Feeling defeated

Look how far you have come!!! YOU have done a great job. YOU have lost the weight. Your husband didnt lose it for you. Your husband's weight from what I read is skyrocketing in the wrong direction. You are not destined to be fat. You are d estined to be a healthy person. Do you take any medications that might increase your appetite? Keep working at it. You are strong. Talk with your bariatric team and find out if increasing your calories is an option.

what kinds of foods do you eat, hun? 350 cals worth of say.... cheese, isn't much but 350 cals of lettuce is a LOT of lettuce. Try incorporating a bowl of low sodium (preferably homemade) soup or a leafy salad with very little dressing to you lunch and dinner. These foods will bulk up your meal, without adding many calories. for example, a bowl of my homemade chicken noodle and veggie soup, a grilled cheese sandwich with real cheddar on wheat and a small pear comes to about 350 cals for me. just an example.

I hope you stick with it, it's the best thing for you! I never thought I'd get used to it either but I completely am! You can do it too, I know it! :flowerforyou:

You have already done a good job in what you have already lost why would you think you were destined to be fat. Why are you consumed with what your husband is doing- If he wants to eat himself into fatness let him you can't force him to make the decision of getting healthly like you did. But you could explain to him that the more you lose the more active you will become and he will be left in your dust. - In my opinion it is your willpower and determination that is with you not other people patting you on the back- If you want to quit thats your choice but remember if you quit you will most likely start packing back on the pounds you already lost and bring some friends- Like I said its your choice. Best of luck in your decision-

Yes this may sound harsh but its the truth-

DON'T GIVE UP!!!!!!!! This is a lifestyle, not a "diet". You've done a great job in the weight you've already lost. Don't give up on that. Why don't you try going into maintenance mode for a few weeks? Forget trying to lose and just concentrate on maintaining your current weight. Your daily calorie allotment for maintenance is likely 2000. You can eat a lot of healthy stuff for that. Focus just on making healthy choices-- no soda, no fast food, no mindless munching!!:explode: If your husband doesn't support your choices, do it for you!!! Also, make sure you eat consciously- eat slowly, enjoy your food. Allow yourself to have some of the things you love, but in moderation, occasionally!

Good luck!:flowerforyou: We're here for you!!!

Why did you post this? Were you hoping that someone would give you permission to give up? Well, you do NOT have our permission to give up. So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and quit feeling sorry for yourself. Nobody, and I repeat, NOBODY is destined to be fat because destiny is a big load of crap. We make our own destinies with every choice we make every day. You chose this path because you saw that something needed to change. Have you stopped caring that you hurt more because you are carrying around the extra weight? Have you stopped caring how your extra weight effects your job? I doubt it. You still care about those things. You still want to be a fitter and healthier you. So if you still want it, then go get it! You are HALF WAY THERE! Yeah, it's going to be a little harder from here on out, I won't lie to you. You are going to struggle and you are going to fight to get to your goal. There will be days when you think to yourself that you just don't want to do it anymore. But if you give up now, you'll never get there.

So toughen up Cupcake, and let's get going!