Judged Based Solely on Your Weight

Today someone asked me if I've ever been discriminated against or had someone judge me based solely on my weight.

hahah Of course. You don't go through life being a fat girl and not get discriminated against based on your weight. Not in today's society anyway. Maybe if we lived in a world that was less brainwashed by the media to think that only girls who wear a size 6 and below are sexy and that anyone who is "overweight" is in serious trouble health wise. hahah But I won't get into that argument here.

In high school I had not one, not two, but three different guys over the course of 4 years tell me that they really like me and want to go out with me but their friends "wouldn't understand". Each time I was baffled by it, as I never thought of any of them in "that way" before then, we here just friends. And I never could figure out why they would even bother telling me that if they had no intention of ever doing anything about it. lol

One guy told me out of the blue, for no apparent reason, "I just want you to know, if things where different, if I thought my family and friends would understand, I would want to be with you." Pretty much the same thing was said by the other two, just worded differently. None of these guys where friends with each other and it spanned a 4 year period so I know it wasn't a game or trick (not that these guys would do that, they and I where pretty close friends).

If these guys had told me that and then tried to "get into my pants" secretly, I would understand the reasoning behind them telling me. I would know that they just wanted to secretly have sex with me without anyone knowing about it. But none of them ever tried anything. We just kept on being friends, they never made a pass at me or anything. And maybe they said that just to make me feel better about myself, but the look in their eyes and the even the pain on their faces told me that what they where saying was true. That they really did want me, want me in their lives, want to be my boyfriend, but couldn't handle knowing that there friends and family "wouldn't understand".

And of course I've had people not want to be my friend because of my weight. I've been turned down for jobs because of my weight. I get dirty looks when I go to the mall (usually it's young girls who give me the dirty looks - perhaps they are seeing their own worst nightmare lol). I've had strangers and even family members say really mean and rude things to me because of my weight. Not a week goes by that I don't get someone looking at me with a look of disgust in their eyes or on their face.

I wish it was just me. I wish I as the only one who's had to go through life like this. But it's not. It's many of you, too.

I love you all, my sisters with flabby arms, with "side rolls", with rounded faces that are "so pretty, if only you'd lose weight" (so our friends and families tell us). I'm here for you, be here for me too.


Hello, my name is Stacy and I'm a fat girl.