Men.. need a question answered

Shayyy01
Shayyy01 Posts: 290 Member
edited November 2024 in Chit-Chat
Women feel free to answer too =)

Lately i've had some type of a mind eff.
I 've never been the girl to get all done up for my every day life but lately i feel unattractive. My man always states that he likes me the most when i have no make up and i'm in my jeans and tee, but i feel like i should put on the make up do the hair and wear the heels. I think this is coming from my mom, telling me that i always have to look nice or J ( my man) will find someone prettier... like WTF is that??

So men does it matter? I'll dress up if we are going out, but to just sit at home with a pile of make up on seems unnatural to me.
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  • Bridget0927
    Bridget0927 Posts: 438 Member
    Bump, Im intersted in the guy answers :-)
  • Faintgreeneyes
    Faintgreeneyes Posts: 729 Member
    In my humble opinon, there is really no point to sit around the house with make up on. I know I don't do it. If I am going out, I will throw some on, but otherwise I like being fresh faced. If your man is telling you that he likes it, than why not trust and believe he is telling you the truth?!
  • Dtrmnd86
    Dtrmnd86 Posts: 406 Member
    Bump for some answers... I'm the same way, I hardly get dressed up, rarely wear make up and it's always jeans and a t. My fiance says that he likes that the most, but yet I know he finds the whole heels, skirts, make up attractive so I'm stuck in the middle like wtf, pick one damnit. It definitely takes a toll on my self esteem, especially when I don't feel comfortable in heels and dressed up clothing yet....
  • digitaldigital
    digitaldigital Posts: 73 Member
    Heels, they're awesomely sexy.
    I think it's nice when my girlfriend dresses up, it's really nice but I don't really care if she does it. Though it does make for a nice change every so often.
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    Different men have different preferences. And different women look good with different styles. I find my wife attractive with multiple different looks.

    Just do what makes you feel good.
  • chicagocubsfan23
    chicagocubsfan23 Posts: 186
    My hubby says he likes it when I switch it up. I'm a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl, and he likes that, but he said it makes it that much better when I do dress up a little because I don't do it every day. He said if I dressed girly all of the time, he'd wish for the jeans and t-shirt. Lol
  • Pollywog39
    Pollywog39 Posts: 1,730 Member
    Do whatever feels natural and good to you. If your man says "I like you just the way you are", then what's the problem?

    Personally, I feel weird without SOME makeup on - even to run to the store. A touch of blush and mascara, a quick gloss of lipstick, and I feel much better :love: :love:
  • TheDoctor90
    TheDoctor90 Posts: 461 Member
    1. If that's you in your profile pic, you have nothing to worry about.
    2. I'm really not a fan of makeup. Light and sparing, fine, but foundation and all that crap does my head in.

    Jeans and a T are a major turn on. Messy hair too.
  • chrisward30
    chrisward30 Posts: 1
    I always encourage my wife to forego the makeup. She's beautiful b/c of who's inside. I do however think girls need to get gussied up for themselves in the same way guys workout to feel better about themselves. I believe it's a subconscious reaction to the menstral cycle. So sure, make yourself feel beautiful- just know who's on the inside is prettier
  • KimmieBrie
    KimmieBrie Posts: 825 Member
    Listen to your man not your mother.

    I hardly dress up in heels, but sometimes it's nice. I walk around every day in the city - in flats/boots/sneakers, no heels,
    I'd trip for sure.

    My husband likes short shorts and heels to show off my legs - in fact he bought me a pair of both but would die if I left the house in them!
    That look is for him only ;)
  • MFPAddict
    MFPAddict Posts: 2,069 Member
    Casual little to no makeup is my preference
  • solpwr
    solpwr Posts: 1,039 Member
    My hubby says he likes it when I switch it up. I'm a jeans and t-shirt kind of girl, and he likes that, but he said it makes it that much better when I do dress up a little because I don't do it every day. He said if I dressed girly all of the time, he'd wish for the jeans and t-shirt. Lol

    This. I like change and pleasant surprises.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    Women feel free to answer too =)

    Lately i've had some type of a mind eff.
    I 've never been the girl to get all done up for my every day life but lately i feel unattractive. My man always states that he likes me the most when i have no make up and i'm in my jeans and tee, but i feel like i should put on the make up do the hair and wear the heels. I think this is coming from my mom, telling me that i always have to look nice or J ( my man) will find someone prettier... like WTF is that??

    So men does it matter? I'll dress up if we are going out, but to just sit at home with a pile of make up on seems unnatural to me.

    If i want to sit around with a facefull of makeup when i'm not even leaving the house, then i will.... because i want to, not because i'm doing it for anyone else...

    if your fella has said he likes you best without makeup then whats the issue...!?
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I don't think men have a problem with makeup when it's used to enhance your natural beauty, rather than to hide what you actually look like. If you look like a totally different person when you scrub the makeup off, that's an issue for a lot of guys.

    In terms of clothing, I think you just have to examine the situation. If you're going out, put some effort in. If you're hanging out at home, there's no need to dress like you're jetting off to Paris for Fashion Week.
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    Different men have different preferences. And different women look good with different styles. I find my wife attractive with multiple different looks.

    Just do what makes you feel good.

    This! Trust your hubby and get your mother's neurosis out of your head! She might've needed to feel like she had to dress up for her man/men but that's kind of an old fashioned notion IMHO. Just look around next time your'e in a department store full of people - it's mostly the older women that are all made up and dressed up while the younger women tend to go more casual and natural.

    I'm thankful on a regular basis that I found a man who appreciates my low maintenance approach to clothes and make-up. I'll dress up and get a little made up when it's appropriate but otherwise, give me my jeans and a t-shirt!
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    Women look fine with or without dressing up. I think most dress up for other women.
  • Bronx_Montgomery
    Bronx_Montgomery Posts: 2,284 Member
    I think a woman looks her best without makeup and with a nice pair of butt hugging jeans and a shirt. Some woman try way to much and put too much make up. Im not going to say that you should not dress up every once in a while to treat your man but it isnt necessary all the time. The natural look is always the hottest.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    I think most dress up for other women.

    They do, and I've never understood why, at least if you're single. If I have a date and I want input on an outfit, I Skype with my brother-in-law. He's honest, and, being a guy, he knows what guys like, generally speaking.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    I definitely feel more confident when I take the time to do my hair, makeup, and to put on some nice clothes, but I'm a tomboy at heart and prefer to be mucking around in the dirt to being dressed up.. My husband seems to like both. Both of his sisters are very girlie, and I am feminine but not girlie (if that makes sense). He told me one thing that was really attractive to him when we met was that I'm a tomboy and not so hungup on superficial things like a lot of other girls. He does like it when I dress up periodically though. I try to look nice when he takes me out on dates.
  • kleavitt1992
    kleavitt1992 Posts: 592 Member
    in my personal opinon when guys say they like "no-make up" the mean makeup that doesnt look fake just enhancing your natural qualities maybe alittle foundation blush and mascara a red tinted chapstick, you'll look great but it wont be over done and they prob. wont notice you have any on. Also in my opinion guys like your hair to look nice but its all the clothes your wearing that decide if its fancy dressed up or not like when my hair is curled and im wearing jeans a tshirt and my romeos i still look approachable just relaxed
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    My husband thinks flannel and blue jeans are delicious and always tells me I don't need makeup. I'm sick right now with an awful cold and I'm pretty sure I look as good as I feel (awful!) But last night we were chatting and out of the blue he tells me how beautiful my eyes are. It's probably because they're all glassy from being sick but still, a man who loves you will see the beauty more than the ugly. I wear makeup often but I don't feel like I have to have it on to make him think I'm pretty. :)
  • BHAK
    BHAK Posts: 33
    As my friend Joe sings...

    Gimme that girl with her hair in a mess
    Sleepy little smile with her head on my chest
    That's the you that I like best
    Gimme that girl

    There is a time and a place for everything...Dressed to the nines, heels and all to old tee shirt and a pair of jeans...depending on the situation all can be so sexy!!!!!!!!!

    B
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I wouldn't want my wife to go through all the trouble to go work in the yard, but I do appreciate when she is trying to look nice for me. Especially when it's just for me.

    My wife has an extensive collection of lingerie and nothing makes me more excited than when we are sitting on the couch together, in the evening, and she gets up, walks to the stairs, turns around, looks at me over her shoulder and says, "What color?"

    That's my clue to go behind the bar, make a "Very Berry Stoli" for her and wait, patiently, on the couch for her return.

    Oh, here you go:
    Very Berry Stoli Recipe

    One shot of Stoli in a Wine glass
    Add one shot of Rasberry Liquer
    Fill with Champagne
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,043 Member
    One long tee and that's it!!!
  • Sublimely_Self_Righteousreused
    Sublimely_Self_Righteousreused Posts: 935 Member
    I prefer the dressed down look. That's not to say dressed up isn't hot, but to me, the natural dressed down look is way effing sexy.
  • Phoenix24601
    Phoenix24601 Posts: 620 Member
    My fiance and I met working at camp. When we met my hair was always up, no make up and t-shirts. Thats how he likes it. When I dress up for a date he always says I look good, but alot of the time he will ask for his "camp-girl" look. Some guys like that, and I am not complaining. :)
  • bluecollarfrench
    bluecollarfrench Posts: 344 Member
    in my personal opinon when guys say they like "no-make up" the mean makeup that doesnt look fake just enhancing your natural qualities maybe alittle foundation blush and mascara a red tinted chapstick, you'll look great but it wont be over done and they prob. wont notice you have any on. Also in my opinion guys like your hair to look nice but its all the clothes your wearing that decide if its fancy dressed up or not like when my hair is curled and im wearing jeans a tshirt and my romeos i still look approachable just relaxed

    I just love the fact that you wear romeos. Have a feeling most here don't know what those are.

    I also agree, most men really don't know if you have makeup than really just lightly enhances, vs takes over the face. The "natural" look I think is what most men are into. Now when going out though, I like to have my lady looking nice, dressed up.
  • lackie09
    lackie09 Posts: 123 Member
    My guy wants me to be the bell of the ball every time we go out he wants me n a nice dress, hair n makeup done,... all that Crap! i like to dress up but i hate feeling as awkward as it makes me feel. i mean i could c if we were going somewhere nice but were not We just go to a restaurant We always go to. i just dnt c the point... but anyway listen n believe when he says he likes the jeans n Tee im sure he wouldn't say it were it not true
  • askme12
    askme12 Posts: 155 Member
    Depends on the guy, I prefer little to no makeup.
  • 0PhAtDaDdY
    0PhAtDaDdY Posts: 569 Member
    Women feel free to answer too =)

    Lately i've had some type of a mind eff.
    I 've never been the girl to get all done up for my every day life but lately i feel unattractive. My man always states that he likes me the most when i have no make up and i'm in my jeans and tee, but i feel like i should put on the make up do the hair and wear the heels. I think this is coming from my mom, telling me that i always have to look nice or J ( my man) will find someone prettier... like WTF is that??

    So men does it matter? I'll dress up if we are going out, but to just sit at home with a pile of make up on seems unnatural to me.

    When at home simple and plain is attractive...Now when going out should spruce up a bit never know who you'll see...Now my wife dressed up with makeup is super hot...WE are going to a function tonight with our lovely daughter in tow as well..So to the question super dressed up at home not happing.....
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