Ashamed to ask, but asking anyway-weight gain

Motivation is absolutely the hardest part! I have had so many times in the past few years when I would get motivated for a few weeks and then all of a sudden just...stop. It's hard when you're either on or off. I am not sure how I've been able to keep things up for the past 3 months, but I think part of it is I'm really not trying to be as "extreme" as before, so I can keep it up.

Don't feel bad. I think it's human nature to be honest. I know it's probably not that helpful, but I think this is a very common issue with weight loss and fitness.

I will say that the one thing I am doing differently is that I am using a personal trainer. She helps with the working out, but she's also someone to hold me accountable week to week.

Totally with you. I'm doing well then life takes over and I put on again. I'm trying to just aim for the weekly calorie goal instead of the daily one. That way I can have pizza and cake for my friends birthday but then balance it out over the rest of the week. Before once I ate something 'bad', I figured I'd runied my healthy eating anyway so might as well just pig out. Aiming for the weekly calories goal has definately helped me get some control. good luck!

Ive been on here since february.. I did really good, lost like 15 lbs- then I kept dancing between 245-250 for the longest time... I started a stressful job, life in general just got crazy, and my mind wasnt in the right place. Its been here in the last 3 weeks that I decided to give it my all and see how far I can go. Its hard. Every single day... but I know that its going to be so worth it in the end Youll find your stride, when theres something that makes you want it bad enough!

I know exactly what you are going through. I have done the same thing but with a different program. Lost 15 pounds then lost motivation. Gained it back plus more and had to do the walk of shame when i finally weighed in again. For me, it's everytime one of my parents is dealing with a serious illness. My health just takes a back seat. I'm hoping being on here and reading the boards and making new friends keeps me motivated. So far so good anyway. If you are looking for a fellow drop-out/drop-in just shoot a friend request. Good luck!

I totally get it. I'm 10 pounds more than I was in february (partly because I super crash dieted to fit into my wedding dress, then after the wedding I ate everything in site)... I hope to be able to get back down to that weight soon.

You are not alone! I feel as though I have made no progress due to my own stupid fault of stopping and starting and it is becoming quite frustrating to get to a certain fitness level, have a couple of weeks off and then start all over again. If I don't go to the gym on Monday and start the week on a positive note the rest of the week is kaput. Even right this minute I am having a hard time motivating myself to go to the gym after work. I would love nothing more than to go home and relax with a glass of wine. They say it takes 21 days to form a habit so that is what I am trying - to atleast go to the gym 5 times a week and make healthy food choices for the 21 days. I think we need to constantly set ourselves small achievable goals.

I was the same in the past. Go great for two weeks,give up. Go great for a month and give up. id be all out and then id loose motivation and be doing nothing. i think a LOT of ppl r this way.

this time i said i wouldnt let myself fall of the tracks and i took it slow but i still ended up going off tracks for a while, just not as bad as i had in the past. it was more a dip in my efforts rather than a de-railing. i started off making very small changes and stoping myself from going overboard, when i felt like depriving myself, id snack instead so that i wasnt going nuts and binging. but even without kids i found with time i "didnt have the time" to exercise and once i lost momentum i stopped. then i went on holidays for a week and after that i was over calories every day. the important thing was i kept recording, i kept trying to be under even though i was failing every day, i treated it like an oopsy not an oh well give up. and then once i had a 1kg(2lb) gain i went thats it, gotta get out of this dip and back on the horse. i have been nback on track for 6 weeks now and its still going really great im still really pumped. this time i started by just getting my food back in gear, slowly getting it back to how it was under control. and then i started exercising and in the first week wen i wanted to do extra exercise i didnt i said no i only did my minimum so the next day i had no excuse not to do it i couldnt say oh i did extra yesterday so i wont today, there were no excuses aloud had to be every day. and now its been three weeks and my exercise is what i look forward to MOST in my day. i cant be certain this is going to last, but i feel and think it is and thats most important. believing you WILL make it last this time. ive gone and got the proper gear for my workout (hrm, exercise bike, running shoes) and that has spurred me to stick with it - after all i dont want to have wasted all that money. and supporting others and getting support here has really helped me. and i def feel like - everyone else is exercising well i want to too. i thought it would take years to get me excited about exercise but now im obsessed with it, but its not just in short burst and then fading its every day. im just keeping myself pumped about it and keeping it and keeping it for as long as i can.

sorry that was long winded but anyway i hope it helps in some way. i think that going hard and then giving up is very very very common, most ppl r like this. and u just need some like minded friends to motivate each other to stick with it. believe that this time it will stick and bounce off others and you can make it stick.

if you want support feel free to add me.

bottom line it is hard, its a work in progress and life will was HAPPEN,...i struggle with this EVERYDAY...all i try to do is think of one day at a time.....just making it through the day and then next....if something happens then i start over....you are not alone....
good luck:flowerforyou:

I just want to say I feel for you, I really do. I have just this year managed to finally lose weight and I only have one four year old but while she was a toddler or baby I just couldn't do it.
Unfortunately the only way to lose weight is to be really self involved and 100% committed which is easier said than done when you have children to care for.
Maybe you could think about what you do wrong when these things happen, and think up ways to combat that one at a time. Perhaps weight watchers ready meals when you are too busy , or joining Jenny craig or something like that if youc an afford it. Some kind of exercise the kids can join in on. 30DS is great becasue youc an do it at home and it only takes 20mins but even that with kids can be hard I had to be really strict with my daughter to educate her to leave me alone those 20mins!!!

You are not alone! I feel as though I have made no progress due to my own stupid fault of stopping and starting and it is becoming quite frustrating to get to a certain fitness level, have a couple of weeks off and then start all over again. If I don't go to the gym on Monday and start the week on a positive note the rest of the week is kaput. Even right this minute I am having a hard time motivating myself to go to the gym after work. I would love nothing more than to go home and relax with a glass of wine. They say it takes 21 days to form a habit so that is what I am trying - to atleast go to the gym 5 times a week and make healthy food choices for the 21 days. I think we need to constantly set ourselves small achievable goals.

I dont know if this will help but i take my gym cloths with me, I dont go to gym, i go jogging or i workout at home, but i found if i change my cloths before i leave my job, I will drive home get imidiatly out of the car and i DO NOT go in the house i move one foot in front of the other to down my road walking then eventuialy i jog. For soem reason it is a super motivater, if i go in house to change then i can forget about exercise.. Or if i go in i make sure i head to the tv adn put in a dvd, and exercise then if i wait it wont get done.

Remember this, too! You have most likely gained a more healthy lifestyle, even if you haven't lost weight (and only gained some). Compared to if you threw in the towel completely and did whatever felt good for the moment every single time. So just by logging in and trying even half heartedly you are getting some benefit when you consider the alternative of not having it even on the radar.

My motivation was getting blood work done, stick with the program for 3 months, get blood work done again. While I wasn't losing a LOT of weight, I saw the benefits on the INSIDE of what eating a healthy program does for me. That was all the motivation I needed and it has pushed me through 8 months, pushed my car past restaurants to cook at home, pushed me into the kitchen on days when I wanted to simply order a pizza... knowing what changes are going on in my heart, my blood, my kidneys, my liver... it is what motivates me.

I feel ya! It seems Im on a constant cycle of 2-3 weeks on 2-3 weeks off when it comes to eating right. Im usually pretty good with the exercise because im usually training for something but have even been slacking with that lately because my next race isnt til Jan. Its just really hard to stay at for the reasons you said. You have to want it bad enough to stick with it and there i many times i want to enjoy time with my kids and family than i want flat abs. they are only small once.

Dont beat yourself up and dont what you can! hugs!

I think that the most important part of fitness and nutrition is getting back on the horse as soon as possible. I just got down to my lowest weight in decades for my fourth marathon and within weeks, Ive gained 5 - 7 lbs!! I have been eating crap, my routine is messed up with the shorter days and daylight savings time ending and maybe even a little depression thrown in for good measure. On top of it, my asthma is acting up and Im not getting the sleep that I need for the past several weeks. So my advice is this: Don't worry about where you have been. Make a plan and go forward with confidence. You can do it!! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, even yourself!!