NSF - Non Scale FAIL! (Anti NSV)

Dexy_
Dexy_ Posts: 593 Member
edited October 5 in Motivation and Support
I haven't told anyone in my family about my trying to lose weight. In the last month I've lost about 8kgs (don't worry it's because my baby weight is still falling off, I haven't been starving myself or pushing myself with exercise). I *thought* maybe it would be a *little* noticeable.

So my father called me and asked what I had done that day. I said the same old stuff as usual, then mentioned that I had walked into town and back with the 2 kids in the double pram (which is now normal for me, I do it 3-4 times a week). He went on to tell me "that's good exercise, because you know being at home doing nothing all day you're really starting to pack it on, you gotta start thinking about losing weight". Keep in mind I had only seen him 2 days prior.

So now I don't only FEEL fatter after starting trying to lose weight, I now apparently look it. GREAT!

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  • basschick
    basschick Posts: 3,502 Member
    Don't feel bad. Most men just aren't very observant. I've lost almost 50 lbs. and some male co-workers haven't even noticed. :ohwell:
  • Kirabelly
    Kirabelly Posts: 60
    Ugh. Is it too late to stick your fingers in your ears and yell "LALALALALA ICAN"THEARYOU"? Ignore him, PLEASE!
  • ksmith2187
    ksmith2187 Posts: 53
    Gosh aren't dads the best for that kind of stuff, admittedly I see mine like twice a year but without fail there is always a comment like that.

    Guys are blind to stuff like that, it just cant be helped. When I've lost all my weight I'm going to tell him that for none of your help and poke him in his 4XL belly.... god love him.
  • runs4zen
    runs4zen Posts: 769 Member
    GROAN...I'm so sorry that happened to you. Bear in mind, many folks are oblivious to changes in others. The scale doesn't lie though and YOU know you've lost the weight.

    Keep up the awesome work and eventually others will notice. Also, don't let nasty comments...whether well-intentioned or not--get you down.
  • Larius
    Larius Posts: 507 Member
    Don't feel bad. Most men just aren't very observant. I've lost almost 50 lbs. and some male co-workers haven't even noticed. :ohwell:

    Yup, most men are blind, unless you have food.
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
    Don't feel bad. Most men just aren't very observant. I've lost almost 50 lbs. and some male co-workers haven't even noticed. :ohwell:

    Men are observant in nanoseconds. We can spot a cute smile, a sexy neckline, or a curvy set of legs faster than a hummingbird's wings....but its unlikely you'd ever catch us at it!

    In today's climate of poitical correctness and sexual harrassment awareness I would be VERY hesitant as a man to tell a female coworker I noticed ANYTHING about her looks. Like "Wow, you look amazing! Have you been doing anything special?"...responses could be:
    1) this guy creeps me out, why is he looking at me, I'd better call HR
    2) this guy expressed an interest in me, that's inappropriate workplace behaviour, I'd better call HR
    3) I'm getting a lawyer because that's sexual harrassment and a hostile work environment!

    So even if you lost 100 pounds I doubt if I would say anything to you at work
  • TDGee
    TDGee Posts: 2,209 Member
    Don't feel bad. Most men just aren't very observant. I've lost almost 50 lbs. and some male co-workers haven't even noticed. :ohwell:

    Men are observant in nanoseconds. We can spot a cute smile, a sexy neckline, or a curvy set of legs faster than a hummingbird's wings....but its unlikely you'd ever catch us at it!

    In today's climate of poitical correctness and sexual harrassment awareness I would be VERY hesitant as a man to tell a female coworker I noticed ANYTHING about her looks. Like "Wow, you look amazing! Have you been doing anything special?"...responses could be:
    1) this guy creeps me out, why is he looking at me, I'd better call HR
    2) this guy expressed an interest in me, that's inappropriate workplace behaviour, I'd better call HR
    3) I'm getting a lawyer because that's sexual harrassment and a hostile work environment!

    So even if you lost 100 pounds I doubt if I would say anything to you at work

    I think you may have nailed it. Defensive masculinity.
  • LadyOfOceanBreeze
    LadyOfOceanBreeze Posts: 762 Member
    Don't feel bad. Most men just aren't very observant. I've lost almost 50 lbs. and some male co-workers haven't even noticed. :ohwell:

    Men are observant in nanoseconds. We can spot a cute smile, a sexy neckline, or a curvy set of legs faster than a hummingbird's wings....but its unlikely you'd ever catch us at it!

    In today's climate of poitical correctness and sexual harrassment awareness I would be VERY hesitant as a man to tell a female coworker I noticed ANYTHING about her looks. Like "Wow, you look amazing! Have you been doing anything special?"...responses could be:
    1) this guy creeps me out, why is he looking at me, I'd better call HR
    2) this guy expressed an interest in me, that's inappropriate workplace behaviour, I'd better call HR
    3) I'm getting a lawyer because that's sexual harrassment and a hostile work environment!

    So even if you lost 100 pounds I doubt if I would say anything to you at work

    probably a good idea...considering the options:wink:
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