Why your opinion isn’t always necessary

Mechel79
Mechel79 Posts: 99 Member
edited October 5 in Chit-Chat
My understanding is this community is dedicated to offering a friendly environment… Often when I open a post that has a specific question or tip there are tons of negatives. I totally understand if it’s just a generalized topic (have at it) but really is it necessary to put a damper on things- makes me not want to add to any post and too me that is defeating the entire purpose of this site.
Just seriously, be aware of the mood. If everyone else is all “Hell Yeah THIS!” and then you go, “No no! I’m for THAT!” out of nowhere, it just feels a little odd, you know?

You don’t have to “weigh in” on everything.
Unless you can edify…
Unless you can educate…
Unless you can encourage…

OK done venting---

Replies

  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    This post sucks









    :smile:
  • anikab
    anikab Posts: 150 Member
    I like this post. I don't want to start anything so that's all I'm going to say. But I agree.
  • Tori_356
    Tori_356 Posts: 510 Member
    This post sucks









    :smile:

    lol....


    its the internet, thats what people do! not saying its right...just..saying. you have a valid point!
  • Mechel79
    Mechel79 Posts: 99 Member
    Glad you were able to find some humor in my ranting :happy:
  • Classalete
    Classalete Posts: 464 Member
    u mad? ;]
  • sexygenius
    sexygenius Posts: 1,078 Member
    IMO my opinion is ALWAYS necessary... lol
  • 3GKnight
    3GKnight Posts: 203
    Rule #3 of the internet: A lot of people think anonymity gives them the right to be jerks.
  • drog2323
    drog2323 Posts: 1,343 Member
    My understanding is this community is dedicated to offering a friendly environment… Often when I open a post that has a specific question or tip there are tons of negatives. I totally understand if it’s just a generalized topic (have at it) but really is it necessary to put a damper on things- makes me not want to add to any post and too me that is defeating the entire purpose of this site.
    Just seriously, be aware of the mood. If everyone else is all “Hell Yeah THIS!” and then you go, “No no! I’m for THAT!” out of nowhere, it just feels a little odd, you know?

    You don’t have to “weigh in” on everything.
    Unless you can edify…
    Unless you can educate…
    Unless you can encourage…

    OK done venting---

    yep...can't spend too much time on the boards....
  • leslielt
    leslielt Posts: 113 Member
    I think people want others opinions or they wouldn't ask the question.
  • jakejacobsen
    jakejacobsen Posts: 584 Member
    just weighing in
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    My understanding is this community is dedicated to offering a friendly environment… Often when I open a post that has a specific question or tip there are tons of negatives. I totally understand if it’s just a generalized topic (have at it) but really is it necessary to put a damper on things- makes me not want to add to any post and too me that is defeating the entire purpose of this site.
    Just seriously, be aware of the mood. If everyone else is all “Hell Yeah THIS!” and then you go, “No no! I’m for THAT!” out of nowhere, it just feels a little odd, you know?

    You don’t have to “weigh in” on everything.
    Unless you can edify…
    Unless you can educate…
    Unless you can encourage…

    OK done venting---

    You do realize this is just your opinion
  • Mechel79
    Mechel79 Posts: 99 Member
    I think people want others opinions or they wouldn't ask the question.

    If ppl are asking for an opinion that is different. I taking about post that say " i am taking this medication anybody also taking it please add me" or" I am starting this program " ect..... the unwanted or unwarranted comments aren't necessary
  • engineman312
    engineman312 Posts: 3,450 Member
    just weighing in

    you shouldn't weigh in every day. thats bad for you. and don't lift. you'll build crazy muscle.
  • Mechel79
    Mechel79 Posts: 99 Member
    My understanding is this community is dedicated to offering a friendly environment… Often when I open a post that has a specific question or tip there are tons of negatives. I totally understand if it’s just a generalized topic (have at it) but really is it necessary to put a damper on things- makes me not want to add to any post and too me that is defeating the entire purpose of this site.
    Just seriously, be aware of the mood. If everyone else is all “Hell Yeah THIS!” and then you go, “No no! I’m for THAT!” out of nowhere, it just feels a little odd, you know?

    You don’t have to “weigh in” on everything.
    Unless you can edify…
    Unless you can educate…
    Unless you can encourage…

    OK done venting---

    You do realize this is just your opinion

    Ummmm your right but it's not on someone else's post, dampering their excitement
  • sweetyJ
    sweetyJ Posts: 25
    :smile: I weigh in on the forum sometimes (generally when I am bored and trying to procrastinate). I get what you mean about people's responses. I think in general, people on MFP are supportive, but of course, there ARE a lot of douche out there, but there are always douches :laugh: Just ignore them. :flowerforyou:
  • Booboo78
    Booboo78 Posts: 169
    I think people want others opinions or they wouldn't ask the question.

    If ppl are asking for an opinion that is different. I taking about post that say " i am taking this medication anybody also taking it please add me" or" I am starting this program " ect..... the unwanted or unwarranted comments aren't necessary

    It depends though. If the OP is seriously thinking on embarking on a course of medication or programme that could be potentially unpleasant, destructive and simply dangerous to your health, I think people should certainly point it out, even if the OP gets offended.

    I'd rather feel offended than end up in hospital or worse....
  • leslielt
    leslielt Posts: 113 Member
    @UponThisRock your pic and name are hilarious
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    My understanding is everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
  • jakejacobsen
    jakejacobsen Posts: 584 Member
    well thank you for your wonderful advice
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,455 Member
    Sometimes we tire of all the threads complaining about pretty much nothing.

    Start threads to edify… educate....encourage.






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  • Mechel79
    Mechel79 Posts: 99 Member
    I think people want others opinions or they wouldn't ask the question.

    If ppl are asking for an opinion that is different. I taking about post that say " i am taking this medication anybody also taking it please add me" or" I am starting this program " ect..... the unwanted or unwarranted comments aren't necessary

    It depends though. If the OP is seriously thinking on embarking on a course of medication or programme that could be potentially unpleasant, destructive and simply dangerous to your health, I think people should certainly point it out, even if the OP gets offended.

    I'd rather feel offended than end up in hospital or worse....

    Agreed, but there is a difference between being constructive and being negative....
  • MissFit0101
    MissFit0101 Posts: 2,382
    In my world my opinion is always necessary.. :bigsmile:
  • Mechel79
    Mechel79 Posts: 99 Member
    My understanding is everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.

    thanks for quoting me from yesterday! This is very true- It does give me a better understanding- there are two kinds of ppl in life contributors and contaminators- I want to do all I can within my power to be a contributor
  • taso42
    taso42 Posts: 8,980 Member
    Nothing here is really necessary. Counting calories isn't necessary. This forum isn't necessary.

    Yet, if I saw someone post, "I have taken a habit of putting mashed potatoes in my car's gas tank and driving it blindfolded. Anyone else like to put mashed potatoes in their gas tank", I would most likely not be able to help but to reply and suggest that mashed potatoes in the gas tank is not the best way to fuel a car.
  • shanolap
    shanolap Posts: 1,204 Member
    Nothing here is really necessary. Counting calories isn't necessary. This forum isn't necessary.

    Yet, if I saw someone post, "I have taken a habit of putting mashed potatoes in my car's gas tank and driving it blindfolded. Anyone else like to put mashed potatoes in their gas tank", I would most likely not be able to help but to reply and suggest that mashed potatoes in the gas tank is not the best way to fuel a car.

    And driving blindfolded is detrimental to your fitness goals.
  • leslielt
    leslielt Posts: 113 Member
    I think people want others opinions or they wouldn't ask the question.

    If ppl are asking for an opinion that is different. I taking about post that say " i am taking this medication anybody also taking it please add me" or" I am starting this program " ect..... the unwanted or unwarranted comments aren't necessary

    It depends though. If the OP is seriously thinking on embarking on a course of medication or programme that could be potentially unpleasant, destructive and simply dangerous to your health, I think people should certainly point it out, even if the OP gets offended.

    I'd rather feel offended than end up in hospital or worse....

    I agree.

    @ Mechel79 there are people out there who are somewhat mean at times but for the most part everyone is pretty nice. Also some are being sarcastic and others take them seriously and go off.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,026 Member
    My understanding is this community is dedicated to offering a friendly environment… Often when I open a post that has a specific question or tip there are tons of negatives. I totally understand if it’s just a generalized topic (have at it) but really is it necessary to put a damper on things- makes me not want to add to any post and too me that is defeating the entire purpose of this site.
    Just seriously, be aware of the mood. If everyone else is all “Hell Yeah THIS!” and then you go, “No no! I’m for THAT!” out of nowhere, it just feels a little odd, you know?

    You don’t have to “weigh in” on everything.
    Unless you can edify…
    Unless you can educate…
    Unless you can encourage…

    OK done venting---
    Well another issue is that when's it's information to educate, I've seen many an OP answer in anger. For instance when some says "I've put on 5lbs of muscle in a month" and then it's refuted by actual research that's peer reviewed to show it's not true, then the OP has a fit and starts talking like they were ransacked.


    A.C.E. Certified Personal Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • engineman312
    engineman312 Posts: 3,450 Member
    My understanding is this community is dedicated to offering a friendly environment… Often when I open a post that has a specific question or tip there are tons of negatives. I totally understand if it’s just a generalized topic (have at it) but really is it necessary to put a damper on things- makes me not want to add to any post and too me that is defeating the entire purpose of this site.
    Just seriously, be aware of the mood. If everyone else is all “Hell Yeah THIS!” and then you go, “No no! I’m for THAT!” out of nowhere, it just feels a little odd, you know?

    You don’t have to “weigh in” on everything.
    Unless you can edify…
    Unless you can educate…
    Unless you can encourage…

    OK done venting---
    Well another issue is that when's it's information to educate, I've seen many an OP answer in anger. For instance when some says "I've put on 5lbs of muscle in a month" and then it's refuted by actual research that's peer reviewed to show it's not true, then the OP has a fit and starts talking like they were ransacked.


    A.C.E. Certified Personal Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 28+ years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    how DARE you not tell someone exactly what they want to hear? this is the internet, good sir. i say "good day" to you.
  • leslielt
    leslielt Posts: 113 Member
    Nothing here is really necessary. Counting calories isn't necessary. This forum isn't necessary.

    Yet, if I saw someone post, "I have taken a habit of putting mashed potatoes in my car's gas tank and driving it blindfolded. Anyone else like to put mashed potatoes in their gas tank", I would most likely not be able to help but to reply and suggest that mashed potatoes in the gas tank is not the best way to fuel a car.

    And driving blindfolded is detrimental to your fitness goals.

    that depends it might help you lose a few pounds - lol
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