How to avoid sabotage at home

76wendyful
76wendyful Posts: 202
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
One of my biggest problems is going home to a husband who doesn't need to lose weight and can eat whatever he wants. It may not be healthy, but he comes home with the big bags of reese's pb trees. I know they are there so I automatically want them. Last night I ate 7 of them! They are like 90 calories a piece! I ask him not to offer me any, but he also doesn't tell me no when I ask for them. I think if he did I would bite his head off. He doesn't want to upset me. How do I get past this?

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  • daffodilsoup
    daffodilsoup Posts: 1,972 Member
    Can you ask him to hide them and not to tell you when he brings them home?
  • hooah_mj
    hooah_mj Posts: 1,004 Member
    the hubs keeps his candy stash in his night stand, and I consider it off limits....it really works.
  • Cold_Steel
    Cold_Steel Posts: 897 Member
    If this is truly a lifestyle change this is one of those things that you will just have to battle. Not every one needs too follow your plan, but you can always ask him to leave those things somewhere where you dont see them or at work or in the car (if they wont melt) etc. But honestly if you cant resist those it may take some counseling if you feel that submissive to them.
  • KristinCrochets
    KristinCrochets Posts: 21 Member
    That's such a good idea, hooah_mj... and 76wendyful, with that, you could get snacks that are JUST for you - off-limits to him. When he reaches for a bag of HIS stuff, you reach for a bag of YOURS. Weight Watchers has lots of options, or microwave a bag of popcorn and keep it in a baggie for those moments, carrots and dip, cheese sticks, whatever you want... but make it just for you. That may help, too. :)
  • 76wendyful
    76wendyful Posts: 202
    thank you for the ideas. Sometimes I feel like the food controls me and I don't like that feeling. I want to have control of myself. If I keep that in mind, and know that in the future, if I really, really want them I can have them. Maybe if it doesn't feel like I am telling myself no it will be easier. I don't know. I will have to work on it.
  • hhorncastle
    hhorncastle Posts: 84 Member
    I don't know if this will work for you, but here's what I do: I think of my calories as money. I'm REALLY frugal with money and, for the most part, I'm able to carry that over to my calories, too. I'm in the same boat as far as a partner who doesn't need to lose weight and eats whatever he wants, so I'm facing the same temptations. When he pulls out the sweets, I think about how many calories I've got left for the day. How can I get the most bang for my buck? I could probably afford ONE chocolate, but if I can't and I still want something sweet, maybe a stick of dessert gum will do. Once I started really reading my labels, it's was like "Okay, this chocolate bar is 240 calories. So was my LUNCH. Is this an entire meal? Um.. no. So, is it worth is? And it's usually not. (But sometimes it is, and that's okay, too.)
  • michiganderrdh
    michiganderrdh Posts: 151 Member
    Tell him exactly what you just said on here. You need his support! YOu will ALWAYS be faced with these challenges - it's life and people eat crap and will offer it. Treat yourself to one and be done is key. Everyday is new and the will power is there. YOu just have to exercise it!
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