How to Avoid Regaining the weight

starsnyc21
starsnyc21 Posts: 436 Member
Statistics say that 85% of people will gain back all the weight they loss plus more. I will have to say I am one of those people. I have lost 30lbs of weight 2x and regained with additional pounds. I am interesting in finding out what is the secret to losing weight and keeping it off. Does anyone have any suggestions for avoiding weight gain?

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  • CMmrsfloyd
    CMmrsfloyd Posts: 2,380 Member
    For me, I plan to continue using MFP and logging my food/exercise for awhile after I get to my goal. You can re-set your goal on this site to 'maintenance' and it will help you learn how to manage your intake/output to maintain your weight without having that gain. The key is that this is a lifestyle change, not a diet. You are not just trying to drop weight, you are learning to manage it. You don't have to be all on your own after you lose the weight, you can still use the tools provided here to help you stay where you want to be and have support in the process. :-)
  • korygilliam
    korygilliam Posts: 594 Member
    Completely agree w/ CM...you can't go back to your 'old ways' after you are done. That's why it is so important to lose your weight slowly and in a healthy/realistic manner.
  • jakejacobsen
    jakejacobsen Posts: 584 Member
    It can not be a diet, it must be a life style change you can never go back to your old life style if you do you will surely return to your old self.
  • taso42
    taso42 Posts: 8,980 Member
    It can not be a diet, it must be a life style change you can never go back to your old life style if you do you will surely return to your old self.

    This
  • sweebum
    sweebum Posts: 1,060 Member
    For me? I have to keep logging not estimating and weight once a week. Anymore than a 2-5lb fluctuation, it's time to pay attention. I regained years ago simply by not paying attention and ignoring the scale even as sizes went up.
  • cindy859
    cindy859 Posts: 99 Member
    I too have lost and regained weight numerous times, this time however, I have decided to take breaks between weight loss and make sure I can maintain the loss--sure it's taking me a little longer to reach my goal but this time I am sure that I am going to keep the weight off. This method may not work for everyone but I am very comfortable with it and so far so good.
  • Jess5825
    Jess5825 Posts: 228
    It can not be a diet, it must be a life style change you can never go back to your old life style if you do you will surely return to your old self.

    Agreed! I did diets like Jenny Craig, as soon as I went off I went back to my old ways and gained most of it back. I went on WW prior to going back over 300, I didn't wanna go back there. So this time it's a life change and not a diet.
  • grassette
    grassette Posts: 976 Member
    I love the tools here. Balancing exercise with calorie intake is not something you can find everywhere. This is a life-long exercise as far as I am concerned. Don't want to gain it all back the way I did last time. And it does not take much. Just an extra 100 calories per day can do it.
  • I agree with et.al....you can't go back to your 'old ways'. Lose the weight slowly and in a healthy/realistic manner. it must be a life style change you can never go back to your old life style if you do you will surely return to your old self and even become worse like the research shows. Even scripture says a man who cleanse his house and leaves it unattended becomes seven times worse. This is why you need to change your mind set too. IE. VICES what caused you to start eating ALL those comfort foods in the first place? Trauma? Drama? To FEEL what? SOMETHING? Thats why you have to walk in forgiveness daily, let stuff go, not get angry and upset about life, people, situations. Monitor what and why you are putting food into your mouth.
  • kit_katty
    kit_katty Posts: 992 Member
    I agree that it's a lifestyle change. Not sure if I'm going to keep logging, but I'd definitely keep an eye on the scale and start looking at my habits if I start to creep back up again.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    I am in the process of maintaining my weight loss now, I have gained 4 lbs over the past 3 months only.
    I still don't eat cakes, and candies, sweets, try to stick to coconut oil and pure olive oil for my fats. I watch my carb intake very closely and try to pay attention to what food does to me. If it makes me bloat, irritable, or want to over eat I try to stay a way from it or substitute it with something else. I feel that reaching my goal although difficult is half the battle, keeping it off is the most important part.
    I also feel that if my body stays at this weight for at least 6 months, it will become used to it and I may be able to relax the rules a bit. I will find out when I get there.
    Exercise, is a big part of maintaining and making my body beautiful. I don't like being sore, so I do lighter exercises and build up my muscle slowly then up it some more.
    I wear beautiful clothes that make me feel great, so that I want to stay this size and am willing to fight to stay this size.
    I took pics of my self and hung them on the fridge for me to see and help remind me of my accomplishment so I don't go back.
    I hope this helps.
  • katkins3
    katkins3 Posts: 1,359 Member
    I have read on MFP that maintenance is harder than losing weight and believe it to be true.
    When you are losing weight there is the excitement of meeting goals and getting noticed.
    When you reach goal there is more attention, the feeling of accomplishment and often a new wardrobe.
    BUT, the months go by, the compliments slow and fade. Everyone is used to how you look. You can only use so many new clothes. Then What???
    New types of goals may help, like improving running time and distance. New activities help, maybe yoga or dancing. This is a problem I have been thinking about quite a bit. I'm working on non-weight goals and hobbies to head off the boredom that leads back to eating. I'm no where near my goal, so I have lots of time to plan.
    I'm glad this is My Fitness Pal and not My Weight Loss Pal. There is so much more to fitness than a number on a scale.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    I don't think I can ever stop watching what I eat, it is just too much of a risk. I worked so hard to get here and I love where I am.
  • shydaisi
    shydaisi Posts: 788 Member
    This is why I do not eliminate anything from my diet -- I just eat anything in moderation. I feel that when food is eliminated, it must be eliminated for life, or else the weight will reappear once the eliminated food is indulged in. I also plan on continuing to incorporate exercise into my weekly routine. With exercise, even if I do over-indulge, I can counteract the extra calories with the burn.

    I agree with others that this must be a lifestyle change, not a "diet" or temporary reorganization of habits.
  • LeonaB17
    LeonaB17 Posts: 304
    For me - the main thing is Never Ever Ever Ever No Matter What Never Give Up and quit! For years I would lose 30 gain back 50, lose 40 gain back 60 - lose 20 gain back 30 - and so on and so forth. What has made the difference is I told myself no matter what this time I would never quit. I was at 327 lbs, worked hard for 6 months, dropped 40 pounds. Then - I went on a long vacation and gained back 20 pounds!!! The old me would have thrown in the towel but I got back on the horse and 6 months later I had lost those 20 I gained back plus another 20 -for 60 total. The weight loss slowed down - but I eventually got to 100 lost - which was great - but then I hit a road bump again and gained back 30. That's when I joined mfp - and I've lost those 30 plus some and have been doing very well. Nobody said this had to be perfect - and I have learned from my mistakes over the years and the biggest thing I learned was to never give up. Even if I do gain a little back here or there (or a lot -although I hope that doesn't happen again) - I will never ever quit.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    Continue to exercise and watch your calories.
  • H_Factor
    H_Factor Posts: 1,722 Member
    it is totally a mindset. things interfere with your focus on the healthy lifestyle journey and one of those things is complacency. From my own past failures with losing weight and gaining it back, I've taken time this year to reflect on the reasons for my past failures. It was upon reflection that I understood how and when the complacency creep and other mental stumbling blocks wreaked havoc with my journey. My past failures have led to reflection. My reflections have led to written lists. I believe my written lists will help me stay focused this time around. Here's a link to my will power pill blog for your consideration.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/H_Factor/view/recipe-for-a-will-power-pill-for-help-with-the-mental-part-of-the-journey-155978
  • starsnyc21
    starsnyc21 Posts: 436 Member
    I am in the process of maintaining my weight loss now, I have gained 4 lbs over the past 3 months only.
    I still don't eat cakes, and candies, sweets, try to stick to coconut oil and pure olive oil for my fats. I watch my carb intake very closely and try to pay attention to what food does to me. If it makes me bloat, irritable, or want to over eat I try to stay a way from it or substitute it with something else. I feel that reaching my goal although difficult is half the battle, keeping it off is the most important part.
    I also feel that if my body stays at this weight for at least 6 months, it will become used to it and I may be able to relax the rules a bit. I will find out when I get there.
    Exercise, is a big part of maintaining and making my body beautiful. I don't like being sore, so I do lighter exercises and build up my muscle slowly then up it some more.
    I wear beautiful clothes that make me feel great, so that I want to stay this size and am willing to fight to stay this size.
    I took pics of my self and hung them on the fridge for me to see and help remind me of my accomplishment so I don't go back.
    I hope this helps.

    Great suggestions here. Thanks!
  • hummingbird71
    hummingbird71 Posts: 298 Member
    I think once I reach the "maintain train" it will be a little harder but I don't see it as a huge problem. I do enjoy getting all the compliments from my family members, but for someone that has ALWAYS been on the heavy side of the scale all my life, will enjoy myself once I reach my goal! My extended family knows how hard I have worked so far to get to where I am now because they have seen me all my life as the "heavy one". So once I reach my goal and STAY AT THAT WEIGHT for a long period of time they will see how dedicated I am to not being the "heavy one" ever again! Plus I will get rid of my "bigger" clothes as I go so I don't use that as a crutch (well IF I gain the weight back I will have some clothes to wear). Nope not me not going to do that! As I shrink out of them they are going to the consignment shop here in town! Then once I get some $$ for them I will get me some "new-used" clothes from there in the correct size I need. Darned and determined to make it work and keep it working for me!
  • Diets do NOT work; lifestyle change does. I have kept off my weight for going on 21 months now. Calories in versus calories out. It is that simple.
  • starsnyc21
    starsnyc21 Posts: 436 Member
    it is totally a mindset. things interfere with your focus on the healthy lifestyle journey and one of those things is complacency. From my own past failures with losing weight and gaining it back, I've taken time this year to reflect on the reasons for my past failures. It was upon reflection that I understood how and when the complacency creep and other mental stumbling blocks wreaked havoc with my journey. My past failures have led to reflection. My reflections have led to written lists. I believe my written lists will help me stay focused this time around. Here's a link to my will power pill blog for your consideration.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/H_Factor/view/recipe-for-a-will-power-pill-for-help-with-the-mental-part-of-the-journey-155978


    This is a great. Thanks for sharing
  • Hi there,
    I've lost considerable weight recently and certainly don't want to gain it back again. I believe that the secret is to remember why you lost the weight in the first place. Remember what the drive was and remember the effort that you did to lose the weight. Keep the drive in mind and never lose sight of your goals.

    Ryan
    Zdiets.net - Lost 170lbs - Hypertension GONE! - High Cholesterol GONE!
  • CMmrsfloyd
    CMmrsfloyd Posts: 2,380 Member
    I am not going to give up cake, ice cream, carbs, etc when I get to maintenance - shoot I haven't given them up at all during my weightloss and things are going just fine. The difference is that now I know how to portion out my servings so that I can eat a portion that fits into my calorie goals for the day. If I can still eat the things I like and lose weight, certainly I can still eat them and maintain, too. The key is portion control and staying close to your calorie goal. (unless you have certain medical conditions or dietary restrictions that require you to restrict certain food groups).
  • Melissaol
    Melissaol Posts: 948 Member
    I will not give up. I have come to fare. I will log my meals and workout out for ever. That way it will be a good reminder of what im eating .. ...
  • JeanneTops
    JeanneTops Posts: 2,635 Member
    I've gone through many major weight loss and regain periods in my life. When I started MFP two years and 94 pounds ago, my only goal was to not gain the weight back. I've worked hard to try and figure out why I gained the weight back in the past and how I was going to avoid it this time around.

    I agree with most of what everyone has written here with some additions. Mostly, I don't think will power is enough. Sooner or later, life is going to throw you a curveball - an injury, illness, accident, job change, house move, death in the family, divorce - nobody lives a charmed life. Time and time again, I've seen people write on these forums about something that happened to them and they gained the weight back. In stressful times it's going to be too hard to keep up an iron will about what you're eating.

    So I'm convinced that it has to be more than a lifestyle change, more than an exercise of will power. It has to be a mind transformation. You have to see yourself as a different person altogether. You're not a fat person who's lost a lot of weight. You're not a person who usually eats too much and is exercising self-control. You're a healthy-sized person who eats the way healthy-sized people eat. You have to think of yourself that way, you have to see that person in the mirror, you have to approach food that way. Don't tell people you lost weight or how much. Don't let people make a big deal about it. Just smile, say thank-you and change the subject. As much as I love it, it's not good for me to be excited about how much I've lost. I want compliments when I look good now but no more than any other healthy-sized person usually gets. I don't want them because I used to look fat. That was somebody else, it's not me now.

    Yes, I have to track everything I eat and I have to weigh myself regularly. Someplace in my brain, I'm missing the part that just naturally monitors how much I eat. I have to consciously monitor my eating, exercising and weight.

    And yes, under stress, I'll eat a big chocolate muffin but I don't feel guilty about it, I don't beat myself up about it. I just notice that I'm not as hungry for a while and I don't eat much until I feel a healthy hunger again. I have to do this by logging it all because it takes more of an effort on my part than it does other healthy-sized people.

    And I know that, sooner or later, I'm going to suffer through a stress period and I'm going to gain a few pounds. But, as one of the other posters said, that's not a reason to give up. In fact, there's nothing to give up because I am no longer a person who gains a lot of weight thoughtlessly. And the only way to not be that person when the time comes, is to work hard on believing it now.
  • stevwil41
    stevwil41 Posts: 608 Member
    "Constant Vigilance!" LOL

    Basically, once you reach your goal weight/size you can't just give up and start cramming whatever you want down your throat. I did it once before and it was ugly. Now I eat what I want within reason and splurge occasionally and I'm almost to where I want to be. One bad day or even a bad week isn't a reason to give up. Reasonably healthy, reasonably thin people have bad weeks and it doesn't turn into a tailspin for them so it doesn't have to for me either.
  • PrincessCorinne
    PrincessCorinne Posts: 9 Member
    I'll echo what the others say .. but really really hope that you can find the key, because successful Maintenance is keeping what you have been doing to lose it as a LIFE STYLE ... and I believe in accountability. Especially after watching Sunny on Biggest Loser last week with her hubby - he didn't feel comfortable telling her what he was really seeing, and now, after the show, he is going to tell her if she's slipping!!

    I lost 110 pounds and right now have gained back 50 of that loss. I'm thankful that is all that I've gained back - it's been 3 years. I've chosen this website/phone app / supporters here because I lost it the first time around by obsessing, using a personal trainer and huge numbers of hours in the gym - I just can't support THAT as my lifestyle change - to stay thin, I am going to have to learn how to eat better and how to get some exercise in without going crazy.
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