Dealing with grief :-(

*hugs*

I am so very sorry. I think the best way to deal with the grief is to honor it. Mourn for your loss, then you will be able to move on. Another thought is to use things that will lift you up to deal with the grief. Excercise and healthful eating will bring you through mourning, it will lift you up.

First of all, I cannot express how sorry I am for your loss. These things are impossible to explain and therefore impossible to accept. You did not deserve this, and I can't imagine how difficult it is.

I have not had to deal with anything to that scale, but I am absolutely here if you want to talk. I'm so sorry love, please stay strong. I'm sending prayers and positive energy your way.

My deepest condolances to you! What a horrible, horrible situation.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks, before my oldest was born, so it was 23 years ago. But it still gives my a pang in my heart when I think about that little one.

Grieve for your son, allow yourself that. Take as long as you need. It is not something that will just disappear overnight, but the grief will lessen over time. Be angry....and then accept it.

People won't know what to say to you, and you will hear some really out there stuff...just remember that they are only trying to help.

Trying to get back to normal is wonderful. You will have good days and some really bad ones, but by keep living and moving foward with your life you can and will feel normal again.

Your son will always remain in your heart. A nice keepsake is to get a necklace with a heart, that you can wear so you will always have him close.

Big HUGS!!!!!! to you.

First of all, I'm SO sorry for your loss. Losing a baby is very difficult. My sister lost her full term baby and it tore her to pieces. The best piece of advice I can offer to you is to go see a counselor. Grief is a very complicated process and sometimes it's tough for our close friends and family to understand that we go through each stage in different lengths of time. Lots of people think you should be "over" it in like 6 months, but you can't put a timeframe on those kinds of things. In all brutal honesty, you won't ever just get over losing your son. But as time goes by, the pain eases.

Also, allow yourself to feel the pain of losing your baby boy. I'm not saying to go indulge in unhealthy treats, but allow yourself a good hard cry when you need it. If you're like me, it's best to do this alone...but if you're comfortable losing it around your close friends and family, that's even better. Allowing yourself to feel each stage of grief will actually help you deal with it better in the long run. And when you hit the "anger" stage, a good hard workout always helps me.

I know there isn't anything that can be said or done to make you feel any better right now...the most comforting thing I heard in my major loss was that it'll get easier with time, and it certainly has. Hugs to you :flowerforyou:

My mom said it best when she told me "There are no rules when it comes to grieving. If you want to talk about it, then talk. If you want to be quiet then don't. Cry when you need too, be angry when you need to. Sleep when you need to, eat when you need to. And there will come a time when you feel a little better and thats OK too."

Thanks heaps everyone for your kind words.

I think one of the hardest parts is the fact that my body still thinks I've had a baby as I gave birth naturally so having to deal with that as well :-(

Thanks again - hugs to you all xxx

put on a tight sports bra or 2, wear it 24/7...it will help with swelling and discomfort

I'm so sorry to hear that. I have not lost a child, but have dealt with loss. A counsellor is a wonderful resource, because they will understand, and keep listening when others have turned away. It is also good to be familiar with the cycles of grief, so you can understand some of your feelings.

After my husband died, I found myself obese, old and feeling useless. Finding my way back to health through healthy behaviours and nurturing myself inside and out was helpful in the recovery process. You don't ever truly 'get over' something like you have gone through, but you eventually find a path to a modicum of peace.

Hugs, peace and light to you.

GG