Stage 5 Clingers
WarriorMom2012
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My husband is one. If I don't call him 3 times a day, text him, etc he thinks I'm up to something or I don't love him.
We've only been married a couple years but I'm getting to the point where I can't breathe!
Why do men feel they have to smother you with love?!
We've only been married a couple years but I'm getting to the point where I can't breathe!
Why do men feel they have to smother you with love?!
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Because chicks dig it.Why do men feel they have to smother you with love?!0 -
I don't think all men are like that. For instance, I haven't heard from my wife in 3 days. I hope she's alright.0
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My husband is one. If I don't call him 3 times a day, text him, etc he thinks I'm up to something or I don't love him.
We've only been married a couple years but I'm getting to the point where I can't breathe!
Why do men feel they have to smother you with love?!
Because they are cheating themselves. My experience is when they begin to smother it's because they need to control and watch your every move due to their own bad behavior. And when it came to light I divorced his *kitten*!0 -
My husband is one. If I don't call him 3 times a day, text him, etc he thinks I'm up to something or I don't love him.
We've only been married a couple years but I'm getting to the point where I can't breathe!
Why do men feel they have to smother you with love?!
Because they are cheating themselves. My experience is when they begin to smother it's because they need to control and watch your every move due to their own bad behavior. And when it came to light I divorced his *kitten*!
agreed...........distrust is often a result of guilt..............sad but true0 -
My husband is one. If I don't call him 3 times a day, text him, etc he thinks I'm up to something or I don't love him.
We've only been married a couple years but I'm getting to the point where I can't breathe!
Why do men feel they have to smother you with love?!
Sheesh! We just can't win. If we don't call, we're insensitive and just don't care. When we do call, we're smothering.
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I've never been attracted to that kind of man. I'm not very needy so wouldn't stand for a needy man. If he's wooing you in the beginning that's one thing, but quite another if he's so needy.
This chick does NOT dig a stage 5 clinger. If you're not liking it, I'd set some boundaries now before it causes major distress.0 -
Do you guys not live together? I see my roommates more often than that and we barely speak to each other hahaI don't think all men are like that. For instance, I haven't heard from my wife in 3 days. I hope she's alright.0 -
I like the online couselors who are advising, with no knowledge of the couple, that the husband is cheating. That's awesome.0
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My husband is one. If I don't call him 3 times a day, text him, etc he thinks I'm up to something or I don't love him.
We've only been married a couple years but I'm getting to the point where I can't breathe!
Why do men feel they have to smother you with love?!
Because they are cheating themselves. My experience is when they begin to smother it's because they need to control and watch your every move due to their own bad behavior. And when it came to light I divorced his *kitten*!
I'm sorry this happened to you, but I dont think this is the case all the time. My boyfriend and I are always checking up on eachother, I'm sure if I didn't feel the same need to want to talk to him and know what he's doing when I'm not around as he does then yes it might be annoying. He may just be bored and thinking of you and since your his best friend not just his wife he wants to talk to you the most, so your the first person he's texting.0 -
I've never been attracted to that kind of man. I'm not very needy so wouldn't stand for a needy man. If he's wooing you in the beginning that's one thing, but quite another if he's so needy.
This chick does NOT dig a stage 5 clinger. If you're not liking it, I'd set some boundaries now before it causes major distress.
Ditto. I think it is probably (hopefully) premature to think he is cheating, but at the very least he is very insecure.
You've got to tell him how it makes you feel.
Props for "Wedding Crashers" reference.0 -
My boyfriend was kind of the same way in the beginning until it got to the point that it drove me nuts and I got into a big arguement with him a couple times.. now he TRIES a lot harder to not be like that. I couldnt stand that "smothered" type feeling either. Hope your husband will change that eventually, for your sake! =/ Hugs!0
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Unless it's true...HAHAHAI don't think all men are like that. For instance, I haven't heard from my wife in 3 days. I hope she's alright.
If so I'm sorry.0 -
Men are not all like that. It is a control issue. Many abusers are like that. You might talk to your guy and let him know you need a bit of breathing room. Tell him trust and beeing happy when you have fun, makes you feel loved. He should want to make you feel good. Good luck, take care of you.0
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I'm just kidding.
Unless it's true...HAHAHAI don't think all men are like that. For instance, I haven't heard from my wife in 3 days. I hope she's alright.
If so I'm sorry.0 -
I like the online couselors who are advising, with no knowledge of the couple, that the husband is cheating. That's awesome.
exactly.0 -
Why don't you talk to him about how you're feeling? Put everything out in the open for a nice happy marriage.0
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Sometimes it's insecurity, Abandonment issues or he really is that worried. It's like opening the fridge quick to see if the light stays on all the time or worrying that something catostrophic will happen if your not there.0
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My only advice would be to sit down & try to talk it out. My wife & I usually text each other several times a day, & talk once or twice, but I'm very lucky in that it's mutual & even after almost 20 years together, we still ENJOY talking to each other & don't get suspicious if we don't hear from each other or have to tell or text each other that we're busy & can't talk.0
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The only real advice that counts is this...call him constantly. Every 30 minutes. There is not time for rational talk or open communications. Actively stalk him. Show up at his work. Even try some inappropriate quickies in the break room or storage closet. Make him scream for space.0
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I don't think all men are like that. For instance, I haven't heard from my wife in 3 days. I hope she's alright.
Lol, strengthening your alibi?0 -
The only real advice that counts is this...call him constantly. Every 30 minutes. There is not time for rational talk or open communications. Actively stalk him. Show up at his work. Even try some inappropriate quickies in the break room or storage closet. Make him scream for space.
Love it! It's the only solution that makes sense.0 -
Why do men feel they have to smother you with love?!
How about if we smother you with a pillow, but it's done with love?0 -
The only real advice that counts is this...call him constantly. Every 30 minutes. There is not time for rational talk or open communications. Actively stalk him. Show up at his work. Even try some inappropriate quickies in the break room or storage closet. Make him scream for space.
Love it! It's the only solution that makes sense.
I totally agree......give him what he is giving you and let him know how it feels...............0 -
I think it's pretty obvious what is going on here. He's jealous of your weight loss.0
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He is going out a lot lately and he put a password on his cell phone. You don't really think he's cheating, do you? He tells me he loves me.0
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I think it's pretty obvious what is going on here. He's jealous of your weight loss.
i love you! lol0 -
I like the online couselors who are advising, with no knowledge of the couple, that the husband is cheating. That's awesome.
^^ that..!0 -
He is going out a lot lately and he put a password on his cell phone. You don't really think he's cheating, do you? He tells me he loves me.
Letting a bunch of people get into your head on here is not going to help.
In my experience Clinginess like that has been due to cheating with one guy. And is just a personality flaw in another.
Youre saying its started after 2 years of marriage? Youre saying he's going out more? Did any of this start after you started losing weight? Men really are just an insecure as we are0 -
Told ya!Youre saying its started after 2 years of marriage? Youre saying he's going out more? Did any of this start after you started losing weight? Men really are just an insecure as we are0 -
He is going out a lot lately and he put a password on his cell phone. You don't really think he's cheating, do you? He tells me he loves me.
There could be a million things going on in his head. Sit down and have a heart to heart and clear the air.. let him know your concerns, and find out what's going on. Tell him that his behavior seems peculiar to you, and you want to know what's up. If he really loves you, he'll tell you what's the deal. You may want to lead your w/your questions a little bit, but try not to make any assumptions or lay blame anywhere.0
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