What is the ettiquitte on this site?

wisgal77
wisgal77 Posts: 59 Member
edited October 2024 in Introduce Yourself
HI! I've been following this site for a little over a week now. I was wondering what is the ettiquitte on requesting friends? Many people have many friends...do we just look at profiles and request people that have similar interests or with profiles that look interesting? I've noticed that a lot of individuals have a set of rules for friend requests, so I have been a little hesitant. It sounds like many are trolling around and I don't want to bee seen that way. I would love to support others and get that support in return, but wasn't quite sure how to go about this.

Help! :blushing:

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  • taso42
    taso42 Posts: 8,980 Member
    See someone you want to be friends with? Click Add Friend, and in the little box, type a little note saying what made you want to extend the invitation. Simple as that :smile:
  • Pandorian
    Pandorian Posts: 2,055 Member
    Best way if you were looking to add me as a friend is extend the request, but make sure you don't just have a blank profile, fill in at least some info so I can see if ... our interests line up, weight loss goals, starting... dietary habits (35% carbs 35% protein and 30% fat for me) etc or just life interests are the same... I'm an IT tech big into home-steading / small farming etc.
    Once the request is out don't take it hard if not everyone accepts some are happy with the number of friends they have others will accept whoever asks.
  • sullyboo
    sullyboo Posts: 256 Member
    I think if you share similar goals then people are happy to accept friend request.. Some people like to support newbies, others maybe want friends at different point in their journey. I think everyone on here is pretty friendly and supportive. So if you think someone can help you out or sounds similar to you then I guess just friend request them................ they can only decline.

    Hope that helps
  • grassette
    grassette Posts: 976 Member
    You can meet friends in the community. Some people post asking for friends. Others post under a topic, and you find that you've got something in common, so you friend them. Some folks want a message with the request, just to know you a bit first.

    Different strokes for different folks, but you'll find your way. Just jump in.
  • Isisnile
    Isisnile Posts: 34
    I am not really sure, but you can add me if you like.:smile:
  • unhinge
    unhinge Posts: 318 Member
    Joining groups is another great way to find support from people with like goals and intrests.
  • Shannon_Nicole83
    Shannon_Nicole83 Posts: 181 Member
    I'm fairly new, only been here about a month, and I request those that I feel I can relate to. Or who have been where I am now and can give pointers. Something in common is usually a good start. But I've added everyone that's requested it, even if our only thing in common is trying to get healthy.
  • CaptainGordo
    CaptainGordo Posts: 4,437 Member
    I would also add...

    Only extend that friendship request once. If you don't hear back, they likely declined from one reason or another.

    Many folks, myself included, like to keep our friends list trim. Sending a private message asking why the person declined is... well... lame. :laugh:
  • tchrnmommy
    tchrnmommy Posts: 342 Member
    Must read blog post http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/dsjohndrow/view/rules-for-accepting-mfp-friends-are-essential-170646

    Funny but true....there is the range of people and different personalities for requesting or accepting friends...I crack up when I see the one's with the stringent rules...and usually bipass them if I click their profile because I liked something they said, but then see the "rules."

    Everyone is different and to each their own...but Guru is pretty much on. Can't go wrong with that.
  • ajanmillie
    ajanmillie Posts: 241 Member
    exactly. sometimes I will add people after they have said something I am feeling or if they are on the same boat that I am. I do always try to write a note so they know I am not some creep lol.
  • TDGee
    TDGee Posts: 2,209 Member
    See someone you want to be friends with? Click Add Friend, and in the little box, type a little note saying what made you want to extend the invitation. Simple as that :smile:

    He is quite correct. Guru was awarded the title of Guru as well as the Order of Pants, quite prestigious honors here at MFP.
  • TDGee
    TDGee Posts: 2,209 Member
    See someone you want to be friends with? Click Add Friend, and in the little box, type a little note saying what made you want to extend the invitation. Simple as that :smile:

    He is quite correct. Guru was awarded the title of Guru as well as the Order of Pants, quite prestigious honors here at MFP.
  • k2quiere
    k2quiere Posts: 4,151 Member
    Some of us have no ETIQUETTE at all...in fact, we have barely evolved to using forks.

    As for the rest of your question, a note with a friend request is always nice; at the very least it makes me think about adding someone without simply declining.
  • capergal
    capergal Posts: 141 Member
    I'm glad you posted this, I wasn't sure the proper etiquette either, i wanted to request friends but didn't know if I should or not, Thanks for clearing it up!

    PS you can add me if you want.
  • wisgal77
    wisgal77 Posts: 59 Member
    Thanks everyone! I really appreciate your responses!!:flowerforyou:
  • stubbysticks
    stubbysticks Posts: 1,275 Member
    Don't be discouraged when you see that people ask for a message. Out of curiosity I personally like to know what people may have seen on my profile or on the message boards that makes them decide to send a request, but I accept them even if they don't assuming they have some information on their profile about themselves.

    The main reason people do this is that the turnover on sites like this is so high that keeping your friend list manageable is a skill. I can't offer support to 1,000 friends; I much prefer to have a smaller group of friends that I know are serious about their weight loss & share a similar mindset. Not only does that benefit me in my own efforts, but I can be a much better friend to them if the size of my list isn't enormous.

    I'm one of those who periodically does friend list clean-up to delete people who haven't been active for several months, others prefer not to do that so they just screen up front. Not a huge deal. :smile:
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