Looking for support-death in family

Please be sure to be gentle on yourself in the upcoming days. Maybe that means focusing on other things, just trying to eat healthy, but not letting MFP or counting be a stress producer, you've already got enough on your plate. Or maybe that means sticking to counting as something normal to hold on to. Whatever would reduce your stress.

I am sorry for your loss. I know from personal experience at times like this there are no words that can be spoken to comfort us. I am sending prayers for you and your family. Big hugsss.

Ok oooooooooooooo HUGS!!!!!! I am very sorry for your loss.

Realize how fortunate it was that you received a call and were able to have those few hours before she passed. Your husband will land on his feet and recover from the shock of the loss. Let him go through the stages of his grief which is surely complicated because of the relationship he had with his mom. You're his support and it's understandable that you are upset and concerned. Things will return to normal but her death remains. Hopefully he made peace with himself regarding their relationship.

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My best suggestion is to take care of yourself so you can continue to be supportive and caring of and for your husband. Sometimes big issues of the past need the help of a professional - a clergyperson or counselor - to undo those knots.
Blessings on you and your family.

(((hugs)))) I am so sorry. You are doing what he needs - being there, listening, being supportive, helping wherever you can. Just realize this will seem to go on and on, at times. There is a lot of extra grieving to go through, with the missed years due to estrangement. It is very complicated, but you will get through it best by going through it together.

Allow him to grieve and you need to accept and grieve that he will likely not be the man he once was, at least that's what happened to my husband. He has not been the same man and I have had to accept it and learn how to love him this way. The loss of a parent is so traumatic, especially the circumstances he and his mother were under. Men generally don't want to talk, at least not my husband. My husband just wanted to be with me, no words; just together; knowing I was there was what he needed. The first year is the hardest because of all the firsts, our first Christmas was a solitude one, he wanted nothing to do with his dad and brother, there are reasons because of this situation. He just couldn't stand the idea of celebrating, but he did do Christmas with the kids. I hadn't seen my father in over 10 years and discovered his death by accident on the internet, and I grieved him so hard because the opportunity of finding him and making things right was gone, and I lost hope. I missed him despite the conditions of our relationship and miss him more now knowing that he never called me when he was in the hospital and I could have gone to see him, Your husband got closure, he got to say goodbye. He will find solace in that eventually. Everything will feel too soon for a long time because he lost her too soon. His entire outlook on life has changed and you will have to find a way to love each other through this. He will be okay and so will you. Be there for him and let him be there for you. You are both going through this,TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF SO YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF HIM!!!

((HUGS)) Sorry to hear about your loss death is never easy to deal with. My only suggestion is to be there for your husband but not so much that you drain yourself. That really is not any right words to say when someone passes away. I just listen and comfort them as much as possible. Let him deal with his emotions in a healthy as possible way. Have him try and think postitve about the situation I know that sounds stupid but death is not a bad thing. It hurts the people around them and may even make some mad. Idk I wish people didn't have to die and everyone could live forever!!!! ((HUG))