Getting tired of negative influences

OoOoOh dear, lemme tell you... My husband is awesome and loves me no matter how big or small I have ever been . His family tho, well they are a different story all together. I have actually been told when preparing for family dinners "Do NOT take the fat or sugar out of any food that you are going to feed ME. I'm not on your STUPID DIET"...the sad part is that many of these people are quite large themselves and are in SUPER denial. I have been told a lot of the same things that you presented in your post too. I used to try to excuse the fact that I was dieting and others weren't because I actually felt GUILTY for them being bigger than me and me trying to lose weight. Or not eat all day so that I could eat 'normally' in front of certain people later on. Then one day I kinda said "Screw it." ha ha I do what I do for me. Not for anyone else. If people ask about my weight I tell them with pride. If they don't say anything I tend to keep quiet... but continue with bringing tossed salads to family cookouts, or angel food cake to gatherings...etc.

While I don't have anyone that can eat whatever they want and stay skinny... i do have those that eat whatever they want and don't give a darn ! When my husband is having a bag of Humpty Dumpty potato chips, I have a baggie full of dry cereal (I'm a cereal-a-holic) When he is eating mashed potato and gravy, I am eating a plate of sweet potato 'fries'. I chew A LOT of gum, mint chocolate chip icecream by Extra is one of my saviours !

You just gotta remember that you are doing this for YOU. Other people will always try to bring you down in order to bring themselves up. Keep 'em in their place by doing what you do---with a smile! :bigsmile:

Nothing left to say. AmberBoobar sumed it all up in an nut shell. Be you and don't worry about haters.

I hear you... both with the negativity from people judging my eating habbits, and knowing people (both my brothers are bean poles )want who eat what they want and do not gain weight. My entire life I have been fed by mother into the idea that being skinny is about being vain, and that vain people and "pretty" people are usually stupid. Sadly most of my coworkers consider me vain for watching my weight, losing weight, or caring how I look on a pair pf pants. I never thought wanting to be fit was a sin, perhaps the pants are a bit vain, but aside from that I know obesity runs in my family and I want to avoid it..

I lost from 155 to 145 while working here and then it started... the too thin comments, the "sorry not everyone wants to look like Barbie" and my personal favorites "whydo you want to lose weight" I try to explain before I got into nursing I was 140 (I am 5 8, so I am kind of tall) and 145 was actually above my normal weight. Now I am around 130lbs and everyone has a comment, especially when I say I want to get "in shape" they assume I mean thinner... when I explain I want abs a.d arm definition they either say "that's manly" or "that's vain" in fact the only one who supports my goals is my fiance and he was happy with me at all weights and sizes.

I ha e learned I cannot make everyone happy all the time, plus the only opinion that matters where MY figure is concerned is me. If I want to be 170 or 125 to be happy that is my business. Everyone can judge, but only my judgement of myself is relevant.

Do not mind typos... my cell phone likes to auto correct me.

I've found that people who are insecure about their own choices, their own weight or themselves in general tend to be the negative ones. I think it is a "we're all in this together" mentality. If you make better choices or choose to not eat something and they make not so great choices or choose to eat the unhealthy item - they feel like what they're doing is more noticeable.


I'm quite certain they know the difference between healthy and unhealthy foods and when you choose a different path ... well, they get more insecure about their own choices. Misery loves company.

I've encountered MANY people who are overweight and VERY judgmental about the choices *I* am making. They are known for saying "oh, please.. 1 ______ (fill in the blank) won't kill you!" or "You know.. it won't make you gain a million pounds if you just have ______ this one time!".

No, I won't die from it nor will I gain a million pounds if I eat it. But, I just choose to eat something else. There's no crime in choosing to eat right, get healthy and lose weight. Unfortunately, I feel like - as a society - we treat weight loss, eating right and getting healthy as a crime against humanity. We've become too complacent and accept obesity as the norm now.

My housemate is the most negative influence in my life at the moment. She told my best friend that she is 150kg (or 330 pounds), about double my weight, and she does not seem interested in losing weight at all. She is constantly trying to get me to eat pizza, or red rooster, I think to make herself feel better about eating it. Whenever we talk about eating healthy she gets really quiet and doesn't participate in the conversation and gets a *****y look on her face because she doesn't like it. She uses a ton of oil when she cooks, even though she knows I don't like things really oily because I have a sensitive stomach.
I just decided to eat what I want and if she wants to eat it too, then I'll make some for her, but otherwise she can get her own food.

I started losing weight last year and got a gym membership and then I got sick so that fell by the way-side. Before that I lost a few kilos and started toning up and I had customers telling me that I looked good, but I shouldn't lose any more weight because then I'd be too skinny. The way I see it, is that I'm losing weight to feel healthier and better in myself, so I'm going to get down to my goal weight again for me. Not anyone else.

Good on you for pushing through all the negativity. Feel free to friend me