Help - what do I do?

I eat bacon. Not every day of course but I'm not giving up bacon. Just do extra 10/15 mins on the elliptical or something.
anyway here's my thought on the b/f thing. try just a bite or two. don't eat whole portions just because HE can. Have just a bite- only eat things you LOVE and want (and worth the cals) and add a few mins to your workout
Also- DON'T STRESS! it's Christmas! take it easy- you'll have all of boring January & February to work it off

I feel the same. I splurged over TG with my family (husband, 2 kids and my cousin), then was back on track all last week and just had one splurge day on Saturday. Now I've gained back three of the pounds I lost over the last six weeks! So frustrating. What works best for me (when I'm on track) is to make my own things and just say no. I know it's hard (obviously, my total weightloss is 3 friggin pounds) but we just gotta keep trying, right?

my husband is the same he can eat whatever he wants. I wish I could eat like he does and sometimes I do, still not sure what to do about it either because I have no self control.

I have the same problem with my husband. He told me the other night when I said I was making stir fry "Just because you are making changes don't expect me too. You still have to cook for my needs also".

My husband told me the same thing. I didn't get mad though. Just because weight-loss is my goal, doesn't mean it has to be his goal too. I cook healthy dinner & if he wants to buy/make junk instead, go for it. I still buy chips & pop for him, I just don't eat much of it. It is a challange, but the more you do it, the easier it becomes.

My husband is in the military and is naturally just a skinny guy and can literally eat anything he wants. So I totally understand your frustrations. I can just look at a piece of pie or bag of chips and gain weight. Lol.

The cool thing about my husband is he is totally supportive of what I'm doing and is willing to eat anything and everything I make even if I am now buying low cal/fat free things such as bacon and milk and stuff like that. He doesn't mind. With your fiance having reached his goal and now "being able to eat whatever he wants" I'm sure he understands that you still have other diet needs as well. I do not see why he wouldn't want to make a plan up to suit both of your needs. Plus just because he's reached that goal, doesn't mean he can start eating stuff like that on a daily basis because sooner or later it will catch up to him. The key to losing weight isn't just eating healthy for a little while and as soon as you're where you want to be at just throw everything you've been doing out the door, you have to maintain that diet.

And don't forget everyone is allowed a cheat day once in a while, a lot of people I know have 1 a week or so. But the thing I've discovered that has helped me lose weight the most is portion control. I know my husband probably thinks I'm crazy but I literally measure everything we cook out into measuring cups so I know EXACTLY how much I'm eating.

Just talk to him, I'm sure he'll understand! Best of luck to you on your journey!

I was doing so well with my weight loss, but with Christmas coming up (He ADORES Christmas) he insisted on doing baking for Christmas, he wanted bacon last week, we had mac and cheese last week as well...essentially, he's splurging this year.

I eat things like bacon, mac & cheese, and baked goods. I just fit them into my calories for the day. Why can't you eat these foods?

I agree, I eat these things too, it's just all about portion control, which seems to be many people's problems.

First off, I doubt the 5 lbs you gained was all fat - you would have had to eaten a TON of calories for that to happen. It's probably mostly water weight from extra sodium with those kinds of foods. Second, you can have all of those foods, just in moderation. Log your foods so you know exactly how many calories you are eating and make sure you are drinking your water to help flush everything out. And don't stress - it's not good for your body.

I feel your pain, My fiance is tiny and can eat whatever he wants but doesn't like a lot of vegetables. I end up making low calorie things in the crockpot with the hopes that he will like it and then he always eats 2-3 times the portion size i do. It's hard not to eat the things they make but I just make room for it. I'm sure some of the weight you gained was water weight from all the sodium so don't worry too much.

We can't change them too because they don't really need it. We can however, ask them to support us and not give us a hard time.

I And for the poster who has the husband unwilling to change, does he not know how to cook his own meals? Sorry to be B!tch Pudding, ladies, but when the support is lacking, something else sounds like it may be lacking as well, even if it’s simple consideration.

Actually, no, he can't cook his own meals. For the first time in his entire life, he is 47, he made his first grilled cheese two days ago, burned but he did it. He can basically use the microwave and cook a frozen pizza, half the time burnt, in the oven. It's sad but he always ate out when he was single. He loses track of time and doesn't bother cooking. I was shocked this morning when he made himself toast. I have only seen him use a toaster once before. I didn't mean to sound so harsh on my husband. He says he supports me and he knows how important it is for me to lose this weight so we can have a baby and I can be healthy. He just is terrible when it comes to food. I worry about him. He will go through McDonald's and order 6 Double Stacks and fries. Or get two large pizzas and eat them both. I hope to influence him with my progress.

I And for the poster who has the husband unwilling to change, does he not know how to cook his own meals? Sorry to be B!tch Pudding, ladies, but when the support is lacking, something else sounds like it may be lacking as well, even if it’s simple consideration.

Actually, no, he can't cook his own meals. For the first time in his entire life, he is 47, he made his first grilled cheese two days ago, burned but he did it. He can basically use the microwave and cook a frozen pizza, half the time burnt, in the oven. It's sad but he always ate out when he was single. He loses track of time and doesn't bother cooking. I was shocked this morning when he made himself toast. I have only seen him use a toaster once before. I didn't mean to sound so harsh on my husband. He says he supports me and he knows how important it is for me to lose this weight so we can have a baby and I can be healthy. He just is terrible when it comes to food. I worry about him. He will go through McDonald's and order 6 Double Stacks and fries. Or get two large pizzas and eat them both. I hope to influence him with my progress.

Well now, that sounds okay. Sad that he never learned how to cook, but I imagine there are both men and women who either don't know or aren't very good at it. Sorry I sounded so harsh, too. I've just read a lot of posts about some very unsupportive spouses/partners and always wonder what the root cause of the attitude may be.