose more than 10-25 pounds and/or 10% of your body weight (different studies use different criteria but 10-25 pounds is often 10% of people's body weight), your body has something called the famine response. IOW, it thinks there is a famine. So it tries to get you to survive by trying to get you to eat. Ghrelin levels rise and that increase our appetite. This is often the point that people fall off their diets. Whether you stop dieting or keep going, in people prone to obesity, once they get to maintenance, their body then does everything it can to get them to refeed back to their original weight plus about 10 pounds as a cushion for the next famine.

    If you lose a little at a time, you don't invoke the famine response. Your body is willing to accept this lower weight. Keep it for long enough and your body has a new setpoint and now you can lose another 10-25 pounds / 10% of your body weight without invoking the famine response.

    Now in real life, it's not this exact. And most people want to lose all their excess weight and they want to lose it now so they ca't do this. But there are people out there who have lost over 100 pounds over a 5 year period and kept it off. Keeping that kind of weight loss off is really rare but understanding about the famine response explains why they could do it.

    Since you don't want to lose it all right this second, you can take advantage of this scientific knowledge to maybe lose 20 pounds every so often until you get down to a normal weight for you. (Which, if you are muscular might technically be overweight but you'd still look hawt!)
  • Dragn77
    Dragn77 Posts: 810 Member
    Youve come so far, and it really seems you are focused more on the numbers, when at this point it would help more to focus on your body. Maybe do a shift from focusing on how much you weigh and having a specific number in mind.

    Do you really feel twink sized or is that the scale talking? We all have a stubborn area that is the last to go...it would be a shame to toss in the towel when you are probably on the cusp of getting that taken care of.

    Believe me...I have a size S upper body, and a size L/XL lower body. When I lose weight, it goes from my upper body first...nothing says WTF? better than wearing an XS top and still in XL skirt. But at some point, just before I venture into my career as a circus freak (hah!) my thighs do give up and start catching up. Its frustrating, but when Im focused, I know its just how I am and keep at it. I hope you do too!
  • MacMadame
    MacMadame Posts: 1,893 Member
    I forgot to add that there are a lot of health benefits to losing just 10% of body weight.

    And that in some studies overweight people (by BMI) had better health than normal BMI people. Not that I'm going to go out and gain some weight just to have an overweight BMI, but it shows that sometimes we think of these things too rigidly. Like a friend of mine who argues all the time that if you have a BMI of 25 or higher you just aren't healthy; only people with a BMI of 24.9 or less are healthy. (Don't get me started on the misuse of statistics going on here.)
  • JD92
    JD92 Posts: 253 Member
    i know how you feel. i lost 45 pounds and didnt feel different at all. my ultimate goal is 150 pounds, but i decided a long time ago that i will fully decide on my end weight when i reach it. so if it make it to 170 and i like how i feel and look, then ill stay there to the best of my ability. yes it is good to have a number in mind when you lose weight, it gives you something to strive for, a goal. but it sometimes also is kinda discouraging, for me anyway, because it feels so far away, and i think, "i am NEVER going to get there, so why even try?" before shoving chocolate into my mouth.

    so maybe you could try continuing losing weight as you were doing, no rush, nothing to aim for, and eventually, little by little, you will feel better about yourself and how you look and one day you might just look in the mirror and think, "i am happy like this".
  • rodegghero
    rodegghero Posts: 212 Member
    I am 5,5 and my final goal weight is between 170 and 180. Thats right a range. And the charts say 150 is the most i should weigh. I dont care about charts 170 is where i look and feel the best. I am incredibly healthy and fit when i am there. Do what is best for you!
  • RiiNaCHiiCK09
    RiiNaCHiiCK09 Posts: 109 Member
    Maybe you should stop trying to lose weight and just live your life in a healthy manner. And when I dont just mean physically healthy but mentally/emotionally too. Don't throw in the towel on a healthy lifestyle whatever you do. Whether you want to continue to lose much more weight or not. Looks are nothing compared to your over health. For instance look at anorexic and bullimic people who look like bones. Yes, they're skinny(too skinny) but they're health is god awful. And I'm pretty sure they're not too happy either =/


    SOOO whatever your happy with, go for that. Just do it for you and in a healthy way =D
  • jerber160
    jerber160 Posts: 2,607 Member
    [I have measured and lost a bit in my thighs the first few weeks and nothing since august! it's the only 'measurement' i'm taking but did have to buy new pants...so I'm losing....]
    You lose fat in different places at different times.. I'm 10 lbs from my goal weight and STILL have fat thighs... have you taken measurements with a tape roll? Maybe you have lost, and just don't realize it because they still look big compared to the rest of your body? That's how it is for me.. they still look large, but my pants are SO much looser.
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  • jerber160
    jerber160 Posts: 2,607 Member
    Y'all are wonderful. thanks...
  • Abbey70
    Abbey70 Posts: 82 Member
    I have taken measurements and in about 2 weeks lost overall about 7 inches but my weight remains the same. I don't worry about the numbers on the scale so much anymore. Eating healthy and staying in shape are more important to me than the numbers on the scale now. I do stay within my calorie goals for the most part too.
  • StevLL
    StevLL Posts: 921 Member
    Shoot for your 160, but take your time and don't concentrate on the goal so much as on the journey. Work on eating cleaner and see where that takes you. Have you had your thyroid, testosterone and pituitary function checked lately. I'm 49 and just this year found out those numbers were barely registering. Now I have energy and a new lease on life and while it's still hard to learn healthy eating habits (and I'll never be the 184 the charts say I should be), I am getting healthier all the time and some weeks I lose and some I don't, but slowly its happening. Good luck, you can do this, just don't given up. Take a breather, but don't "throw in the towel. Friend me if you need more supprt.
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    From what I understand of how our bodies work, you are much more likely to keep your weight off if you lose a small amount each year than a big amount all at once. So why not put yourself into maintenance for a while until you feel ready to lose some more. You may find you want to lose more in 6 months or a year or you may not but the possibility of doing so is always open to you at any time.

    Oh and I read somewhere that thigh fat is always the last to go! (It was for me so that was kind of nice to read.)

    Scientific explanation:

    If you lose more than 10-25 pounds and/or 10% of your body weight (different studies use different criteria but 10-25 pounds is often 10% of people's body weight), your body has something called the famine response. IOW, it thinks there is a famine. So it tries to get you to survive by trying to get you to eat. Ghrelin levels rise and that increase our appetite. This is often the point that people fall off their diets. Whether you stop dieting or keep going, in people prone to obesity, once they get to maintenance, their body then does everything it can to get them to refeed back to their original weight plus about 10 pounds as a cushion for the next famine.

    If you lose a little at a time, you don't invoke the famine response. Your body is willing to accept this lower weight. Keep it for long enough and your body has a new setpoint and now you can lose another 10-25 pounds / 10% of your body weight without invoking the famine response.

    Now in real life, it's not this exact. And most people want to lose all their excess weight and they want to lose it now so they ca't do this. But there are people out there who have lost over 100 pounds over a 5 year period and kept it off. Keeping that kind of weight loss off is really rare but understanding about the famine response explains why they could do it.

    Since you don't want to lose it all right this second, you can take advantage of this scientific knowledge to maybe lose 20 pounds every so often until you get down to a normal weight for you. (Which, if you are muscular might technically be overweight but you'd still look hawt!)

    That would explain why having lost around 30 lbs and at 128 lbs I feel hungry ALL THE TIME. That's about 20% of my body weight, even though it's not a lot compared to how much others on here have lost.
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