let myself go big time :( :( :(

Don't despair!! The way you feel can be turned around (believe me, I have to tell myself this EVERY day!)...you have to find out what works best for you. Reading through other people's posts might help give you some helpful starting points. The first thing you have to do is get out of bed and off the sofa and do something you enjoy. Don't let that anger you have beat you down...use is as a tool to get you up and moving somehow.

You have to do it for yourself...
Please, please, please add me as a friend...we can help support each other when I feel the way you're feeling now.

Jen

It starts with today!! You can't change everything, but you can change today. Take it one day at a time, set small achievable goals like going for a walk on your lunch hour. Baby steps, and you'll get there. Don't lose hope.

Motivation is an inward thing! You have to quit 'thinking' about it and 'just do it'. Take it day by day. If you slip up, don't give up, just start over and keep going. Logging your exercise and food is a great start. It helps you stay on track. I've fought the yoyo weight loss/gain all my life. I'm finally in control and don't want to go back. Don't do it for anyone else but YOU!

I remember feeling like you....I still have down days but I have been loggin on as much as I can. I get inspired by others. The motivation, encouragement & support friends on here give you will keep you going. Pay attention to your food log, it helps BIG time. you start to notice how much your eating or not. Get in the game, YOU CAN DO IT!!! just start moving more & lil by lil you will WANT to keep moving & more. This is definately a JOURNEY that is NO JOKE!!! HANG IN THERE!!!

I was feeling the same way. It wasn't easy for me to get started but I started eating healthier, and forced myself to go to the gym. I started with walking on the treadmill for an hour at least 3-4 times a week. Then I met the trainer and took one of his free classes, made a friend in that class and now we work out together 5 days a week. We also work out with the trainer 1-2 times during the week. Now, I love going to the gym and freak out if I miss a day (it's my new addiction). Like I said, I know it's hard to get started but it's well worth it and you will feel so much better about yourself. Feel free to add me and you can get in touch with me anytime. Best of luck to you!

So. How has being angry with yourself helped your situation? I would bet it hasn't- so how about you cut that out- and give yourself some slack.

Would you be angry with a friend for having to lose 50 pounds? a random stranger? a loved one? probably not- so wtf are you treating yourself worse than you'd treat a stranger. Knock it the hell off... I bet if a friend of loved one had to lose 50 pounds- you;d be super supportive and understanding. Give yourself that same courtesy.

Today is a lucky day for you- bc you have the chance to make a few changes in your life- one place to start is to forgive yourself, stop being mad and do something about it.

Start with 5 pounds. Can you make changes in your life which will allow you to lose 5 pounds? I bet you can. And I mean that sincerely. Work on five pounds. Just five pounds. Do that. Then think about the next five- but for today, this week, this month, this year- think about that 5 pounds.

And if you;re looking for a friend- go ahead and friend me- and if you're looking for an amazing woman- look under groups - and join the group - awesome in caps. you'll see more than one woman there who has lost over a hundred pounds- and at least one who has lost more than 200.

Go on, you know you want to .

I hope you find away out something that sticks with me when I feel un motivated or want to cheat is. You regret eating the junk, I never regret eating well. I hate myself when I dont go to the gym and whenever I have forced myself to go I have never regretted it. We all have stops and starts. The main thing is you recognise it and you have, Get back on track you can do it xxx

hun i am in the same boat as u! but on the plus side..weight u put on isn't permanent thank god lol i have 60lbs to lose...i am 4'8 and considered obese for my height...i could not believe i got myself to this point where i am 21 years old and cant go shopping with my friends for clothes or take a picture without deleting it cause one of my chins are showing...i got depressed and sat at home for days upon days without leaving the house...until someone snapped me back to reality. the quote that helps motivate me: Eat for the body you want, not the body u have! we can do this!

I really love this Kaiser commercial. It says it all.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NOtX6u0cBc0

just find your thing. once you find it, you won't want to stop doing it. You'll get addicted to it.

From my experience, the feelings you are expressing---disgust, anger, sadness, embarassment, guilt---do nothing to motivate a healthy change.


Try to change your mindset. You DESERVE a healthier body. You're only going to put good, nutritious foods in it, because that is what you deserve. You're going to give your body movement and exercise, because your body is great and it needs those things.


Don't "punish" yourself, or the first chance you get, you'll relapse and chow down a whole pizza by yourself. Instead, do what you know is good for your body. After only about a week or two, those things will start to FEEL good, too.

Don't let the impending holidays or winter become an excuse to put off change. It starts now with even the tiniest step, which I think could be your post. You cared enough to reach out and ask for help - that shows you are ready. Now gather up all the responses you go to your post, figure out what you can get started on right away (walking at lunch sounds reasonable or something along those lines) and try it for a few days. Hopefully, you will start to notice a difference that will make you want to keep going and expand your physical activity.

The main thing is this: Don't give up! Never give up! You are worth it and you can change and feel better about yourself. You deserve it!

We're pulling for ya! Keep us posted!
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Read the Success Stories. Nothing is more motivational than to read how people like you and I have been successful!

I suggest not viewing progress by what weight you have lost but by what activity you have done thru out the week. Let's say like today you made a goal of walking down to the park a mile away. Tomorrow you could ride your bike for 30 mins. Stuff like that so it is viewed as fun and not as despairing if you don't lose weight that week. Also replace some of youir normal snacks with fruit and drinks atleast 34 oz of water a day and you will see a change not only in your body but the way you feel about yourself.

We've all been there. You didn't gain it over night and you won't loose it over night. Take small steps to getting to a better you. Slow and steady wins the race. You can do this.