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casseh
casseh Posts: 58
edited October 2024 in Motivation and Support
I've been a non active member for awhile now, losing weight then gaining it back on in other places. Weighing in at 113kgs I have gained about 43 kgs in 5 years. I want to lose it, I need to lose it. I'm 23, and since gaining weight my whole life has seemed to fall apart. My boyfriend is supportive to an extent, but also not so through the same ways he supports me. My two best friends are bigger girls happy with their weight, whereas I crave to fit back into those size 12-14 jeans more than anything I've felt before. I gained the weight through a combination of depression, medication and a strong lack of motivation. I say I don't want to be this way, I'm crying as I write this at the thought of always living like this, the thought of the problem getting worse but I can't even seem to start to tackle the problem. To make matters worse I was made aware of a conversation that occured between some old friends who stated they were too embarrassed to see me any more, comparing my old and new Facebook photos and said that "you know someone is fat - like really fat, when their hands are fat" and claimed a person like me couldn't lose weight without surgery. I want nothing more than to prove them wrong but it just seems impossible.

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  • bademasi
    bademasi Posts: 180 Member
    I am crying too... Your not alone. I feel sad too about how I look. I had a brain tumor removed six years ago Thanksgiving. I had a disease that made me put on about 30lbs a month eating only 1000 calories a day until they discovered it. I would have died if I had not known something was really wrong and went to an Endo Doc. I was not strong enough till now to try exercise. I was givin new replacement hormones. I dont have a pituitary gland anymore.

    I would love to be friends. I want to loose about 47lbs and I just learned of this app for my phone from my 17 year old daughter. I was writing down in a journal everything I ate and did. This is so much more fun. Add me on facebook too. Bonnie Miller-DeMasi and on here bonniedemasi

    HUGS to you....Casseh
  • Pebble321
    Pebble321 Posts: 6,423 Member
    Don't cry..... put that energy into writing down what you eat.
    That's the best way to get started - you don't even have to change anything yet, but just write it all down.
    Once you have a few days worth of your eating recorded it will start to become clear where the excess calories are coming from and you can start to make small changes - eat a better breakfast first, then change lunch, then work on snacks, dinner etc.
    And get a bit of exercise in there - walking is a great way to get going but if you have a wii or like to dance then that is even more fun!
    And don't set yourself unrealistic goals (I started by setting my goal to lose 1/2 a pound a week which meant I was still eating plenty, didn't feel deprived and it was easy to start with small changes and gradually improve my eating).
    Good luck!
  • casseh
    casseh Posts: 58
    Thank you. This is a lot more enjoyable than doing it Aline, especially when your friends don't offer the support you would expect. They wonder how someone can let themselves get thus way, but it's not always a consious choice, the choice tochange it is however, it's a choice I want to make but am struggling to. Food offers too much comfort, an easy escape, exercise seems impossible. I hate this. Their words just keep sticking in my mind... Like they were surprised your hands could get fat. Yet she's always been overweight herself.
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