Body image

Rsjessen
Rsjessen Posts: 29 Member
edited October 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
I was looking through my computer the other day, checking which old pictures I wanted to save and which I didn't.
I stated looking at some from when I was perhaps 15-16 years old. It was a small photoshoot my friend took for a schoolproject, and on it I pose in a gymnasium. I remember thinking when I took the pictures that I was fat, and ugly and way too large. Looking back at them now, I can't help but wonder why?
The size I am on the pictures is what I now would consider ideal, yet back then I wanted to lose weight.

I can't help but wonder, will I ever be satisfied? Am I ever gonna look at my body and find no fat on it that I want to get rid off?

Has society really ruined me so much that I'm gonna feel fat no matter what size I am?

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  • andreahanlon
    andreahanlon Posts: 263 Member
    This time may be different since you're coming from a different starting point and can appreciate the way your body will change for the positive. ....But it's always a good idea to work on loving and accepting yourself no matter what your size! ;) You can start changing that internal dialogue now and reminding yourself of all the good things about your body as it is. Then as you lose weight, you'll have more reasons to add to the list!

    I wrote a little paragraph last night among these same thoughts (body image). It was tittled "Dear Incredibly Imperfect Body... I Love You," and the basic idea is that, love and acceptance are not always based upon merit. My body is incredibly imperfect, with stretch marks on my stomach and dimples on my *kitten*, and I accept my body anyway. Sometimes we just choose to give love to our family or our friends or others who we have long term relationships with.. The same with our bodies. It's the longest term relationship you'll ever have.
  • beckamelia1
    beckamelia1 Posts: 93 Member
    im totally the same!! for all the pics i have not one i look at and say thats nice even when i was slim. I hate everything about me been fat the most then my chin, to freckles on my arms ive an endless list i dont think ill ever love me but just except me as there is nothing i can do unless i have a full body op!!!
  • clairabell2024
    clairabell2024 Posts: 194 Member
    Im the same, i look back at photos of myself 3-4 years ago and back then i was dieting because i thought i was fat. Now im bigger and wonder why i thought that? i looked great 3-4 years ago, why didnt i just make the most of it!!

    And the same, will i ever be happy with how i look? whether im thin or fat!!

    x
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,603 Member
    I had the same issue. Pictures of myself from in my mid twenties show someone who was thin and attractive. I thought I was fat and hideous. When friends and family members started pointing out that I'd gotten too thin a little later, I thought they were crazy.

    Well, that's what I get for ever having leafed through a fashion magazine. Keep those things away from your daughters, they're poison.
  • Cosmic_Unicorn
    Cosmic_Unicorn Posts: 150 Member
    Solution? Screw society. Don't read fashion magazines, don't watch television, disregard the bombardment of advertisements everywhere. Focus on how you feel and how beautiful you are. Love your quirks. Dress your body so you feel sexy, and you will look it, because confidence IS sexy.

    I've been hearing this advice for years, and now that I've actually taken it to heart I'm a much happier person. Life is better when you're not comparing yourself to unattainable airbrushed models. For serious, guys.
  • Rsjessen
    Rsjessen Posts: 29 Member
    Thank you everybody :) glad to know I'm not alone. It's really awful that people feel like this though, they really shouldn't! It concerns me that people like Alexa Chung and Ann Ward is what is becoming an ideal woman, because that means that girls like me, who has very prominent shapes (even when I was my thinnest my hips I felt large, mostly because of my shapes) will never look thin to themselves and perhaps not even to others.

    Not unless they pull themselves together, as Cosmic mentioned. But this is a very hard thing to do, when society is against you.
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